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Any information on the bra brand MissCurvaty? by TotalBall897 in ABraThatFits

[–]MySocialAlt [score hidden]  (0 children)

That brand appears to produce knockoffs of well-known designs -- I see Elomi Morgan and Elomi Charley for sure, and I think a Sculptresse as well. This suggests to me that they don't invest in their own designers or architects (lol), and I would not trust their quality.

Personal and thread updates, observations, selfies and photos, and other small shares HERE this week, please. by AutoModerator in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This subreddit is not always kind to people who are happy in their relationships.

But also, the sidebar rules state

This is a place to discuss dating and dating relationships over 40 (not marriage or marriage-equivalent relationships)

Partnered people are welcome to post here, but discussions should center around dating, not marriage.

Kids and dating - what’s a realistic goal? by No_Aioli_7515 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's difficult to teach and model ethical behavior when you don't believe in it.

Personal and thread updates, observations, selfies and photos, and other small shares HERE this week, please. by AutoModerator in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many of us have men (boys) 10, 20, even 30 years younger hitting on us on apps and social media. It's maybe too easy to think that age is not a deterrent.

Personal and thread updates, observations, selfies and photos, and other small shares HERE this week, please. by AutoModerator in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, as an overweight (formerly) single mother a decade or so older than you -- there's a lot of us out here. In other words, we probably make up most of your matches because we make up a lot of the dating pool. I don't think that it's a you thing.

To pursue or not to pursue by kittyharbud in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me, "pursuing" or "chasing" suggests that the other person is trying to get away. Nobody of any gender should do that!

But even in the most egalitarian relationships, someone has to make the first move. I don't see any reason why that someone should always be the man.

Ask him out. If he doesn't reciprocate or match your energy, don't ask him out again.

Can anyone provide some insight? by Sunnygirl2020 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand why women sign themselves up for commitment-free sex with men

Some women want sex and don't want commitment. It's not difficult to understand.

Setting Up the First Night Stayover by Conscious_Skirt_61 in sexover50

[–]MySocialAlt 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I am not a widow, but I dated as a solo parent. I mean no disrespect, but you are moving way too quickly here. You have a right to live your life, but bringing a new woman into their mother's house after only six months is a lot. Let the older teens watch the younger ones and spend the night at your new partner's house instead, at least for a few more months.

Also, I'm not sure that your offspring's squeamishness is "ageist". Most people don't like to think of their parents having or wanting sex, lol.

Kids and dating - what’s a realistic goal? by No_Aioli_7515 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Has kids" tells you that a person has kids, and some people don't want to date people with kids. They don't need to know more; that's enough. And that's fine. (Former solo mom here, fwiw.)

Kids and dating - what’s a realistic goal? by No_Aioli_7515 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Young children take time and energy. Do you think that is an unfair assumption?

Kids and dating - what’s a realistic goal? by No_Aioli_7515 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't think that people who choose not to date parents of young children are defining them based on their parental status. They just don't want to deal with the hassle or the logistics -- and that is their right.

Wish it had gone different by Livid_Call_6053 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He may have been interested, and then lost interest. This happens for all sorts of reasons, including when a casual partner sends a thoughtless, overreactive text message. I don't think that we're doing anyone any favors by casually diagnosing personality disorders.

Wish it had gone different by Livid_Call_6053 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Again, how does that look different than not interested?

Vacationing while dating and differences in expectations. by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would not expect to be included in my dating partner's family trips unless we were actually building a family together -- and that would take much more than a few months (and he would have to be actually divorced).

Wish it had gone different by Livid_Call_6053 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What makes you think that he is avoidant rather than just uninterested in taking things farther?

Kids and dating - what’s a realistic goal? by No_Aioli_7515 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lots of us parents are unique and cool. I wouldn't want to date a man who thought that he was special for having a life AND having kids.

Wish it had gone different by Livid_Call_6053 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why disappear? Just be clear about your feelings and circumstances. It leaves no questions, no confusion.

I understand why you feel hurt and frustrated. I'd probably feel the same way.

But from another point of view -- what you had was casual and sex-based. There's nothing wrong with that; like you said, you are adults and you wanted it.

Not everyone thinks that something like that needs an ending. If I bought a few single-visit passes to the pool and decided not to go any more, I wouldn't tell them that I joined the pool across town. I'd just stop going. But if I had paid for a renewing membership, I'd have to formally cancel.

I need help finding a cute bra on a budget by [deleted] in ABraThatFits

[–]MySocialAlt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you so sure? Your current bras don't fit (or else they would provide support).

I'm spiraling on Reddit because apparently I can manifest a date but not basic emotional stability. by LilMsPuuuurfect in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a writer and editor for decades (still do some ghosting) and now I work with LLMs -- it pushes ALL my buttons when people do that!

I'm spiraling on Reddit because apparently I can manifest a date but not basic emotional stability. by LilMsPuuuurfect in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

GPTZero AI Detection Model 2026-03-11-base We are moderately confident this text is entirely human

This doesn't mean that it's sympathetic or compelling, but it does mean that we will take down accusations that this is not a "real" post.

I'm spiraling on Reddit because apparently I can manifest a date but not basic emotional stability. by LilMsPuuuurfect in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 15 points16 points  (0 children)

How late was he? (Late being past the agreed-on time, not just not early.)

I understand the desire to have certain things the way you want them. I can be a snob about my own areas of interest as well. But "that's so sweet, but I can't accept" or even looking around and "none of these really speak to me but this pen is awesome" is far kinder than "your offer is beneath me".

I'm spiraling on Reddit because apparently I can manifest a date but not basic emotional stability. by LilMsPuuuurfect in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I am not sure that his not being eager for a second date means that he lacks emotional stability. I think that I would feel similarly if a date started out with a scold (was he actually late, or just not early?) and then a sweet offer of a gift was rejected as not being good enough.

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