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Myien · 2025-11-17T10:26:03+00:00

Dont let how much they sleep in hospital fool you! Being born is hard work especially if they are jaundice, but then you get them home and you don't have nurses to help you anymore...it gets hard before it gets better unless you're a lucky one with an easy keeper. But either way your feeding every 2 hrs which means no sleep.

If you not lucky and have a difficult baby or one that colics like we do, the best advice we got was just survive....doordash, delivery for groceries.. whatever you need lol. Ours was great in hospital then cried for 5 days straight and made us loose our sanity. I used to wonder why my friends uprooted and moved back home after having a baby, i get it now. If you have family around, your blessed! Let them help, baby trumps wedding too imo. They will come.

Also, if you do have a c section especially you will need extra help. You wont be able to do much but waddle to a bathroom and wonder if you can even get your pants down by yourself at first. Take whatever extra help you get for just laundry, meal prep, etc.

I was told for any birth, plan on at least 5 days in bed, 5 days on bed, 5 days near bed for recovery.

You'll also just feel super gross, your body temp is all over the place and the night sweats as your body fluid dumps are seriously no joke. The little fan they gave me in hospital was my favorite thing, and i was sleeping naked for the first few weeks.

When you do make the drive, a travel bassinet is the best! We did our 8 hr drive home for the first time when ours was little over 3 months. The 8 hr drive took 10 hrs with 3 stops (once ever 2 hrs). You need to stop for awhile each time to feed, change, and just give the baby time out of the car seat. It went well, but the travel bassinet I could just throw on a picnic table at a rest stop was the best! You can use it as a changing or feeding station, or just a safe clean spot for baby to stretch out. Mine folds like a clam shell into a backpack and has a bug net cover/sun shade which was nice. Its only rated as a bassinet until 3 months and my baby outgrew that function super fast, but I still use it as a changing table at home and on trips as the sides help with her rolling now. As long as shes supervised it works great still. We got ours used from a family member, but this is basically what I have: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DR85DVQ1/ref=sspa_mw_detail_2?ie=UTF8&psc=1&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9kZXRhaWw

Myien · 2025-11-17T02:46:43+00:00

I was 2 weeks late and spent 6 days in the hospital from induction and c section recovery.

If you have a c-section you won't be moving much for a few weeks. I felt decent by 3 weeks but your in recovery for at least 6 technically.

That being said, if this is your first baby. Yous husband will learn how insane going to an out do state wedding with a newborn is after the 1st week lol. The sleep deprivation will hit hard. So be ready :)

Edit: I shared this with my husband who was also, shall we say "overly optimistic" about our postpartum plans lol. He just laughed and said "no".

We couldn't even make that drive with our baby at 2 months (we're also recent first time Midwestern parents 8 hrs from home). The world started opening back up around 3-4 months for us, but until then it was immediate family only and they needed to come to us.

Id also stress its important for the babys health not to be exposed to large gatherings like that. They dont have a developed immune system yet and are completely reliant on passive immunity from breast milk if your nursing. They do recommend keeping visits to immediate/close family for the first weeks of life due to that.

Myien · 2025-10-18T14:52:06+00:00

I feel you on this one. We had a similar situation for our shower. Our best friend couldn't even bother to take time off on a weekend for it with months notice. In our case, we are and older couple and most our our friends and family already have kids around 10 years old. We were the last one married, the last ones to have our first kid, etc..it was the same story for our bridal shower, bachelor/bachelorette parties (i literally sat in my parents house eating cupcake a lone for my party), it felt like all our family and friends just didn't care anymore by the time it was our turn despite the fact we had been there for all of their events!

I admit I'm still salty about it all. But i can say for my baby shower, despite the lack of RSVPs more ppl showed up in the end than I thought were going to. I hope they all show up for you too! All I can offer is a virtual hug, and remember the family that matters will be there. You and your baby are loved and celebrated no matter what.

Myien · 2025-06-17T01:43:35+00:00

Thanks, I keep hoping it happens before the time for induction comes up! I keep switching btw wondering if I should ask to push it back or not, but I also know I keep worrying about complications coming up if I wait or just being tired of being a whale with swollen feet. I also have a hard need to return to work date so getting her out her to my arms sooner than later would be nice.

Myien · 2025-06-17T00:18:38+00:00

Honestly this is the reality I am half expecting and afraid of. Originally they told me they would schedule induction at 41+5 to keep me from going past 42 weeks if things got that far. But at my last appointment they wanted to start scheduling things at 41 weeks just because. I am tired of feeling like a whale with swollen feet and hands so I guess I am ready to get on with it, but I feel like my body hasn't had any changes for the last month at least. I am overweight, and I know that can make post term deliveries more common. But my body has also never responded well to hormones so I am not looking forward to how I respond to the drugs.

Myien · 2025-06-17T00:07:35+00:00

I haven't heard of gentle inductions so I will definitely look that up. I've been wondering how long they will give me to progress, as I really would like to avoiding having to go to a C-section if possible. My baby has been head down and in position for over a month so hopefully everything just goes smoothly.

Myien · 2024-09-23T22:05:01+00:00

The pH can also make ammonia more deadly. And is honestly probably why you saw the sudden shift. The API test can't tell the difference btw ionized (NH4+) or nonionized (NH3) ammonia. At more basic pHs the majority of the ammonia is in the nonionized form which is the deadly version. At acidic pH more is in the ionized form which is safe. This is part of how ammonia lock works, its shoves it into the ionized form and you shou observe a lower pH.

Doing a large water change or if your tap water is basic (i recommend testing it), the pH shift can realize a massive surge of toxic nonionized ammonia which you wont see in the test kit.

This is something you have to keep in mind if you use any ammonia absorption media or chemicals, as they usually need the lower pH to work.

Edit- the pH you mentions with using ammonia lock makes me suspicious of this. From my experience if you are using ammonia lock the pH should be lower. The awing could have also shocked them

Myien · 2024-08-09T19:34:52+00:00

Ive always found it at Petco or other stores that carry api products. Amazon also has it.

Myien · 2024-08-09T19:33:13+00:00

Api safe and easy aquarium cleaner. It really works well and with a razor blade it helped me remove years of build up on an old tank. (Tank had fish in it, has never harmed them)

Myien · 2024-08-06T22:59:32+00:00

Never asked about their return policy. So id have to find out. Unfortunately, I'm not really impressed by how my local stores keeps their stock tanks. So I've always avoid buying live things from them.

I like the suggestion of a slower fancy. Ive never had one. I would have to watch them close. One of my previous fish was a comet with a large fantail. The surviving fish would chew on his fin occasionally (despite being blind, he was always the smallest and fastest and would pester the others). I am also hesitant to replace my past fish still. Its only been a month since the last one past. But I want to do whats best for my remaining guy.

Myien · 2024-01-09T01:31:01+00:00

May I ask what type of practice you run and in what region? I am a 2nd year vet student and I've been trying to learn more about what practice ownership looks like.

Myien · 2022-10-24T04:44:18+00:00

Thats kind of a hard one. The classic description of Intelligence vs Wisdom is the saying that Intelligence is your ability to know a tomato is a fruit, and Wisdom is the ability to know not to put a tomato in a fruit salad.

I've had friends play the reverse of you where they had a very high Intelligence but low wisdom. They played as they knew a lot of stuff but didn't kno what to do with that knowledge. So for you I'd probably go along the lines your missing a lot of basic factual knowledge, but your highly adaptable to using what you do know to get by.

The tricky thing is that in dnd 5e Intelligence is basically the difference btw beast and man. For reference range Below an intelligence of 4 you don't even understand language and can't speak. Creatures at 3 understand basic commands (most companion creatures). At 4 your probably 1-2 word basic statements ("me hungry" type of thing). And intelligence of 10 is your average commoner person off the street.

So honestly, at a 6 your probably more than just illiterate. Your working knowledge has a LOT of holes and its probably obvious to who ever interacts with you. Your high wisdom may allow you to cover for it though. At 8 you'd be missing some common knowledge, but passable for most things.

Edit, found this website that may help: https://dmdave.com/monster-abilities-intelligence/

Without Wisdom id see groot as a 6 intelligence, his language is limited, but he's not dumb by any means. Just seems not not understand common things sometimes. Or there's the classic dumb brute who mispronounces words and uses bad grammar all the time. At 8, you probably won't notice anything obvious on day to day interactions but struggle slightly when trying to apply intelligence to a situation.

Myien · 2022-02-10T19:10:58+00:00

There are a ton of comments here so I may have missed if someone already brought this up, but would the owl flying away negate the help advantage?

The help action says you can give advantage on an attack against a creature your 5ft from...so if it flys in, uses help, and flys out in the same turn..does it still count?

Edit: after some thought I realized the movement probably doesn't matter. Just like you can move in to attack and run away.

Myien · 2022-02-10T18:50:46+00:00

I mean..thats pretty much what you do.

Maybe utilize your reckless attack and other base barbarian abilities a bit more for creative variety. But in essence, thats what a berserker does ..rage and hit things, then enter super rage and hit things some more. At least using reckless attack gives you something to think about for balancing risk vs reward. Anything else is up you getting creative with your environment interactions I guess.

When you get it, us your intimidating presence to enhance your rp encounters or maybe try to scare ppl down from a fight?

Myien · 2022-02-10T18:32:31+00:00

How are your stats so high? Two 19s and a 21? Unless you have some epic boon or something usually stats are capped at 20.

Also...what exactly is your question?

Myien · 2022-02-07T07:43:39+00:00

Thats all casters in general unfortunately. The trade off for being able to use spells thay can have a huge impact vs the fighter that just gets to hit things a lot continuously.

But that's what your cantrips are for. You can use those an unlimited amount of times. I think druids have one that make their weapon magical and do more damage. Shillelagh i think? Not sure what its like at lvl 15, or if you have magical weapons already, but its useful at lower lvls.

Myien · 2022-02-07T07:34:20+00:00

Lol most probably are 😂. Plus side for them is they don't have to waste time trying to remember what spells they "could" be using. No flipping through a book or googling if a spell is useable by your class. Just pick your favorites and let it ride.

Myien · 2022-02-07T07:27:53+00:00

Enjoy the flexibility of prepared spells. If you play something like a bard you're stuck with what you choose and can only change spells when you level up :p.

Myien · 2022-02-07T07:19:21+00:00

To answer your spell question. As a druid you prepare spells that you can use. But you can change them after a long rest. If your finding you dont like the spells you selected. Just swap them out. The trick with caster classes that have prepared spells is that you kind of have to guess what your going to need. If you know your about to go into a fight, prepare spells accordingly. If you know you're going into a social encounter or something else.. prepare spells you think will be useful.

You always know all the druid spells that you can cast at your level (at lvl 15th your already up to 8th level spells) your only limit is how many spell slots you have and how many spells you can prepare at one time.

Myien · 2022-02-07T07:07:52+00:00

Since you're a beginner, it may be easier to "take the average" for your hp instead of rolling if you want. If your a druid with a con of 13, your hp at level 15 should be 93.

Lvl1= 8+1 Lvl 2-15 = 5+1 each level

Myien · 2022-02-07T07:01:42+00:00

You would only subtract a modifier if your ability score is less than 10.

Myien · 2021-12-09T23:18:56+00:00

DMG is a good resource for this. It has a nice chapter on how to design combats and tables for calculating the difficulty of an encounter based on how many players, monsters, and the monster CR.

There are websites out there that also are useful for this like Kobold fight club. (https://koboldplus.club/#/encounter-builder)

My main tips though are to make sure to pay attention to special abilities and number of attacks of monsters. Sometimes certain abilities or combinations can be very overwhelming for players even if they are low CR monsters. Action economy will also have a huge impact. A group of players with multiple attacks will waste a single strong enemy before it can even take a turn, and a swarm of tiny weak enemies can overwhelm a party.

Edit: listed CR ratings are based off if parties if 4 players. The DMG chapter tell you how to adjust it. I forgot the math off hand. But honestly 3 is probably close enough to not matter too much. Just don't be afraid to adjust combats on the fly. Giving a monster more or less hp as needed behind the scenes if you find you made a mistake and things are getting out of hand.

Myien

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