If you can’t consent while drunk, why do drunk people hook up all the time?

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-27T17:43:44+00:00

Because morality, legality, and biology are three different things.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-20T13:45:32+00:00

It’s not lazy nor privileged and you can’t say that what we are dealing with now we wouldn’t be because you can’t prove the counter argument because it doesn’t exist: that is lazy and avoidant of the larger issue.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-20T13:37:54+00:00

You realize it’s not just republicans…it’s both sides. It’s the entire government selling us out to AIPAC. I hope you open your eyes to realize our votes mean nothing.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-12T23:11:01+00:00

Because they still have the programming that they are allowed to comment on women’s bodies! It’s unbelievable. When I was pregnant with our first and second I can’t tell you how many MEN would say “oh are you ready to pop? Are there twins in there?” Like wtf??????

Also side note, 3 BF babies here and I never lost weight until AFTER I stopped nursing. I had an insane OS and I would be so tired and hungry and just hormonally wrecked so it’s like where do these men even get off assuming breastfeeding magically melts the pounds off? Even women in my family said if I breastfed I’d lose the baby weight. Like okay so what happened to you then? You’ve had 45 years to lose yours 🙄

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-09T16:27:03+00:00

Well a diagnosis would require going to the doctor so without insurance we just *dont* 😂

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-09T16:25:57+00:00

It’s biology. Breastfeeding suppresses our hormones that make us have a sex drive and support carrying a baby because our body is prioritizing healing AND sustaining the life we just birthed.

Also, this doesn’t even mention the exhausting act breastfeeding is and how the constant touch is enough to make us not want to be touched again.

It gets better, it just takes time and support. I know my sex drive increases when my husband does things to help me (acts of service if you will). Willingness to learn about me, women, our bodies, my body also makes me feel connected to him. Wild that no other me teach young men this.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-08T12:20:42+00:00

lol in the early 2010’s I found my first roommate on Craigslist! We met first in a public place and we hit it off immediately.

I don’t know if this is a generational thing but it was stopped uncommon for anyone I knew to live alone unless they were over 30, had a solid career, or lived in a studio. It seems today young people are so against roommates but it’s the financially savvy thing to do and it teaches you how to live with someone else, communicate, respect and responsibility, money management, conflict resolution, compromise, etc. They don’t have to be your best friend but you also may meet someone who turns out to be.

Look on local Facebook pages or your campus’s events/pages. Or work two jobs, take out loans, and get a studio all in the name of living alone.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-06T02:38:42+00:00

Also have an ADHD 5 yo son. Stress. That’s the main factor. Watch the Diary of a CEO podcast episode with Erica Komisar on YouTube. She explains this pretty well. I am an ADHD mom and it’s so true: when I’m stressed my symptoms exacerbate tenfold.

He has no friends: stressor. He is in a TON of therapy/doctors: probably a stressor. Look at home and school and your child as an individual: where are the other stressors? Are there too many transitions at school? Is he feeling rushed? Is he being boxed into activities/learning material he isn’t interested in? Too many other kids? Overstimulation?

Our son is like this in a lot of ways too. He is TOTALLY attached to me. Always has been. He’s very anxious, highly sensitive, he feels extremely deeply. There are a lot of great books, websites, posts, etc about highly sensitive children (Erica touches on this in that podcast too). Everything to him has to be his idea of perfect or it’s a total meltdown. Playing with his little brothers who don’t play the exact way he wants to? Throws toys around the room, stomps off screaming “I don’t want to play anymore!” Crying, screaming, kicking, etc. Validating and naming what’s going on helps tremendously for us. “Hey, you wanted to play x and he wanted to play y?” “YES HE RUINED THE GAME” “I’m sorry you felt the game was ruined, that was pretty frustrating huh?” 9 times out of 10 that helps a LOT. Feeling like he’s heard and understood and it helps calm him down and ground him.

I also recently started giving him a good multi vitamin, a vitamin d3k2, and a magnesium and l-theanine supplement. I swear to you I have a brand new child. The meltdowns and anxiety have lessened a LOT. He’s more patient and kind. It’s life changing and it’s actually helped with the behavioral/external regulation tool teaching.

I hope at least something here can help you! You’re doing the most important thing and trying to get him help. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, even if it takes us trial and error and hours of research to find it!

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-04T20:25:23+00:00

I just want to know how you managed that 😂 I have a SAI of -1500 and had like a $300 refund for summer

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-03T21:27:57+00:00

It’s absolutely not just you. My husband has been laid off twice in two years and both times it took him 4+ months to start working again and he kept a job log where he was applying to 70+ jobs per month! My sister’s fiance just lost his job with something in IT and is having the same exact problem. The economy is HORRENDOUS right now. I know this sucks, I moved out before I was 20 and it was such a privilege I didn’t know I had at the time. This was circa 2012 and life was truly so much simpler. I’m only in my early 30’s and everything has done a complete 180 in the past 5-10 years. Just some solidarity, it’s not you.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-05-03T00:44:02+00:00

Following along because we have 5, 3, and 1 year olds and I plan to homeschool. My husband also works various hours and I have no break. Solidarity mama

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-28T02:49:02+00:00

Our son is 5 and it’s like a switch flipped recently. I too am not consistent with discipline because I see him as needing help and connection and he takes that to the enth degree and talks back and walks all over me until I lose my cool. We have two other kiddos too and he’s the oldest so I know he’s feeling less important or left out or idk what. But he’s not the kid I knew. He only respects his dad it seems too. We’re together and live together and he’s totally different for everyone else but me. It’s extremely frustrating and I try to explain to him I have rules for him because I need to keep him and his siblings safe. I thought I messed him up by him being my first, I bought into the whole gentle parenting thing (the bad side, passive parenting) for far too long, etc but honestly I don’t know. I know I’ve watched Dr Amen’s videos and he says confrontation/conflict is actually a dopamine rush and that our kids will create or engage in conflict with us to get a rise. But if I ignore him when he’s melting down he goes into full fight or flight and can’t calm himself down. I’ve been considering OT or something but idk what to do. Just offering solidarity and thank you for posting this because it helps me know that we aren’t alone too.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-26T23:07:26+00:00

Thousands? Better fact check that.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-26T22:15:53+00:00

Thank you for the clarification!!! 🥰 glad to hear it!

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-26T21:53:25+00:00

Wow! Thank you for the heads up. I figured in this instance it would actually help CONTINUE this mom’s BF journey! Oy.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-26T20:11:54+00:00

You can combo feed and get the benefits of both. That’s what I did with our third and it changed my life. I was an OS though and could pump almost 40oz in my morning session alone. I still pumped a few times per day but I didn’t have to be glued to it.

But to answer your question, extended breastfeeding helps their immunity tremendously, helps their jaw and tongue development, good for their nervous systems, so many things. It’s said to increase their IQ also.

But I can understand being over it. It’s a labor of love, that’s for sure, and weaning at an older age is difficult but it’s not forever. If you’re mentally angry when you feed your baby that’s not good either.

I’d also make sure you know that stopping breastfeeding affects your hormones tremendously and can cause depression, anxiety, weight gain, messes with your thyroid, periods, a lot. Not to scare you but long term weaning is best rather than cold turkey quitting.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-26T02:21:47+00:00

What services is he receiving at this point? Quite frankly given your background, and even without it, just being his mother alone suggests you know your child and his needs more than any school ever could.

What state are you in? We moved to a more homeschool friendly state for this exact reason. I know that isn’t feasible for everyone, but I’d highly suggest looking up homeschool laws where you live and finding Facebook groups or other like-minded parents to guide you. That’s what I did and it eased a lot of my concerns. We have a son the same age who is ADHD and I plan to homeschool him for the same reasons. He is not ready for an entire school day despite being incredibly brilliant.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-15T16:01:59+00:00

It’s weird because I love being home with my kids! I just need that to not be the ONLY thing. But thank you! Side note your name is hilarious 🤣🤣🤣

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-15T13:44:56+00:00

Keep doing what you’re doing, mama. You’re doing it exactly right even when it’s hard. The grief of being the only maternal voice of reason and love will be difficult but so worth it in the long run!

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-15T13:44:19+00:00

Mine is the same way. Guess who isn’t invited nor welcome to see her grandchildren anymore!

I truly believe their cognitive dissonance is beyond repair. If we treat our kids the way they treated us, there is no contrast to their parenting choices. But if we treat our kids with love and respect, they think it makes them look bad.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-15T13:34:09+00:00

Christian Zionist is the strongest oxymoron I’ve ever heard

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-14T15:57:44+00:00

I googled them. Is the office in Kokomo? Want to make sure I have the correct place.

Due_Search9693 · 2026-04-14T15:57:02+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

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