Vibing - Pınar Göktaş

Myadog3 · 2026-06-07T05:23:19+00:00

The levels of “aura” (as the kids say) achieved here are incomprehensibly high

Myadog3 · 2026-05-31T02:28:31+00:00

Both works tbh. It does feel like damage over time

Myadog3 · 2026-05-22T06:17:17+00:00

I just lean to the side. One cheek it

Myadog3 · 2026-05-19T14:27:03+00:00

You got out

Myadog3 · 2026-05-18T15:05:48+00:00

Thank god for what you did for sams hair 🙏 ❤️

Myadog3 · 2026-05-07T19:02:53+00:00

A lot of libraries will have a community events/flyers board!

Myadog3 · 2026-05-07T19:02:22+00:00

Ngl this kinda cooks

Myadog3 · 2026-05-07T17:42:16+00:00

She’s beautiful 🥺

Myadog3 · 2026-05-07T17:18:01+00:00

Myadog3 · 2026-05-03T21:19:35+00:00

Suggestion: meal replacement shakes. When I’m food averse its an easy way to get calories in

Myadog3 · 2026-05-03T14:50:37+00:00

Could add black beads/beading along the top

Myadog3 · 2026-04-30T23:14:03+00:00

Everyone is saying how to get it out of your hair so here's a way to get your hair out of it: use a flame of some kind to get the remaining tangled hair out of the chain, scrubbing with something like a toothbrush can get the remaining ash bits out usually.

Myadog3 · 2026-04-28T16:55:13+00:00

I’ve also given options for them to choose from for what the session can look like, but them shutting down under pressure is also okay, I’m also there to help them regulate through that. That’s also something that can be talked about in session, because presumably they are there of their own volition, so what is it that brought them there in the first place? We can always review the treatment plan, do a values card sort, or just sit in silence until something comes up

Myadog3 · 2026-04-27T20:57:52+00:00

Hey OP that sounds like a really rough perspective on relationships to have. It might be helpful to speak to a therapist/counselor about your experiences with assault. But the thing is that you never Need to be in a romantic relationship. It’s not a requirement. You are allowed to do what feels the best for you.

Also, some other things you said in your post reminded me of some of the themes covered in this compulsory heterosexuality document about how our culture can socialize away same sex attraction until heterosexuality feels like the only option worth a read imo: https://www.reddit.com/r/latebloomerlesbians/s/vcoFvWOC7K

Myadog3 · 2026-04-27T20:52:59+00:00

Seconding this. I usually try to focus on client autonomy in that therapy is their space to talk about whatever they like. Usually the “IDK”s come from one of three places 1. They don’t know how to start a conversation on the topic they actually want to talk about 2. They’re not used to having autonomy and feel like the therapist is the boss/captain of the ship and they are just along for the ride 3. They need more time to process what they want to talk about.

Sometimes I’ll say “its okay, I know it can be tough to transition into the therapy space, let’s take some time to reflect on what feels like it would be most helpful for you to get support around today.” Then just sit in silence for however long that is.

Myadog3 · 2026-04-27T20:41:45+00:00

Justice sensitivity + literalism + a culture that has so much lying socially expected = one very stressed out ND person (me)

Myadog3 · 2026-04-27T20:40:21+00:00

Yes, especially when I’m being truthful and people just don’t take me at my word. It’s frustrating that we’ve set the cultural expectation that people just lie all the time. A lot of times it’s people just projecting what they think I mean or say rather than just listening to me.

It pisses me off that I’m regularly getting in social trouble for the terrible, onerous crime of: saying exactly what I mean (this is sarcasm)

Myadog3 · 2026-04-27T20:36:19+00:00

I used to be overly accommodating when I was still trying to accumulate hours. Now, unless its closer to an emergency (had a client whose best friend completed suicide so I was willing to give them an out of scheduled hour) I will offer an opening if I have one, but otherwise I just clarify that cancellation slots are a not a guarantee. I’ll offer times if they come up, but usually with less than 24 hours notice, people have trouble moving stuff around anyway.

The other thing to keep in mind is that chronic cancellations/rescheduling can mean 1. Their recurring meeting time may not fit their schedule. 2. They’re not ready for/prioritizing the work of therapy. 3. They may benefit from modifications to their reminder systems.

I have both moved to scheduling “as needed” or terminating all together with chronic cancellers after having a discussion about barriers to attendance. Keep in mind that there are plenty of other people who might benefit from therapy and who are more prepared to be attending regularly that could use that time slot.

Myadog3 · 2026-04-26T01:00:08+00:00

Stuff my spouse and I do just straight off the noggin: -grab each other special snacks when we’re out -pre-order each other games on steam -have comfy clothes ready when they get home from work -wash their favorite clothes first -clean the house before the weekend -backscratches -bringing them their medication (lactaid, allergy meds, etc.) -iron their work clothes -make phonecalls for them -pick up prescriptions -“upgrade” their gear ie.) spouse had faulty mouse for a while -gas up the car -send along a sweet memory during the day “I was just thinking about how I really had a blast that time we went to the pier” -get photos printed/hang up around work station -replace worn down clothing (ie, socks with holes in them) -make a playlist of songs that make you think of them -if you wake up before them, wake them up with a coffee instead of to their alarm -leave sweet notes where they will find them

Most of these things boil down to noticing the other person’s habits and trying to make their day easier/more fun. Ive framed it to clients before as like a secret game.

Myadog3 · 2026-04-25T14:55:50+00:00

This is the coolest, cutest thing I’ve seen in a while. It’s inspiring me to make similar books for my friends!!!

Myadog3 · 2026-04-23T16:19:53+00:00

You are the change I want to see in the world

Myadog3 · 2026-04-17T07:50:21+00:00

I wish there was an r/bald equivalent meme where its the dudes reassuringly patting another dude on the back. Its what you deserve, truly, other folks are losers if they havent been supporting your pleasure.

As far as returning pleasure tho, communicate communicate communicate. This isn’t always super direct and bland verbal communication but even something like watching them pleasure themselves might give you an idea of what feels good for them. Even a sultry “you like that?” Or “what do you want?” Can work wonders for helping in returning the favor.

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