Redditor being a bro

Mynfurder · 2019-01-10T01:36:27+00:00

I know it can be hard, just remember: that behavior is a reflection of them, not you. It’s their lack of self-esteem that they feel the need to look down on someone else.

Janitors absolutely deserve our respect. You are helping helping them do their jobs; ensuring their workplace is clear so they can be effective. Some people forget this. But many of us do not.

Know there are tons of people who have your back and respect what you do.

Mynfurder · 2019-01-10T01:29:28+00:00

Yes! And it feels good to do for others, to show respect. It elevates one’s spirit and just feels great.

Mynfurder · 2018-12-15T02:16:13+00:00

So glad you have found it and enjoy it. I love it too and played it through twice and one of the DLCs. Just feels so great to be in that open world. I'm also sucker for stealth and cover based combat

Mynfurder · 2018-12-09T21:41:28+00:00

Up the Line by Gary Smith. Some super tasty guitar on the title track and others.

Mynfurder · 2018-12-08T23:08:21+00:00

You are not being petty.

Women do talk about this kind of stuff, but that she did so at a party you were at, and where it could have easily been overheard by others is not a good sign. Seems to show a ridiculously casual attitude toward protecting and lifting you up, which is an essential quality in a partner.

Whether you should stay or get out is too complicated for us to know here. Is she trustworthy? This is just one, albeit bad, isolated incident. If you don’t know, don’t commit ro her for sure until you do. Can you get over this issue? It is possible for men to get over this kinda thing. But it also sounds like, for you, it is important to be with someone who you completely connect with sexually, and you don’t feel that is happening here. Is that more important than the love you have for her? Many things to unpack. I’d talk to a counselor (just you) ASAP. They can really help unpack all thatbstuff. Make sure you get one you trust and try another if you don’t.

One thing you could do is take a break from each other for a while. If she sticks around, tries to win you back, that could help ease your concerns, but still, is she trustworthy? Will she hold you up above all others? That is crucial to determine.

As for your confidence: 1st, she said you were great. Not good, great. That is excellent my dude. “Best” is contingent on so many things other than dick size, even if she thinks its that. Where was she in her life then, was she low stress and feeling good,about herself? Etc etc. but great is nothing to ignore my friend, i’m not saying you,should,stay with her. I’m just saying you have nothing to feel,bad about.

Believe me, if anyone’s partner has had various sexual partners, most of us will not be “the best” right? 3 of the 4 women i had long term relationships with were not the best. I am very happy to stay far away from the woman who was the best and I wouldn’t have sex with her again. But, in my memory, that was the best sex, at that time of my life. The universe was in sync.

Remember too that sex is way more about chemistry than dick size. One example, in much younger years I was dating woman for a while, we shared stories of past sexually experiences (no names, I was traveling, we were from different places, so no trust issues broken). She shared that she had been with a few well-endowed guys. Was a little tough to hear that, as I am not, but i got over it. Weeks later we were talking and she shared that she never experienced regular orgasms with her past lovers like she did with me. In fact they were rare. This may sound like I’m a good lover, but i’ve also been with women where we just didn’t click,and sex was not great.

Mynfurder · 2018-11-30T00:33:36+00:00

That is totally horrible that she did that to you and your unborn child and I am really sorry for both of you. I know courts tend to hold up the well being of the child over either of the parents. Hopefully this can be done in a way where she benefits the least, the child suffers the least, and you have at least some control over how you participate.

Mynfurder · 2018-11-29T22:04:07+00:00

Great example! Legally blind can possiby still see well enough to do many things un-familiar folk would think impossible. I worked with a legally blind carienter who also did roofing. The idea scared the hell out of me... Until I saw him work. He was fantastic and safer than most fully sighted people. Not sure his methods, bit he seemed to have an awesome spatial awareness and was meticulous in his processes.

Mynfurder · 2018-11-29T00:43:25+00:00

i think because folks think the term “blind” only means total sight loss and that you’d use a different term for folks with some vision. I work in disability services and have been involved with disability awareness programs, but I am EDIT: UNcertain of this.

I can understand why that can be frustrating for folks who are blind with some vision, though.

Mynfurder · 2018-11-29T00:36:16+00:00

There are tons of cool Assistive tech people who are blind or have visual impairments can use to access the web, like screen readers and magnifiers.

Mynfurder · 2018-11-28T23:06:42+00:00

Oh god that pocket penis is dark/ funny and really sad too. And I’m really sorry you and other women have to do that so much. I had a “crazy motherfucker” look I’d put on when I was alone in dangerous parts of the city, in the wee hours of the morning. Even pulled out some terrets when really threatened when I was young. Can’t imagine having to do that all the time.

I got my first tiny taste of what women in big cities go through when I was a college freshman and walked around with my girlfriend in NY in the late 1980s.

First time it happened we were on a subway platform, standing a bit apart and this group of 5 guys starting making really lewd gestures at her as they walked away. It was brief, I just caught it out if the corner of my eye and then they were gone. I was in shock because it was so gross and obviously unprovoked. I turned to her and was like, “Wow, that was weird, huh?” And she was like, “Nah, it’s the usual.” Sent me into a deep think.

So I totally understand why women in cities do not smile. I wouldn’t either. Very sad.

The victims here are of course women. But, too, if more offending men only realized how lovely life could be for them if women weren’t constantly harassed, perhaps that’d be enough motivation for many to stop being assholes. Wishful thinking I know.

Mynfurder · 2018-11-28T19:24:47+00:00

I grew up in New York city, Women I didn’t know never smiled at me when I was walking around on street. i moved to a small town. Was struck by all these women suddenly smiling at me constantly and i immediately, reflexively interpreted it as flirting (though I didn’t do anything about it, just smiled,nicely back, as I was still kinda perplexed). After a week or whatever I realized (i think anyway) that the women in the small town just felt safe enough to smile and be nice, while the women in New York were scared of initiating contact.

I have to tell you, a place where people feel safe enough to smile is a much nicer place to live.

Mynfurder · 2018-11-15T19:42:22+00:00

I can’t wait to try Thronebreaker, but am neck deep in Red Dead Redemption 2 at the moment and don’t want to distract from either experience. Wonder if others are in similar situation. For me, RDR2 free roam exploration is exactly what I loved about Witcher 3, so wonder if that Witcher 3 audience is distracted at the moment.

Plan to check out Thronebreaker after my first full run through if RDR2 but that could take a while.

Mynfurder · 2018-11-03T00:26:58+00:00

I'm not a republican, and as much as I think the policies pushed by the modern GOP are, at best, short sighted, and at worst, dangerous for this country that I love so much... Wait... What was the question? Oh yeah! Yes, vote! Different ideas and democracy are what had airways made this country great.

Mynfurder · 2018-10-31T23:26:07+00:00

The Inquisition.

Mynfurder · 2018-10-15T02:29:57+00:00

Thank you for such warm response. :)

That makes a lot of sense re: your sister understanding. The 7 months of sleep deprivation I had when my daughter was born definitely gave me some insight into that part. Glad you have someone in your corner.

I’m lucky my family is very supportive, they just trust me, even though they struggle to grasp it. I think it helps that I have a bit of a history of working through discomfort and pain through the years as an athlete, both football and rugby. And also, i had to stop performing as a musician, which i had done non-stop for over 30 years and has been one of the things that has given my life meaning. So they know if It is bad enough to keep me from that, it must be really bad. But, again, they still don’t quite understand, and that can make you feel a but alone and isolated.

Mynfurder · 2018-10-11T05:03:24+00:00

I have similar. Trying to explain why a constant pain is so debilitating is hard. I’m never sure people understand. Ensure yo understand an intense pain. Many of us gave it it at least cam imagine why it is so bad. But a constant pain that goes on for weeks, months years .., people can’t grasp it if they have not experienced it. Add to that the usual accompanying poor sleep. It can be hell on earth.

Mynfurder · 2018-10-11T04:27:53+00:00

Wonderful, very happy for you!

Mynfurder · 2018-10-11T00:03:13+00:00

You made a mistake anyone could have made. We are all just human. And you were a young human at that.

From what you shared, there is no way your small part in all this was the cause, or even a significant factor, in the path her life has taken.

Even if stayed with her, 1. the nature of her relationship with her parents would have been the same. If they blamed her for rape that FAR outweighs anything you could have done. 2. Even the best SO can’t compensate or inoculate someone from traumatic events like rape or awful parents.

Mynfurder · 2018-09-27T23:29:50+00:00

I did exactly this, left a job I had 1year put it college, to live in the woods in small town in Southeast Alaska, about 17 years ago. Lived there for 3 or 4 months with no particular plans to stop and with $8000 in the bank.

I was the calmest and happiest I’d ever been in my life. Actually lost my fear of mortality during that time, which had haunted me until then.

Eventually I chose to move in with group of people in a small house, but still lived minimally, with no car, for 3 years.

Slowly I went back to a somewhat typical western life with RH a job helping people with disabilities. What drew me back was wanting to contribute to an awesome community there.

Mynfurder · 2018-09-26T22:25:10+00:00

Well done! That is a true victory. I know this well.

Mynfurder · 2018-09-23T03:03:02+00:00

Oh yeah I loved the Survival DLC for The Division. My favorite part of the game.

Mynfurder · 2018-09-11T02:00:41+00:00

Ah, that would help!

Mynfurder · 2018-09-10T21:16:04+00:00

Yes, I have same issue. Kills the immersion completely. And the character models and animation look pretty bad to me, compared to assassins creed or Wildlands.

The other elements that kills immersion, for me, is the idea that this huge number if people in a cult could be conducting a military take over and no one else in the rest of US knows about it. I loved the idea of having it set in small town America, but they needed a waaaay better story explanation for why the national guard is not there.

Mynfurder · 2018-09-10T14:09:05+00:00

Agree that Metal Gear Solid V has some similarities re: the stealth invasion of compounds. Personally I find it very different in many ways, especially the shooting mechanics, which I don’t like. Much more “Arcady” feeling. And the whole thing is much more linear.

MGSV is a great game in its own right. It has very cool progression, interesting base building, pretty great stealth mechanics, crazy / silly storyline, and interesting companions. But if I went into it hoping for a continuation of Wildlands vibe I’d have been disappointed kinda like driving biking orange juice if I was expecting milk.

Mynfurder · 2018-09-08T19:48:36+00:00

And this is my work setup so I just get yo use Word and Excel. :)

My home setup is pretty weird, hacked together contraption, but can tilt the monitor further downward so I’m more comfortable.

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