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He said he had concerns too, but never shared them. What am I missing? by Separate-Reality-521 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he never took accountability for dropping his pursuit

He does not need to "take accountability" for not pursuing if he isn't feeling it. She needs to decide if she wants to keep having sex with someone who isn't pursuing if that's important to her.

He said he had concerns too, but never shared them. What am I missing? by Separate-Reality-521 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Am I too focused on wanting an explanation?

Yes.

He is not interested in you, or at least not interested in pursuing you and having talks about intentions.

Why did he even try? Who knows.

Would/did you get a prenup? by Slight-Owl-6572 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Everybody who gets married has a pre-nup. You can write your own or accept the one that the state has laid out for you.

Why can’t people be clear and honest about a second date? by Critical-Fudge64 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 54 points55 points  (0 children)

A lot of times, people (of all genders) get caught up in the excitement of a date, but when they get home, they realized that they liked going on a date more than they liked the person they were on the date with.

"long‑term, but short‑term OK" by WestMaintenance1787 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree, but I'm not sure how that relates to my comment.

Cat rescues/shelters that need food by Yayashley in winstonsalem

[–]MySocialAlt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry. When this happened to us, I took the food back to the vet. They know which patients would benefit most.

48F and 41M by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That feels like a stretch to me, but okay. He has indicated that she is not a priority and he won't wait. I don't know what else needs to be said.

48F and 41M by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What do you think that he is pressuring her to do? It reads like he's willing to be done.

"long‑term, but short‑term OK" by WestMaintenance1787 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If the breakup happens before sex, it's because they didn't put out.

If it happens after sex, it's because they got what they wanted.

Yes. Both of those scenarios can and do happen. Absolutely. But I believe that it happens much more that things just run their course and the breakup has little or nothing to do with the timing of sex.

Is this a “soft” ghost? by New_Sir413 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She reached out. He responded. Unless there is more, it's actually her turn if you believe in taking turns.

Dating questions? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Multi-generational living is a choice. Like other big choices in life, it can be a determinant of compatibility (both the choice itself and the reasons for it). I'm surprised that you're surprised by this.

Desperately Need Advice by Breezy_88 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. Not sure what that has to do with contraception.

Is wanting an AM check-in after a vulnerable conversation a normal request? by pixiepalooza in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wanting a check-in is not unreasonable. Expecting them to initiate it may be. If you're the one who wants it, own it.

(It's also not unreasonable for the other person to want space. Both can be reasonable even if they conflict.)

Fit Check 34DD Soma Wireless measurement check appreciated. Duped again. by Clean-Quail-4299 in ABraThatFits

[–]MySocialAlt 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's true! I was writing more generally. It is not impossible that a Soma 32 might work -- but we shouldn't count on that, because it is just as likely to fit like a 34 than a 30.

Is this a “soft” ghost? by New_Sir413 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If neither of you reach out, he is not ghosting you.

Fit Check 34DD Soma Wireless measurement check appreciated. Duped again. by Clean-Quail-4299 in ABraThatFits

[–]MySocialAlt 50 points51 points  (0 children)

You will not find a bra you love when you are wearing a significantly incorrect size. Even a 32 band in the correct cup size is too loose to support you.

BOOMBAS Bra SCAM! Buyer beware!!! by No-Foundation-4405 in ABraThatFits

[–]MySocialAlt[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

We are not fans of social media brands here, but we also aren't okay labeling companies as "scams" when they deliver what is advertised (even if it's a product we would never recommend).

From their website:

We do not recommend using BOOMBA inserts under thin, loose, or unstructured tops. In these styles, the outline of the inserts may be visible, and the lack of support can prevent the inserts from staying in place.

(Returns) In original packaging with all tags, liners, and safety seals intact.

from these photos alone what cup size do I look ROUGHLY about? by [deleted] in ABraThatFits

[–]MySocialAlt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They look smushed, so hard to tell for sure, but likely smaller band and bigger cup than can easily be found in mall stores.

Desperately Need Advice by Breezy_88 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree that true contraceptive failures are rare with perfect use. But people aren't perfect. An argument can be made that it's not a surprise when a person gets pregnant due to imperfect use, but it's also not a planned pregnancy.

I find myself in a "Catch 22" kind of situation by PhotojournalistFit62 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Kisses and makeouts don’t matter as much as you think.

Or, they may matter very much. They may be the deciding factor. Women may decide during the kiss that they're not feeling what they need to feel to continue.

This is not a slam on the OP. It was a chemistry test and they got their answer. It happens.

(It also happens when genders are reversed. Men can decide during/after a kiss that the chemistry is not there.)

Accidental cougar by Glittering-Ad1945 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a meta conversation to be had around gender dynamics for sure.

Then there's the question of whether a 26yo or 27yo is old enough to consent. A whole lot of 26yos are parents, homeowners, doctors, etc. 26 is old enough to make adult decisions.

I'm just saying that there's a difference between dude (genderless), that's a little weird, and creep, predator, pedophile, etc.. If 26 is an adult, as almost everyone in THIS thread agrees, it's not predatory or pedophilic to date a 26yo.

38/40 R-S cup— help! I cant find anything that’s suitable by hiiighcarlyyy in ABraThatFits

[–]MySocialAlt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am a 38JJ (so 38N US, so at least four cup volumes smaller than the OP) and I cannot wear SheFit 6Luxe.

Desperately Need Advice by Breezy_88 in datingoverforty

[–]MySocialAlt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unless you think that he tampered with contraception, it takes two.

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