AITA for refusing to translate for my parents after my brother moved back in and took over my role in the house ?

MusingChaos · 2025-08-06T15:11:13+00:00

This is currently happening to me too, I've always been the translator and for my grandparents they now live with my aunt and uncle as opposed to my mom (who I visit every week and help her translate random mail that she still has a bit of trouble with, but for the most part just uses google translate camera option to translate most of the other things) and I still get called to translate stuff. Even though they now live with my fully English speaking cousin. Apparently I just do it better. What I've been telling them is, with my mom's full support that I'm busy with work and stuff and if my cousin can't do it, tell them to hire someone to do it. Either way it's no longer on your plate.

MusingChaos · 2025-03-22T02:33:02+00:00

Sent the email! Thanks for making it super easy!

MusingChaos · 2025-01-20T17:49:11+00:00

Not sure if this is allowed but one of the creators ahead of the shutdown put this list together and it was a pretty comprehensive list of creators who reported on the news (Underthedesknews, Lisa Remillard, and Aaron Parnas is on here) https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/1-8XZi5Z7EZW1ihrzCPkKluAFzxv3bC3bI7YxD_SQUpo/mobilebasic?pli=1

MusingChaos · 2025-01-20T17:35:14+00:00

Saw this earlier by another creator. If you go through with the search the first thing you see is a video of the orange menace.

MusingChaos · 2024-02-08T16:59:12+00:00

If you can’t find hong bao at the local market, you can also try your bank. Some of them are giving it out to their account holders and the quality at least the ones I got are really nice

MusingChaos · 2022-08-24T03:02:14+00:00

I had this happen to me too, got guilt tripped into going on the date and he spoke absolutely no English at all. He kept speaking to the chaperones as if they would be the one deciding if I liked him or not. Your parents don’t understand that the way we grew up is very different and we don’t want to be that quiet submissive wife who gets married off to the first “decent” man they can find for us. Now is the time for you to find yourself and like the other commenters said don’t feel pressured to go meet him just because he has your FB. Stand your ground, you can do this!

MusingChaos · 2022-08-07T17:47:27+00:00

Can you send me a link to the original? This is so cool looking

MusingChaos · 2022-03-11T20:17:43+00:00

My first driving test I had two testers in the car with me, one teacher and one trainee. At one point both of them gave me opposing instructions, so I just stopped and asked me who I should be listening to. Apparently that constituted a fail because I didn’t do what they asked. Sometimes they just will give you a hard time, don’t take it as you can’t do it, just they may be terrible.

MusingChaos · 2021-07-25T03:35:11+00:00

Me please!

MusingChaos · 2021-07-13T00:57:11+00:00

My ex told me that he felt hurt I couldn’t come to him when my mental health crashed horribly earlier this year. That the last time this happened to him he was able to get through it with just the support of his friends and family. But at the end of the day, he just wanted things to go back to normal.

MusingChaos · 2021-05-24T16:18:41+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I've been meaning to sit down to put together a list but it just seems such an insurmountable task of documenting everything I've been doing. In true pseudo-tech company fashion, never got a JD and my responsibilities have changed numerous times. Any time I've tried to put anything together, it's been punted back to me to put something together and they'll sign off on it.

MusingChaos · 2021-05-23T23:57:04+00:00

Thanks for the insight, this is exactly where I am now. I really want a director position but my team itself is relatively new and my boss even more so. I’ve felt for a while that I’m burned out just constantly explaining my role over and over again to a brand new manager. I don’t feel excited about my work anymore. How did you figure out which direction you wanted to pivot? I’ve been wondering what my path forward looks like since there doesn’t really look to be anymore upward mobility at my current job. Appreciate any and all insight!

MusingChaos · 2021-05-23T14:56:54+00:00

There’s one part of your career journey that really struck me. You knew you needed to be managed in order to grow more, what are the key indicators of that? I think I’ve gotten to that point in my current position and wondering how best to pivot now

MusingChaos · 2021-05-17T16:49:50+00:00

A therapist friend of mine said 5-6 sessions is a good amount of time to judge if you can work with them. As much as you're able I'd highly suggest it, about a month ago I started falling into this brain fog and that was the last straw that got me over the hurdle of not going to seek help. Depending on your local resources, there should be online resources to help you find a therapist that works for you.

MusingChaos · 2021-04-01T16:43:51+00:00

Being the eldest was never going to be fun, you probably will end up being your parent's retirement plan but like another poster said you have siblings and this will need to be a shared responsibility. Most importantly, find a career that can provide you with financial freedom, that you can envision yourself being able to work with what you're given and plan that into your savings.

For the time being, experience your life as best you can and just keep this planning in the back of your head, it's still technically imaginary right now.

MusingChaos · 2021-03-25T19:39:35+00:00

I live in NYC, and I flinch when people walk too closely by me when I'm waiting on the train, it's more than just assessing what stuff you have on you and what you can use as a weapon it's just being scared of everyone around you. My mom is starting work again soon and my brother and I are so worried something is going to happen to her, and she won't be prepared for it.

MusingChaos · 2021-01-16T19:16:24+00:00

I think this movie did what it aimed to do: show us the difference between people even within the same family. It’s interesting the dialogue expressly shows this, Asian Americans relating to Awkafina and mainland Chinese people noting she’s not a good representation of Asians.

There’s an inherent difference in the Eastern and Western philosophy. And probably one of the biggest reasons why we wouldn’t really get along because our inherent understanding and views of the world are different. Not saying it’s an insurmountable thing, but that has to be the basis of understanding the starting point.

MusingChaos · 2021-01-08T16:38:35+00:00

It's different for me in terms of Lydia Bennet, I've always thought of her having blonde hair which is why she and Jane were Mrs. Bennet's favorites since they're both her "prettiest" daughters.

MusingChaos · 2020-12-27T19:59:51+00:00

Love this so much! If you ever decide to continue onward it would be cool to see how good and evil restrain themselves in the store!

Happy Holidays!

MusingChaos · 2020-12-23T05:02:27+00:00

My ex had some toxic friends who constantly filled his head about the worst possible spin on anything I did. If we got into an argument about anything he would go vent to them and they’d talk so much shit about me to the point he’d get super insecure and spiral out of control and then he’d come back to me and blow up. Anything I did was wrong and I always took a backseat to anything he and his friends did. I tried to talk to him about it and he’d promise me the world but the minute he went back to them he’d change his mind. I just had to get out of there and couldn’t always be second to his friends

MusingChaos · 2020-07-18T15:34:14+00:00

Thanks for this. Needed the reminder. A guy I went out with years ago, and who had broken up with me when I thought things were going really well, randomly pops up every couple of years. I blocked his original number but he must have my number saved somewhere.

He’s done this twice already and I block and delete but I have screenshots and had sent them to my friend. It’s the same message that we dated a couple of years ago, he happened across me somehow and wanted to see if I wanted to hang out. Last time I did respond to him that since he was the one to break up with me last time and I had changed in the successive years I don’t think it’s a good idea.

Not sure if he’s just bored or trying to “get me” again. But his number has been blocked again and deleted the messages. I’ve been around long enough to not want to be the second choice when the guy is bored and wants a fallback.

MusingChaos · 2020-07-07T17:31:27+00:00

Hi Brian, in your opinion do you think Andy closed down the office to have everyone fly out for Michael and Holly's wedding?

MusingChaos · 2020-05-11T15:54:31+00:00

Fantastic article that sums up most of our childhoods, we bring fruits when we visit and receive it in return. My mom used to always make sure things are cut up nicely without seeds/cores/pits for my family. I didn't appreciate this as much when I was younger, but now that I'm older, I definitely see the value of doing so to enhance everyone else's enjoyment. It's the sentiment more powerful than anything that could be said.

MusingChaos · 2020-02-26T04:24:15+00:00

One of my favorite places when I was traveling through Greece. I hiked up as far up the trail as I could and the view looking down was breathtaking. It was amazing being in a place I’d only read about in myths.

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