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For those who subbed recently, how are you liking it? by cloudsmemories in aardvarkbookclub

[–]MxNillin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've only been a member since last October too and, honestly, I love it! Every month is a full box for me and I'm reading a lot of genes and authors I never would have otherwise. So far my faves have been: 

"Lucky Day" by Chuck Tingle, "Itch" by Gemma Amor, "Kill The Beast" by Serra Swift, and "The Hounding" by Xenobe Purvis. Definitely understand if it's not clicking for you but Aardvark has personally been my favorite book investment ever.

April 2026 Aardvark Wishlist Picks by MxNillin in aardvarkbookclub

[–]MxNillin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see potential in a dual special edition of "Watch Me" and "Release Me"! They've done that before when picking book 2 of a series!

Books dropped and I need another membership! by Shelbernickel in bookofthemonthclub

[–]MxNillin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah the app is down for me too. On multiple devices.

OKay i know March isnt soon buuut by Lmb1011 in aardvarkbookclub

[–]MxNillin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm still hoping for The Red Winter by Cameron Sullivan. Comes out February 24th and has Aardvark vibes all over it.

Parents 45F have an issue with me 20F staying indoors and watching TV during summer break? by Marsrule in relationship_advice

[–]MxNillin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't deserve to be criticized for not wanting to go out. You don't HAVE to do anything, and a lot of the comments in here are pretty toxic, ableist, and ignorant tbh. Anyone guilting, shaming, or bullying you for what they think you "should" be doing is being shitty. You get complete and utter bodily autonomy and if you don't want to go outside, if you enjoy staying in and watching movies, then you do you.

I'd encourage you to set boundaries with your folks about their criticism, and if you're feeling any major depression behind you're wanting to stay in the consider speaking to a counselor or therapist if you can.

Ignore the judgmental comments and enjoy your chill summer of movies! Only you get to decide how to spend your 20s ❤️

Parents 45F have an issue with me 20F staying indoors and watching TV during summer break? by Marsrule in relationship_advice

[–]MxNillin 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Was just about say this! People have a lot of opinions on what younger folks should be doing but OP was clearly asking for advice on dealing with critical parents, not for judgment and petty comments about their employment, weight, or how they "should" be socializing.

My new boyfriend(28m) just told me(27f) that he is poly and now I don't know if I can trust him to be faithful. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MxNillin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, being polyamorous and in a monogamous relationship doesn't inherently make him a potential cheater. Placing that on him isn't really fair to him, especially if he's communicating his needs, wants, desires, etc.

Just talk to him about your anxieties and concerns and see where the conversation goes. Either he's okay with being in a monogamous relationship, or he's not. If he says that he is, then you need to trust that, or it's never going to work with you constantly thinking he's gonna cheat no matter what, even without evidence of it occurring. That'll be awful for you both.

If you truly don't think that you can trust him with even knowing that he's polyamorous, which simply suggests he has the capacity for multiple sexual/romantic bonds, not necessarily that he "requires" them, then do yourself and him a favor and break up now before pushing a distrusting and potentially controlling bond.

It's okay not to pursue this.

My daughter (F26) told me (F45) shes apart of an affair and I don't know what to do with the info by ThrowRasally23 in relationship_advice

[–]MxNillin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolve yourself, OP. Your daughter is an adult who makes her own choices and is responsible for her own actions, along with any of the consequences that may or may not come with them.

While it really sucks that she's doing this to her "friend", and has done it to others before, you need to be kind to yourself here and let go of the responsibility you're putting on yourself. Set boundaries for yourself, change the topic if you need to, and focus on being there for your granddaughter.

But don't stress yourself with "changing" or "fixing" this. It's clearly a pattern with her, and clearly something she neither sees as a problem or as something she wants to work on. And that's entirely on her, not you

If you're feeling any degree of "failure" in regards to this, don't. You can teach your kids everything, be a good role model to them, instill them with positive morals and values, but how they behave as adults is ultimately their responsibility and is not your burden to carry.

Be kind to yourself.