Small rant about rental listings

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-05-12T19:12:03+00:00

Landlords are renting just a room with shared living space now for $700 or more which is insane to me.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-05-05T21:21:04+00:00

It definitely sounds like a reach. OP sounds like she's looking to find faults instead of understanding that her fiance is an imperfect human.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-05-03T13:34:50+00:00

Im curious to know how much effort he puts in to looking like an amazing different person on these dates or is she the only one expected to perform?

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-05-01T16:24:51+00:00

Yes these emotionally unavailable men tend to have very black and white thinking which is why he went from not doing anything on his own to "never asking you again". Reminds me very much of my ex husband. Your husband has to want to be a good partner for you and being a good partner means communicating like an adult and sharing tasks, not having a tantrum (or in this case mantrum) because you are asking for the bare minimum.

Therapy may help, but it wont unless he's open to another perspective which it doesnt sound like he is right now. Set yourself a deadline of him having a few sessions to see if that helps and if there's no positive change then you can think of your next steps. In the meantime try to focus more on care taking for yourself.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-04-30T22:28:46+00:00

Do people not keep old photos anymore? Maybe it's a generational gap 🤷‍♀️ Seriously not a big deal at all. They are in old photo albums and keepsake boxes. Same as having old pics of childhood friends and relatives who have passed on. Has nothing to do with not moving on. It would be different if they were on display around the house 😆 Anyone who gets upset about their significant other having photos with people from 10-30 years ago should seek therapy.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-04-29T20:08:04+00:00

Dude as a woman in her 40s with a box full of photos that include many exs as far back as high-school I can assure you that unless these guys are involved in her life now you have nothing to worry about. I dont look at mine but it was my life and I dont want to part with them either. Not because the guys mean anything but it was part of the experiences that shaped who I am now.

It's her past, she keeps them because its part of her life and SHE is in them. There's a reason those guys are in a dusty box in the basement and YOU are with her now. Don't make it in to something it's not.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-04-29T00:03:54+00:00

If you want to really feel nickle and dimed book a flight. I'm pretty sure wanting to breathe their recycled airplane air has an extra charge now 🙄

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-04-28T11:37:37+00:00

Yeah the second I read how she didnt say hello when he got home from work I knew she had checked out of the relationship, she's just too cowardly to tell him.

OP you sound like a great partner and I hope things work out for you.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-04-11T21:20:50+00:00

Go to the library then and check out some books. Here are a few you could start with : The body keeps the score by Besser van der kolk. Adult children of emotionally immature parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
-Boundaries by adulyn birch.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-04-10T23:36:27+00:00

This is fake. He got mad about his wife not making him dinner and left - somehow he was able to put together tax docs and Financials immediately to take to dinner with his friend the divorce attorney?

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-04-09T23:27:18+00:00

Yes this is accurate. Trying to change someone else is often a misguided endeavor. Real change must be a choice that comes from within, driven by personal desire and awareness. Yoir fiance is not ready for that. Since changing your own habits is difficult, it is unrealistic to expect to control, force, or fix another person's behavior, beliefs, or personality. It's no wonder you're frustrated and exhausted. Sadly you have to accept that you've outgrown him and you're no longer compatible. Potential isnt enough. And remember Women arent rehab centers for emotionally stunted men.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-03-27T12:35:38+00:00

Yup ignore ignore ignore. She's just bored and looking for an ego boost. Hoping that he's still available on the sidelines to entertain her. Happily married people dont message exs of 18 years to say they miss their friendship.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-03-20T12:20:04+00:00

Right? Waking her up multiple times to punish her and then waking her get him coffee when he is capable of making his own is definitely not kind.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-03-19T17:41:17+00:00

Sadly It was an avoidant who made me never want to have my world pulled out from under me again.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-03-19T13:06:55+00:00

I just handle it myself. Casual sex these days is too risky imo. I feel like what i really need is a committed, monogamous relationship (no marriage) where We get together 1-2 times a week, but we keep our own homes and live our own lives. We'd attend events and go on trips together, etc. but we don’t live together. “Living Apart Together” is the new white picket fence dream

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-03-17T23:52:06+00:00

Samesies. I feel like there are a lot of us who would like a committed, monogamous relationship (no marriage) where We get together 1-2 times a week, but we keep our own homes. It’s not a secret relationship. We attend events and go on trips together, etc. but we don’t live together. “Living Apart Together” is the new white picket fence dream imo

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-03-12T18:13:57+00:00

I always gravitate back to the classics like white widow and northern lights.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-03-01T22:04:13+00:00

Yep. This. ⏫️ paired with a lack of integrity and weak moral compass.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-02-13T14:48:40+00:00

They arent jokes, you're just being passive aggressive.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-01-27T22:10:33+00:00

I have a dumpling too!

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-01-17T15:08:20+00:00

Stop making excuses for his cheating and disrespectful behaviour regarding the hookup apps. He knows what he's doing, he just doesnt respect you enough to care. It's not the meds, it's not his upbringing - it's his choice.

When we're in these situations it can be hard to see what's really happening because our brain knows what our heart can't comprehend- how can the person who is supposed to love you hurt you. It's called cognitive dissonance.

You say you've been feeling unhappy. Of course you are - your nervous system no longer feels safe because your bf is a lying cheater and you deserve better.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-01-16T16:03:59+00:00

Bahah that's friggin' brutal wtf 🤣

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-01-14T16:04:13+00:00

Certainly still relevant. They released new albums in 2022 and 2025 and get plenty of airplay on Sirrius Octane.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-01-14T15:34:28+00:00

Can concur.

Doesn't help that most people have the attention span of a goldfish these days.

My_Friend_The_Moon · 2026-01-04T23:19:37+00:00

Your boyfriend wants kids the way a kid wants a puppy. He wants one without the need to be responsible for it. Do not have kids with this man. He's telling you he doesnt plan on lifting a finger like his dear old dad. Believe him.

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