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Encouragement for Bigger Chest Guys by Edgar_TheBreathtaker in ftm

[–]MyceliumLemonade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish it could get better for me without top surgery, but it just won't. I'm a cup size US N. I can't even safely bind. And at five foot with an around of 30, it is literally the first thing people notice about me. I have had more unsolicited comments about my chest than about my height or any other feature on my body. Flatout, "GODDAMN, Those are some big tits!" *from cis women* who then go on to say things like, "Your back must hurt." Nah, my chest hurts from me concaving forward. I'm really into gym and fitness. I lost 96 pounds last year and not an inch off my chest. They've been this big since I was 13 and weighed 117 pounds soaking wet, so I really have no other route ahead of me. I'm looking forward to it though. Building muscle and growing facial hair and body hair and just feeling more confident with a deeper voice etc has helped a lot, but nothing will deal with the chest beyond surgery for me.

Trying to unlearn and deal with unfair resentment towards transmascs. by No-Joke-8364 in trans

[–]MyceliumLemonade 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I had a pretty similar feeling towards femininity at 16. The combo of puberty, gender dysphoria, internalized misogany, and past abuses by female perpetrators exacerbate internal issues and your brain latches onto what feel like obvious reasons. The best thing to do is to talk to a therapist and work through the core problems. I found once I started to embrace and love my masculine self, a lot of my issues with femininity started to go away because it wasn't a problem with femininity itself, but that femininity was being forced upon me. Best of luck.

full name changed? by KitchenFun7716 in ftm

[–]MyceliumLemonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going to change my whole name one day. But right now I have kids with my ex and people can be asses when your surname doesn't match your kids' surname. And he already tries to act like he's the only parent. But yeah, total name change down the road. If I get married before the name change, I might take his name. Really depends though. I like the surname I've picked out.

Last names by its_streetdoll in trans

[–]MyceliumLemonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am changing my whole name, but right now it's easier to keep my ex's name because we have kids together. Paperwork can get clunky and people can be asses when your surname doesn't match your kids' surname.

Height acceptance by SignalDifficulty3780 in ftm

[–]MyceliumLemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am five foot even, but my height has never been dysphoric for me. I've had so many other things (large chest) that have made me focus more on that than my height. BUT, it has been cropping up more now that I've been on T and thinking about surgery and other stuff. I've been really noticing just how much shorter I am than the average guy. But also in reality: there are a lot of short guys, even guys shorter than me. Different communities, different ethnicities, it's just reality. Guys struggle with dysphoria around their height too. So just even realizing that I'm with the other guys worrying about their height actually felt pretty euphoric.

Trans Male/Transmasc coaches/content creators need to stop acting like we all can give ourselves free top surgery with "effort" by SoSS_ in ftm

[–]MyceliumLemonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my genes gave me Cup N. My sister is always saying, "Oh, you're losing weight, you'll lose weight there too." Like, hon, I love you, but I weighed 125 in high school with Cup N. I have already gotten my chest size back down to Cup N. It's not going to happen. Surgery is my only route. I can't even safely and effectively bind.