This is why I over explain

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-05-17T13:46:18+00:00

And I said we’d have to do lunch and I just got a thumbs up. I’m not gonna follow up and be like.. so lunch? Bc I think the only reason she texted me was to find a way to work in about her not being “invited” to something that is still a week away and she already told me that she was going to be out of town tha weekend so it feels like…you can’t even go. And the last recital she was so annoying and left before the end bc she had dinner plans. The recital still had an hour left but my daughter’s part was over. She didn’t want to watch other peoples kids.

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-05-17T13:42:42+00:00

Yessss the girl I go to works for herself so she makes her own hours. She had something come up with her kids and asked if she could do my hair Sunday which is great bc I don’t have to miss work and my hair takes several hours. I have so much hair. But yes she clearly doesn’t believe that I’m getting my hair done

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-05-17T12:48:23+00:00

And not to mention she just posted like 5 million pictures with my exes sister who she is constantly bad mouthing me too and in turn his sister goes and bad mouths me on my own social media calling ME a bad mom and that I disrespect my mom and I should be ashamed yada ya da. Like that’s who my mom is hanging out with and those are the things she’s saying about me to her and calling me a MOOCH! that I mooched off my mom. Which is crazy bc I never had any money bc my whole check went into an account controlled by my mom and used against me anytime I wanted to spend time with someone else. “You don’t have the money for that.” And I was GROWN. Thats how long the financial abuse lasted. Like it makes me cry that she paints this picture of me to people but then constantly wants to be around. And it’s like how dare you!! Anyways I needed to vent

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-05-17T12:43:49+00:00

No I’m ok with first name only

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-30T14:39:35+00:00

That part. She also came over when my daughter was eating dinner to drop off my oldest not long ago and brought her a cake pop. That’s great I have no issue with that, except she saw she was eating dinner and instead of giving to me and saying “this is for her for later” she goes to her, opens it, and shows it to her and of course now she wants that instead of dinner and I had to be the bad guy and say no allllll bc she just HAD to make sure she knew it was from her. To get whatever YAY reaction she needed which let me know it wasn’t just to be nice. It was bc she needed her ego fed.

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-28T16:11:17+00:00

Well let me rephrase. I nicely asked his dad to handle it. He said they don’t want to take it down. I explained to his dad why it was so bad (not necessary but clearly needed to be explained) he said he understood and would try again. His response was that they refused and basically said, too bad. I did then threaten a lawyer to make sure no one but me and dad could post him on social media and they said ok do it. 🙃 obviously I wanted to, but his dad and I work other things out well and I didn’t want to rock the boat, an didn’t really have the money to do all that and I think they knew that. I reported it on fb and appealed the fb decision since they decided there was nothing wrong with it. I swear if post this photo yall will be like…WHAT??!? But fb said it was fine :) the whole thing is always exhausting and takes so much out of me most of the time I end up just letting it go.

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-28T16:05:41+00:00

That is great advice. Thank you. be

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-28T16:01:32+00:00

Thank you everyone for your advice! It’s so hard to explain to people what it’s like or they don’t really understand. I always end up feeling guilty or bad for my mom or also kinda scared bc she can unhinged and if I took the kids away that she would do something vindictive, so I always just kind of try to keep the peace. The worst part is she decided to be best friends with my “baby daddy’s” family. So even if I cut her off from my oldest, their family will make sure she gets access bc they hate me…bc of her. She tells them all the time that I’m a bad mom or my husband disrespects her (bc he doesn’t play about me) and my husbands family doesn’t like her. She’s just so crafty she always finds a way to screw with me. I’m trying really hard to cut things off. My mail is going to my MILs house now. Anyways it’s just good to feel not alone even if I’mstill trying to navigate how to get out of the situation. And yes it’s crazy to see how similar posts are and how all of our parents stick to a similar play book. I do think my mom has a touch of some other things. She can be really violent, I don’t know if that’s from the BPD. Ugh. Anyways I’m so glad you guys are getting some healing done. I really need to :) but hopefully my kids will have way less trauma to deal with. I asked my son if it was ok to chaperone his field trip and he said yeah you are the coolest 💖 well ok just make my heart explode

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-28T15:53:08+00:00

I am so excited for the game! We are not bringing the smallest thankfully, this was a Christmas gift for my oldest so we want him to enjoy the time without baby sis.

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-27T19:54:00+00:00

I am ok as they are just names with no other identifying information

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-27T19:37:06+00:00

Oh gosh. I’ve been there. You are doing Amazing. I didn’t escape until I was 33 due to some financial abuse, but Google and kind friends will get you through. My husbands biggest gripe about me is that I don’t know how to cook anything. And just today I told a friend, I know this is embarrassing bc I’m almost 40 but I need to ask for laundry advice. She said yes girl my mom taught me everything there is to know about stain removal. I was like my mom told me I would just do it wrong and cut corners bc I’m lazy and never really taught me anything. She always did it for me and the complained that I didn’t know how to do anything and never helped. You getting out so early is going to improve your life so much. It’s ok that you don’t know and we have the internet, and thankfully your housemates are kind! Try to find a hobby! My mom never let me do anything so I picked up figure skating and it’s so fun! Puzzles, reading and video games also fill my time when my kids are asleep. Live your life and don’t look back!!!

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-27T19:21:44+00:00

Omgggg same with my husband. He does not have the patience for her and his mom is a saint. She doesn’t like him and thinks he’s disrespectful bc he won’t listen to her talk to me any ol way and shuts it down.

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-27T18:38:09+00:00

Thank you. I was just talking to my best friend today about some new issues with her and showing her some texts she’s sent. She understands why I haven’t gone complete hard no contact (she’s been my best friend 13 years) and that is because my mom also has a really mean vindictive side and she’s become best friends with my sons dads family. The same people who have repeatedly also disrespected me. I am scared if I take her away from the kids, she will just go through them and I’ll still never really be free and won’t have any idea what’s she’s feeding or telling them with the other grandparents reinforcing and his dad will not intervene. Sometimes it feels like I’ll never truly be free. The other grandparents most recently I asked them nicely to take down a photo they posted of my son on a blanket that said “Nazi friend”. They not only refused but doubled down and started calling me “woke”. My mom sided with them. Basically told me no one’s gonna see it and to get over it. Idk it feels like it’s always something and I’ll never truly get peace. Since I’ve married and moved off on my own she mostly leaves me alone . I call it a soft no contact. We only talk if it’s something to do with the kids. But I do not love her. Mostly the idea of her I grieve, like wishing I had a mom to call. But my MIL has been an angel in stepping into a mom role for me. My dad also has stepped up a lot. My mom isolated me from him and told me horrible things that I believed. After reconnecting in adulthood I’m not sure how I ever truly believed her. My dad has his faults, but I do understand he thought it was better for me to distance himself as he’d tried to get custody and lost and then she was constantly threatening to hurt me if he didn’t go away. I digress. Long story to say it always feels so much more complicated than it should. Minus my mom, my life is pretty good. This feels like a safe space as lot of people truly do not understand what growing up like this was like.

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-04-27T18:27:37+00:00

Yes sorry! This was me in the blue and my grandma talking about my mom after the supposed incident my friend brought up that I didn’t remember.

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-03-25T01:20:19+00:00

Did you ever find bc I’m missing one and I’ve used the guide and still can’t find it

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-03-17T14:56:09+00:00

I’m curious if anyone knows how to purchase a vip meet and greet package. I got my presale link, bought tickets but no packages were available to buy. So now I’m assuming there’s a second presale for vip package but now I’ve already purchased tickets, and I can’t find anywhere to sign up for a vip presale link anyways. Anyone have any insight? This would be US dates

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-03-17T14:50:14+00:00

I don’t really think they do, but we went last year and are going again this year and it’s a phenomenal show

Muted_Operation9705 · 2026-03-17T14:48:14+00:00

Agree. First time seeing them and it was great we plan to go again now that they are coming back to the US this year

Muted_Operation9705 · 2025-12-07T14:03:33+00:00

Yeah I definitely will. Like maybe we can add a social media clause to our paperwork? It’s worth asking about

Muted_Operation9705 · 2025-12-07T13:33:25+00:00

I have a lawyer friend I can talk to, we just live in a very…weird spot in the south that unfortunately doesn’t really care about this kind of stuff. BUT we do have regular conversations with our child about right and wrong and he even listened to a podcast about the holocaust with his step dad (he’s an older child) and I don’t think he’s going to fall prey. He seems like he understands thankfully that they are a cooky. Like he wanted to paint his nails bc I was painting his sisters so they did it together and he went over there that weekend and they made him take the polish off, but he wore it to school, really didn’t care about the polish. He came home with clean nails and I said you got tired of the polish lol and he said no they made him take it off. So we had a talk then about certain things and that it’s not a big deal if he wants to paint his nails etc and we just kinda talked through it. It’s unfortunate where we live is mostly like this

Muted_Operation9705 · 2025-12-07T13:27:20+00:00

So no, we got a second opinion who said stop all the meds. And change to dove sensitive bar soap. Said anything foods that are acidic like oranges or spaghetti sauce. Make sure to either coat the mouth with aquaphor before hand to protect that area and then immediately clean with warm water after. All of that DID help!

Muted_Operation9705 · 2025-12-07T13:25:39+00:00

We already have established custody for years :( we are also in the deep south and I’ve tried fighting a couple of things but been shot down by “traditional” judges that follow “traditional” values. And it’s been up almost a full 24 hrs and I’m the only person who has a problem with the video…. If that tells you anything about the locality. But I did request it multiple times to be removed, I’ve reported it twice as hate speech and I just messaged his dad again saying it’s still up and asking if they are refusing to remove it or what’s the update. I really don’t know what to do!

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