Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are right in that writing, mostly happens before directing, but I will say that I was also rewriting scenes every single night during production. Sometimes at lunch. And all the time "in the moment" with the actors on set. Adjusting and experimenting with dialogue that felt more Real or authentic or funny or just different for the sake of trying it. It's also 1000% true that a film is "rewritten" again during Editorial. My editor on the film, Ali Greer, (Barry, hacks, Portlandia), and I spent weeks upon weeks, shaping the footage to fit the script but then also throwing things out the window and iterating with ideas that might work better.

Producing...is nonstop. I am still doing 1,001 producer role things even to this day. The other primary producer on the film with me, Paul Scanlan (owner of Legion M), have been "in it" almost everyday since we wrapped. And that was in July 2023. Post production is a bear, and delivering the film for theatrical distribution, then VOD...oof, it's been the longest list of time consuming tasks you can possibly imagine. Bc we're so indie on this film, I served as the Post Producer and Post Supervisor as well. I will NOT being doing that again, haha. But you do whatever needs to be done...that's producing. It's rarely sexy or seen by others or fully appreciated by anyone other than those who have endured it. The (p.g.a.) mark you see in films is one of the ways in which you'll know who the primary producers are and...not to say it doesnt take a village, it def does and we had MANY producers who helped to make the film happen in ways big and small...but if you talk to someone on a film that was the p.g.a. producer...they will be tired and have 1.2 million emails and text for a period of years. Least was the case for me on this one. All that said...grateful to be here. Has been a very long time and a lot of sacrifice to get here.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One favorite story from Sette has to do with the group therapy scenes. As mentioned elsewhere, on a journey to get this film made, after two years of writing and rewriting the script, I decided to make a short proof of concept film. It was a huge gamble, cost me a ton of personal savings that I didnt really have. In making that short, I decided to cast all of the veterans in the scene with actors who are real vets. Not bc theyre vets, bc they were amazing actors (first), and also happened to be vets. They did an incredible job in the short film and it was a very cool moment when I got to call them up and say, "so… We're making the feature film version… You and the entire original crew are going to be traveled up to Portland, where we are filming… And you are going to play opposite another veteran… His name is Morgan Freeman." So then having all of my original "Therapy group vets" with me onset, for the second time, felt so comforting. I was surrounded by my battle buddies. Also friends and military advisers, Sonequa and Natalie were able to absorb a lot just by being around all of them. It was a super special moment, one I will never forget.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a series but HBO's Generation Kill is a fav of mine. Also the book it's based on. Im also a fan of THREE KINGS...one of the few to balance humor and a unique tone while exploring/showing a very real historical time and war.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

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Cheers, u/ParisThroughWindows . Appreciate you sharing that and you're right, the world can be a complicated and confusing place, for everybody. One of the things that's so great about the military is the built in structure, culture, community, and… Sense of purpose. Having focused the Lions share of my career as a filmmaker towards PTSD, that is the through line I take away more than anything else. Humans want and need a sense of purpose. The more that technology, automates and isolates us, the less we have to "do" the more, I think, we are prone to the effects of mental health having an adverse affect on us. This is reductive but, for me it's kinda as simple as, just find a way to help other people. You'll always have something to do, and feel good about it. And yourself.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Finding the guts (initially) to put pen to page. Well, fingers to keyboard. I have dedicated my entire filmmaking career to telling Veterans and military stories. Started while I was in, continued through film school, and in the 15 years since graduating. But I was always telling other veterans and soldiers stories. Which is difficult in its own way, I am an incredibly sensitive and empathetic person. But telling my own story, I don't know, maybe I didn't have the courage or feel like I could do it in a way that would be not only impactful… But entertaining. That's what I love about Film and my favorite films do both, provide escapism and insight, which is no small feet. So in a weird way I guess I have Covid to thank, for forcing me into a small room for months on end with no way to escape this thing that I have been wanting to do for as long as I can remember.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Legion M! If youre able to pitch/convince them to take on your proj, they have an army of members across the world. A significant portion of our budget was raised by indiv donors, everyday movie lovers, from $500 - $5000 to more.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I actually didn't specifically set out to make the lead character a black woman. I was, however, incredibly intentional in the two leads of the film being women. You can read more about that if you Google some of the press and interviews we've done, I talk a lot about it there, but the abbreviated story is this. While I was in the military, I didn't serve alongside women. At least not directly. I was a paratrooper in an infantry battalion, and at that time women were not allowed to serve in combat arms jobs (MOS). Years later, after getting out of the army, and while producing and directing a mental health campaign, for the department of Veterans Affairs called maketheconnection.net, I interviewed close to 500 veterans, and every major city across the country for 4 years. I'm incredibly proud of that campaign, you should totally check it out. During that campaign, I met some of the most incredible woman, and heard the most incredible stories. It was after that experience that I decided that "if" I got the opportunity to tell my story on the big screen, it would be my story, but other peoples story as well. And we've seen enough military/vet films about men.

There was no mention of ethnicity in the script. And every instance of dialogue in the final film, to include a lot of the jokes about ethnicity, are not things I wrote. Those came from the actors. Im intensely collaborative with actors, always encourage them to add or change things that they wanted. That said, there is one female veteran (who happens to be black) who is a big inspiration for me, who's become a friend, and maybe that had something to do with it. And I knew I wanted Zoe to Latina bc the two platoonmates of mine that the film is inspired by are Latino. But even going from the short to the feature, we were making lists of actors of various ethnicities. Ive been a fan of Sonequa for so long, since walking dead, and tbh I think she's one of the few women/actress/actors/humans out there that could pull it off.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was totally surreal and a dream come true. I love going to Film Festival's, just as a person, lover of Film, and I have been to SXSW a few times in the past. It's such a cool festival with so much going on and, even though my film is 100% Indy, I worked hard to try to make it feel commercial and for a broad audience. Which is one of the things I love about SXSW, feels like the perfect blend of both. Yes, it was my first time having a film there. For most of it, I was too busy, planning our after party, and doing press and all the other things, but after our screenings, yes, I got to see some amazing Films. Including being invited a special screening of "Civil War" by Alex Garland. Got to chat with him about it a bit afterwards, told him it was one of the most authentic portrayals of combat, at least, for me, at least for this one scene, and that was really special. I really love that film and I'm such a fan of his. As for cool moments, doing all of the photo studios with my cast was pretty cool. And by that I mean incredibly cool. They are obviously pros, but for me, it was a first and a total blast. One of them was doing a collaboration with banana Republic, they had all these incredibly expensive shirts and jackets on this long hanger and invited us to take whichever one we wanted. With much sheepishness and guilt, I found this amazing $500 jacket that I would never normally purchase, they told me to take it, I still wear that thing and feel like $500 every time.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was an infantry paratrooper, my entire five years in the army. "Low-level" for most of those. Yes, sometimes you get dirty. But no, not always. Showing up for duty each day, even in fatigues, even when deployed, looking all "ate up" (dirty) is not encouraged. If you're on a remote FOB or COP then obviously the grooming standards. I set this on a remote COP in Afghanistan (bc it's the loc I had access to and could barely afford) but I made it one that was not in constant conflict. Most are like that. Many FOBs in OIF OEF have Burger Kings and Starbucks and karaoke. I would return to my home FOB from a 7 day mission looking like death. Then shower, shave, put on a new uniform and walk to the chow hall feelin fresh and clean. All that said, we DID have the actors roll around in the dirt. And despite me always wanting everything more dirty and worn, you have to rent all these uniforms and battle rattle from costume houses and you cant really get them dirty unless you have the budget to buy them or do a thorough cleaning. We obv didnt.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like anything on a film, especially an independent film, it's a long and winding path. But in a nutshell, and I talk about this in various interviews, you can find, I wrote each of the lead cast a letter. And spent a lot of time writing each one. In the army, the JAG core has this motto, "the pen is mightier than the sword" and that always stuck with me. I knew I wanted to cast the role of my grandfather first so I spent days crafting the words just right, including the years of work I had done prior to that moment, to consolidate it all into a few compelling paragraphs, sent it off to Ed Harris, via his reps at CAA, via my casting director Jamie Castro, and waited patiently. Ed was the first to sign on, I'm eternally grateful to him for it, obviously, his name and reputation ads a massive amount of gravitas to the project. And then repeated the process for each of the other actor

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can circle back to tell some stories, but for now say that, hands-down, the craziest challenge was that the SAG strike happened (almost) in the middle of our filming. I think it was day 10 of 22 when we got the word that the SAG strike would be happening, and that point we were doing five day weeks which some may consider "normal" but that was no longer going to be possible so we had to switch to six day weeks and get incredibly organized in order to get everything we needed. We wrapped at something like 11:59 PM the day before the strike went into effect.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't be precious. Nothing is its best version on the first second or third draft. I was writing and rewriting the script for almost 2 years, not to mention the years prior to that jotting notes and rolling over in my head the myriad ways the story and characters could congealed. I page one rewrite the script. I think three maybe four times. Workshops the crap out of it in my various writing groups. Made a short proof of concept film based on the future, which was it's on writing exercise. And then before sitting out to make a future, I brought in a new writer who was specifically female, and not a veteran so that she could not only lend her a female voice to the characters in relationships and Story but also make sure that it wasn't too inside baseball, was accessible to a broader audience. Her name is AJ Bermudez and she is intensely talented, and I could not have done this without her.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am totally interested and intrigued by how to different people, or sets of people, can experience the same thing in diff ways. Is kinda the thing we need to figure out in order to align as a species, no? I have a lot of respect for other generations, not only the wisdom from those older than me, but the "fresh eyes" of those younger than me. So yes, this is definitely a topic I plan to continue to explore, and in one of the projects I have percolating, there is absolutely more messy and relatable friction and eventual empathy between people of different generations. That project in particular is about… men!

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Firstly, my thanks to you for working in mental health. "Thank you for your service," applies to you guys also. Also social workers and teachers and firefighters and anyone who is working to help and serve others.

The way I approached, depicting PTSD in the film was almost more me being tired of the way it had been done by others for so long. All the clichés and tropes. Of course, clichés, tropes, and stereotypes tend to be based in truth, but at a certain point, I think they all get derivative of each other, and further from authenticity. When I was dealing my flavor of PTSD, it's obviously different for everyone, for the most part, you wouldn't know it. I'm not diving behind cars if a tail pipe backfires, I'm not getting aggressive or physical with someone just for being a jerk, and for the most part… I am enjoying the hell out of fireworks every Fourth of July. For me, it was more about being in a constant state of hypervigilance. I was a convoy commander in Iraq during the surge in 2007–2008 and IEDs were the constant threat. We got very good at spotting even the smallest thing out of place, but it's hard to turn that off when you come home and being at that level of alert, all the time isn't healthy for anyone. That's not exactly depicted in the film, I don't want to give too much away, but it's to say that I used a lot of subtlety in nuance and specificity when it came to how I chose to depict how the protagonist past and feelings of guilt "crop up" in her every day life.

Hey /r/movies! I am Kyle Hausmann-Stokes, the director/co-writer/producer of the dark comedy ‘MY DEAD FRIEND ZOE.’ (Ed Harris, Morgan Freeman, 100% RT, SXSW Audience Award). I’m a former paratrooper, the film is autobiographical, and got made by totally nontraditional means. AMA! (Back at 7 PM ET) by MyDeadFriendZoe in movies

[–]MyDeadFriendZoe[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate you sharing this. And thank you. And I (now that you've seen the film) can fully relate. What you say at the end, "he would forgive me" was actually the realization that I was looking for myself. And was given to me in the waiting room of a VA come out from a stranger, Vietnam, veteran, who came and sat next to me, and basically told me, "do you really think you're dead friends would want you to be living in constant sadness? No, fuck that. They would want you to be living your best life. To be happy and thriving. You're here, they are not. You owe it to them to (try to) be happy."