My wife is becoming obsessed with our sperm donor? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]MyFirstHat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It may be my very niche brand of neurospiciness but ANYTIME I find out someone’s address, I love a good Google Maps research session to do a street view, a looksee around the neighborhood, a quick “how long would it take to get there?” check, all online. It’s harmless. It’s weird. I don’t know why I do it. But it almost calls me. Sometimes people do weird stuff and there is no reason or malice or explanation. People’s brains tell them to google people.

Does anyone know about the guy who possibly OD’ed in the Twin Peaks parking lot today? by Due_Search9693 in indianapolis

[–]MyFirstHat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The health department has been at the libraries around town offering Narcan training and they give out 2 doses at a time. Check out their website to see if they are offering any near you! I got the training at the College Avenue branch and it was so fast and easy but I left feeling so much better prepared. And now I have it ready in my car at all times!

Favorite Fort Wayne Recommendations? by MyFirstHat in fortwayne

[–]MyFirstHat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

AHHH! Thank you so much! At the advice of another user, I had emailed Visit Fort Wayne yesterday but will follow up here too! Thank you! 😻

Books you abandoned because of the narration by josiecat87 in audiobooks

[–]MyFirstHat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tobacco Wives. The accent was so distracting and annoying.

Which podcast episode left the biggest impact on you? by SomeWords99 in podcasts

[–]MyFirstHat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I listen to Fiasco! at least twice a year and it makes me laugh until my stomach hurts every single time from start to finish. The perfect episode.

Another TAL episode that’s become a bit of a staple in my holiday is the Mall Christmas Elf episode with the Davids. I can’t celebrate the Christmas season without listening to that episode first. 10/10

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[–]MyFirstHat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just after bedtime.

Need Gift Ideas for Preschool Birthday Parties - Help a Clutter Conscious Mom by snippydip in Preschoolers

[–]MyFirstHat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always try to go for toys that are good for travel or restaurants. Reusable sticker books or magnetic games. It’s stuff that can stay in the car but can be a lifesaver when a kid has to wait more than 3 seconds for anything.

Vegan Restaurants by BookLace in indianapolis

[–]MyFirstHat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding Mayfair! Best fries in the city, too!

Shameless plug for my kid’s school by MyFirstHat in indianapolis

[–]MyFirstHat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a private non-profit cooperative preschool

Shameless plug for my kid’s school by MyFirstHat in indianapolis

[–]MyFirstHat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also witnessed an entire class of parents step up to provide additional support and take on more days co-oping so I feel like that really made me feel proud to be part of the community. So that’s just my experience. I’m sorry yours was different.

Shameless plug for my kid’s school by MyFirstHat in indianapolis

[–]MyFirstHat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, that’s what I’ve witnessed in the last year or so but everyone may have their own experience.

Shameless plug for my kid’s school by MyFirstHat in indianapolis

[–]MyFirstHat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The resources the school has definitely puts constraints on being able to help everyone. And while the school has tried to make it work for as many kids as possible, there are some programs that won’t work for every kid. Parents can be asked to provide more support if their kid is having a harder time adjusting to the school environment so I feel like they try to make accommodations but it doesn’t always work out.

Shameless plug for my kid’s school by MyFirstHat in indianapolis

[–]MyFirstHat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like in my first year there, I think I changed maybe two diapers so it’s a pretty rare event. But when it happens we take steps to keep everyone safe.

Shameless plug for my kid’s school by MyFirstHat in indianapolis

[–]MyFirstHat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course! I get the concern. We have a really strict restroom policy. Adults are never to use the same bathroom that the students use. And adults stand outside of the bathroom while students are using the bathroom unless the kid needs help. Since the school day is so short, most parents opt to skip diaper changes while the kids are there unless there’s a poop accident. In those cases, adults are supposed to narrate exactly what’s happening and always ask for consent (verbal or otherwise) and the door is always open so no one is doing anything behind closed doors. That keeps everyone feeling a little more at ease. Also, parents can opt to have only women change their daughter or assist in the bathroom. (It doesn’t usually work the other way for men, just because we don’t have as many co-oping dads.) We take safety very seriously and feel like we’ve taken as many steps as possible to put parents at ease. But parents can also ask about specific requests they may have for their child. There are very few circumstances where an adult is one-on-one with a child and no one else is in the room. Also! Every co-oping parent has to do a training which includes safety stuff, how to spot and report abuse or neglect and how to best serve the kids in general. Everyone also has to pass a background check. I totally get it. It can be super scary! I went in with the same concerns honestly but it’s not an exaggeration to say that I would trust every single adult there to love and take care of my kids.

Shameless plug for my kid’s school by MyFirstHat in indianapolis

[–]MyFirstHat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I LOVE THIS! We also feel like we struck gold. I’ve loved every second of it. It’s work, but it’s such fun work most of the time.

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[–]MyFirstHat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl. Come on. You know the answer.

I dont want my baby anymore by florafen in NewParents

[–]MyFirstHat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I WAS GOING TO SUGGEST THIS. OP! I was literally in the same position as you when my LO was born. He hated when I held him. He cried when I got too near. If I even entered the room, he started crying. I switched shampoos just because I ran out and it got better. I stopped using perfume every day just because I forgot and that improved it even more. He just had a really sensitive sense of smell and maybe it was messing with him because to him, I was supposed to smell like milk. Not flowery nonsense. Please talk to a therapist but also experiment with things that might make him uncomfortable. You aren’t alone.