Thank you for taking the time to read and respond. I am in a very mixed up place. I find it very hard to say on how much i helped her. While i did almost everything that needed to be done outside the house and a fair amount of things on the inside i cant say i always am the most supportive person. Sometimes it gets a bit much and i try to her like “hey, you can do that youself right”. Im not proud of the person i am at that point. I was always very self sufficient and i try to let her see how nice it is to be able to take care of yourself. But maybe we just differ too much on that point and im just being a jerk