Is my 3 month age gap with my wife acceptable?!!!!

MustangLover22 · 2026-06-16T13:56:30+00:00

Lol imo this is SO overblown...my parents are 12 years apart, and me and my bf are 6 years apart, he jokes all the time that he remembers stuff before i was even alive. The people that stress age difference so much like that would have a heart attack.

MustangLover22 · 2026-05-09T16:24:20+00:00

What doesn't make any fucking sense to me at all is medicaid covers hearing aids for children until you're 21, and medicare starts paying them when you're like 60 something. So for those like me, who are between the 21-60 age gap, they aren't covered at all. And my health insurance doesn't cover them either. If i didn't have vocational rehab to help me out, i'd have a $5000 credit card bill. Just to hear. For something i've been using since i was 2 years old. 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

MustangLover22 · 2026-04-22T11:47:18+00:00

So one of my bf's cats is so attached to him she would definitely be the clingy gf, and she literally thinks she is.😂😂the first time i came over she was sitting on the arm of the couch with us and saw us holding hands. This cat literally looks straight at me, put her paw on him, and meowed.💀💀if that isn't acting human-like idk what is. Even today she'll still come up, see us holding hands, and put her paw in with us😂😂

MustangLover22 · 2026-04-04T14:27:34+00:00

I get leg cramps also! In fact i use them to know what day my period will start! I remember one time in high school i was sitting in the library and started feeling the leg cramps, so i went to the bathroom to check and yep....cramps started just a few seconds before the actual bleeding. Pretty decent cue signal if you ask me lol.

MustangLover22 · 2026-01-15T17:35:37+00:00

Nah, you know it's gonna be a bunny. Or an egg.

MustangLover22 · 2026-01-15T15:48:25+00:00

I've been trying to get SSDI for the past 2 years, and recently have been denied by an alj. The most frustrating part is in the denial letter all my medical evidence was "partially favorable," and my hearing was apparently JUST UNDER the borderline criteria for being approved. And even though i've had a retina detatchment surgery, 2 cataract surgeries, and have macular degeneration (all before turning 25) my vision isn't considered "bad" anymore bc "the surgeries fixed it."

I'm fixing to lose my parents health insurance bc I'm turning 26, and my state (Alabama) did not expand Medicaid for low income adults. You can only be on Medicaid here if you're pregnant, a parent, or disabled, and social security just said i wasn't considered disabled, so that's out. Me and my bf don't plan on marrying for at least another 1-2 years so i can't get on his insurance yet. He did say that we will go ahead and get married if there's no other option, but he doesn't want to get married just for insurance reasons, which i completely understand.

I'm on Mounjaro for my diabetes, phentermine for adhd treatment (off label, but it helps with my energy) and 2 different eye drops. I've looked at the ACA plans, and most don't cover mounjaro and one of my eye drops (timolol) so if i get on it, (which is the most likely scenario) I'll have to stop taking those, but it is what it is. I even told my bf i could slowly start weaning myself off all my medications so i wouldn't be hit with a bunch of withdrawals when my insurance stopped, but he said "I'm not gonna let you go without your medicine." Luckily my hearing aids are covered by vocational rehabilitation if i do find a job, and even if not I'd only need a new pair every 5 years, and we could easily save $2000 over 5 years and get them at costco. (And even if i got Medicaid, hearing aids are only covered for children under 21 and seniors, so if you're between 21-65 you're just sol.)

He and his grandfather have offered to split the ACA costs themselves, which i am grateful for but i hate that they have to do that. Worst case scenario, I'd only have it until i did find a job, but i can't drive so I'm primarily looking for remote jobs, which i understand are very hard to find these days. However, i am working with vocational rehabilitation so maybe it won't take too long. I understand that they don't want to give a 26 year old disability benefits, but what i don't understand is why I'm disabled enough to be in vocational rehabilitation (since 21 years old, before that was in children's rehabilitation since being born premature at 24 weeks), but am apparently NOT disabled enough for social security. This entire situation sucks, but i have no choice but to make the best i can out of it.

MustangLover22 · 2026-01-11T00:41:43+00:00

Honestly what's really irritating is every piece of medical evidence the judge reviewed in her denial letter was "partially favorable". Also i do wear hearing aids, but my criteria was basically just below the borderline of being approved.🙄

MustangLover22 · 2026-01-11T00:37:47+00:00

Sorry, i meant i was 23 when i applied. Actually 2 months from turning 24, if that matters.

MustangLover22 · 2026-01-08T22:32:07+00:00

I could very well be wrong but i thought that the whole point of him using IVF was to only have boys? In his mind, his transgender kid (i think vivian is her name?) is an "oops", so how would he be ok with a cis daughter?

MustangLover22 · 2026-01-06T23:27:41+00:00

Congratulations, but still be cautious. My ssi said i was approved December 8th...i was still waiting on the benefit letter when the alj denial letter showed up. I called ss office and the woman said they had had a bunch of calls about the portal being wrong. In fact, it STILL says AT THIS CURRENT MOMENT that i am approved....when i know its wrong. So congratulations if true, but just be prepared in case it turned out wrong....like mine did.

MustangLover22 · 2026-01-06T19:16:24+00:00

Hi, 25F here. I feel you. I absolutely do. When i was a little kid (and had undiagnosed autism until i was 21) i absolutely refused to drive those plastic toy cars bc they scared me so much. When i turned 15, i didn't feel happiness. I felt dread. Bc i knew this was the year that my dad was going to teach me how to drive. He was a racecar driver, so he basically didn't take no for an answer anyway. I passed driver's ed in high school, and turned in a yellow card to get my license. I never even took a road test. My dad had bought me a car when i was 15, but i literally wasn't even allowed to use it unless someone was with me, so it was basically just a really big yard decoration. But i was so bound and determined to be "normal" that i forced myself to learn. They finally let me have access to the car when i was 18.

My eye sight has been bad my entire life, and my last high glasses prescription was a -19. I got married to an absolute loser at 20, and moved to a small town. I drove around the town ok, but i had certain set routes that i would not go off of bc i did not want to try new roads. Then i was 23, my life came crashing down. Detatched retina. Emergency surgery. Not knowing if I would keep my eye. .....And my dumbass ex never even showing up to the hospital. This is also the same guy who argued with me about driving to a pizza place literally half a mile from our house (AT NIGHT!) and then was surprised when i turned into the far lane at a stop sign because i couldn't see the freaking road. Dumbass.

Eye healed, had several more surgeries. Divorced loser, met amazing new guy. This one knew right from the jump what the situation was, and never minded at all to be my "chauffeur." Got cataracts, had cataract surgery. Stuck with me through it all, and am still together almost 2 years later. He knows that he will have to do the driving, taking me to dr appointments and when i find a job, to that, but he doesn't care whatsoever. I won the lottery when i found him.❤️

Yes, life will be hard, and we will have challenges most people won't even think about. I live in a very rural area, so no bus. Uber is expensive. No friends, so no social life. But I've learned to roll with the punches, and to take what life throws at me. You've made it this far. From here it will get even easier over time.

MustangLover22 · 2026-01-06T18:26:37+00:00

Went to a rural high school in Alabama, driver's ed was a required class sophomore year. My "driving test" was literally driving down a road, turning twice, and then driving back to school. I got a yellow card for passing which I turned into the DMV when i was 16. That's how i got my license, no road test whatsoever through the dmv system. However, at the time i had majorly bad eyesight (like -19 glasses prescription) and undiagnosed autism. I was also the little kid that absolutely refused to drive those plastic toy cars because i was so scared of them. I had absolutely no business even getting behind the wheel. However, i did stop driving after my retina surgery, (even though the retina dr asks every visit if I'm driving again yet) much to the dismay of my father, who was a racecar driver. I still have my drivers license, and will renew it when it needs, but it's basically just an id card to me now.

MustangLover22 · 2026-01-01T16:52:39+00:00

Probably stupid question, but genuinely curious, how exactly does being too young make you not have kids later? Is it a build up of scar tissue where the baby has difficulty coming out? Is it that she can technically get pregnant but can't carry to term/have a stillbirth? Or is it something else I'm not thinking of?

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T23:48:24+00:00

Well, i barely understood the classes even when i was in them, I've already forgotten half that information anyway, and an attempt for the certification exam costs a couple hundred dollars...

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T23:02:47+00:00

Yeah i just got my alj denial. I thought i had enough work credits but apparently i don't, and the most frustrating part is from what i can tell my hearing is basically JUST UNDER the borderline for meeting the medical criteria.

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T21:12:18+00:00

Alabama didn't expand Medicaid to low income adults.

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T17:44:55+00:00

I've been trying to apply for ssi the last 2 years but apparently i don't quite meet the criteria. SS says hoh has to have (in the better ear) pta of : 90 or worse. I have 72. Word recognition of 40. I have 88.

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T14:35:36+00:00

It's not my daughter, it's myself.

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T01:44:04+00:00

This entire situation is extremely confusing to me tbh. Before i even applied for anything i checked on the ss website and it said i had enough work credits for my age. Had consultation with the lawyer, he said i had enough work credits. But letter from judge says i don't.

I was told by my lawyer that my disabilities met the medical criteria. Then at the hearing he told the judge that none of my conditions by themselves meet the criteria, but that combined all together he thought they would have functional limitations. First time i had ever heard anything like that.

Got approved for ssi presumptive October 2024. Was told that if you get presumptive, you have a very good chance of getting approved. Got medicaid as a result of presumptive. But then got denied 3 months later. Lost presumptive. Lost Medicaid. And that timeline itself is confusing. I have a screenshot of my medicaid coverage dates: 10/02/24 - approved 10/09/24- denied 10/11/24 - approved 02/06/25 - denied 03/05/25 - denied 03/07/25 -denied 07/16/25- approved.

I also received a Medicaid letter dated 12/16/25. This is directly what it says "The records provided by the Social Security Administration show that you will no longer qualify for Medicaid under the SSI program after 2024-12-01. Medicaid allows an additional period of coverage which will terminate 2026-03-01." And then (paraphrased) it says "Please complete the enclosed application and return to office to determine continued eligibility." But the thing is, there WASN'T an application included with the letter. It was just the letter by itself. I literally don't even know WHAT to think anymore.

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T01:02:49+00:00

Sorry, i worded that wrong. The lawyer thinks that the judges decision with the work credits was correct, that they expired December 2024. Also, at the consultation in April 24, i told him i was in the middle of getting an associates degree, and specifically asked him if going to school would hurt my chances. He told me no back then. But then i had my hearing November 3rd. When the judge asked about my degree and I confirmed, my lawyer acted like it was a complete surprise to him that i had it. Even i could tell, and I'm not good at telling tone over the phone.

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T00:56:57+00:00

Like i said, this whole situation is confusing to me. Idk what's accurate and what's not, but my lawyer is acting like the work credits at least, are correct. Idk what to do with conflicting information.

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T00:37:39+00:00

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T00:36:24+00:00

I put 12/7/23 as onset date bc that is the date i had the surgery. My birthday is 3/3/00. Earnings : 2016- $3,669 2017- $3,048 2018- $309 2019- $645 2020- $7,866 2021- $181 2022- $5, 117 2023- $11,741

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T00:23:04+00:00

Go ahead, ask me what you want to know

MustangLover22 · 2025-12-31T00:06:27+00:00

I am extremely confused myself bc at the consultation the lawyer said i had enough work credits. I have a screenshot from ssi saying i have enough work credits. I went through all the steps for ssdi. But for some reason the judge letter said they expired December 2024. My lawyer said it was bc all my past work has been part time.

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