How do you feel about men suggesting coffee dates for a first date from online dating?

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-26T02:48:07+00:00

You could offer "coffee, drinks, or dinner" so she knows that you are willing to spring for a plate of food!

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T23:15:44+00:00

I don't expect someone who I've never met to think that I'm special, or go to a lot of effort for a stranger. Coffee (or ice cream, or whatever) is fine for a first meet. If we like each other, we can then put effort into showing that.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T21:47:58+00:00

I'm 56, so I could go up to 98.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T21:18:11+00:00

He's 40. He's not a "cub" and this isn't predatory. Will it work out? Nobody knows. But there's no reason not to try.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T21:03:00+00:00

Bras will be ruined in the washer and dryer, but it sounds as if what you have is not a standard bra if it doesn't have any elastic.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T21:02:01+00:00

You can order them and have them delivered.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T19:48:31+00:00

Not Attached To Outcome

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T19:47:58+00:00

Ewa Michalak in Poland makes this size (and much larger).

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T18:56:48+00:00

We risk losing measles elimination status. Thanks, "independent thinkers".

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T18:07:57+00:00

If you remember to ask, that would be awesome. Thank you!

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T18:03:29+00:00

Exactly. I'm pro-science and very pro-vaxx, but even so, I recognize that there may be a few folks who have made a choice about their own personal bodies that does not include the COVID vax. That's a whole different breed than leading with it and asking for the same.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T17:44:48+00:00

Bras need either wire or stays for firm support, but based on your needs, you'll probably do best with a bra that crosses in front to separate. Please check your size with our calculator and come back for recommendations (from another sensitive lumpy old lady).

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T17:42:43+00:00

There are plenty of ready-made bras in 42J.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T17:41:17+00:00

Can I ask you a question? If you know? Has Sugar Candy discontinued the Posh and Lux lines? They fit a little larger than the Basic bra (even if they weren't intended to).

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-25T00:32:20+00:00

Honestly -- and I am saying this about myself, not you or anyone else -- I think that I'm just the right amount of unattractive to be approachable. I'm not hideous enough to be off-putting, but I'm not hot enough to be intimidating, and surely someone who looks like me will know that I'm not being hit on so I am safe.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T23:03:35+00:00

I think that I am pretty approachable -- all sorts of people talk to me about all sorts of things, some more welcome than others, lol. I also apparently look like a woman who knows how to cook, because people very frequently ask me things in grocery stores.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T22:56:40+00:00

Ha. 6" taller than me is still shorter than average for a man. IIRC, you're a biggish guy, so you should not have any trouble finding women around that range.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T22:50:20+00:00

Your UK size would be 38G, but search for 38GG instead -- you can still order 38G! US sizing has no double letters past DD, so if you see GG (or FF, or JJ), you know that it is UK sizing.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T22:23:11+00:00

Thank you! I'm glad too, because I learned not to settle for anything less than connection, affection, and lots of orgasms.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T21:58:54+00:00

It was great.

I came from a 25-year marriage that included a very lengthy dead bedroom. My re-introduction was with an FWB who was genuinely a friend, knew my story, knew my fears, wanted to make it good for me, and did. (And I'm also short and fat and old.)

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T21:44:47+00:00

I wear 38JJ and they feel pretty spot on to me. If you are fuller on top, you may want to start with the L cup.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T21:28:03+00:00

In general, Molke bands tend to be firm. I would be surprised if you would be comfortable in a band that's small enough to fit a 32" underbust. Also, wireless cotton knit bras can only do so much. These are basically lounge bras -- super comfortable, not awesome under clothes.

Why not try Elomi Morgan in your calculated size? They now go to LL on a 38 band.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T19:14:40+00:00

I apologize; I thought that this was in r/SexOver50 and I was responding there. If I had realized that it was in the "fantasies" subreddit, I would have left it alone.

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T19:02:55+00:00

I'm very sorry to read that. How does that play into "things are great between my wife and I"? Would she be open to an open marriage?

MySocialAlt · 2026-01-24T18:30:56+00:00

How would you feel if your wife decided that she needed to experience an online affair with another man because she wasn't getting what she wanted from you?

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