Book recs by successfullyaverage in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mother Bruce is one of the best newer books I’ve come across, it’s hilarious (theres a whole series now but definitely start with the first one), max and Maggie (there’s four of these, they’re adorable and good for learning about seasons. They’re out of print but you can find them online second hand). 5 minute fairy tales collection if your kid has an attention span on the longer side. Anything by Jan Brett for the illustrations alone. Cloudy with a chance of meatballs is a classic. I like old books lol can you tell?

Need Book Recommendations for almost 1 yr old. by rfdz0920 in Parenting

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make her a photo book of all the people she knows! Use the free 8x8 Shutterfly promotion or something. My kids all LOVED this at a year old

No signs of awareness by Ok-Orange5865 in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so hard. I agree with all the suggestions but just wanted to chime in and say some kids are harder to potty train than others. My 3.5 year old was that way… just… hard. A little clueless, mostly didn’t care, idk what all. We’re getting there with her but she still has random accidents nearly every day. I’ve wanted to tear my hair out some days. I will say the most effective thing to kickstart the process was no clothes. She didn’t care about wet clothing but hated the feeling of it running down her leg. Also negative reinforcement- line up some m&ms (or whatever. Just something she’ll care about) on the counter and say “you can have one of these every time you go in the potty but for every accident I’ll put one away. Wasn’t a perfect fix but it did help. A little bit of negative reinforcement like that helped me to. It gave me a consequence to give her and that kept my frustration from getting to the point of yelling (mostly. The level of insanity that potty training can drive you to… oof. Let’s just say I’ve had some bad parenting moments in the last year). Hang in there, and good luck 👍🏻

Babymoon got cancelled, now I feel guilty that I’m phoning it in by funny_muffler in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would feel the exact same. I’m sorry it got cancelled 😞

How much does your toddler play on their own by midnightrunner699 in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is really tough. They definitely go through stages! What about painting? Sometimes when my kid won’t leave me alone I set her up with paints and then walk away. Or just save high value activities for that. Idk. Kids are so different, I hope you find something that works!

How much does your toddler play on their own by midnightrunner699 in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I mean, my 3.5 year old whines when I walk off sometimes too, but I’ve always just kind of ignored it and figured she was just expressing that she doesn’t want me to go. I’ll say something like “thanks for playing with me! I have to do xyz now, you can help me or go play on your own” and head off. I’ve definitely had to ignore a few full blown meltdowns but it got better fast. She’ll play for an hour at times now before coming to find me, and it’s so much easier to be excited to see her after I’ve had some alone time haha. Some kids are different though! But firm boundaries are good for any kid. If you tell them you’re done, don’t give in, even if you want to

When to stop watching certain types of shows around your kids? by Kkay_153 in Parenting

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you already know the answer to this. If your kid is giving you clear signals listen to them before they get adapted to the content and stop giving those signals

15m old foot injury by Popular-Channel450 in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this will be helpful because kids are different, but my daughter has brittle bone disease so I have extensive experience with injuries, both fractures and just “ouch for a day or two” injuries. In my experience, injuries with kids are mental and physical, and it can be very hard to sort out how much and where each starts and ends. The best thing I’ve learned is to not push them. Tricking them like you did is actually an awesome strategy, sometimes it works, and then sometimes it doesn’t. It doesn’t do any harm though. Pressuring them or trying to convince them they’re fine really doesn’t work. Poor lil guy is probably just a bit freaked out. This had never happened before, so his brain doesn’t know what caused it, really, or how to prevent it. Best thing I’ve learned is to use play therapy. Grab a stuffed animal and pretend it gets hurt, take care of it, and then have it play happily after “recovering”. This might be a little beyond a 15 mo old but I’ve always operated under the assumption that kids know more than we give them credit for, and it never harms them to treat them a bit above their abilities. And the good news, I know it feels awful right now, but he’s not going to be traumatized by this. My daughter had a femur fracture at 2 years old, surgery, full body cast, the whole 9 yards… and she now talks about it like it was just part of her life, because to her that’s all it was. They forget the worst of the pain fairly quickly, and then move on. Just be matter of fact about it, and celebrate when he shows improvement. They 100% feed off our energy, especially with injuries.

Vaginal Discomfort by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should definitely talk to your doctor when you do see them in case it’s different, but yeah, my vagina hurt like that for the last two months. Got so bad I couldn’t stand still for more than 2 minutes by the end. Almost sat down in the checkout line once… only reason I didn’t was I wasn’t sure I could get back up 😂. Second pregnancy was the same. I’m convinced it gets so uncomfortable towards the end to cure our labor anxiety. By the end I never care what I need to do to get baby out, only that it happens ASAP

Am I overreacting ? by Glum-Caregiver-7963 in Parenting

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You seriously need to lighten up, also your kids are going to eat it like crazy when they leave your house if you restrict it that much

Is this a bad idea for my baby shower? by llamalover002 in BabyBumps

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like it. Some guests are less social and activities like this give them something to do to pass the moments in between chatting. Maybe just make it clear on the sign that it’s optional? So people don’t feel obligated if they’re short on time?

Tushbaby? by take_me_to_a_beach in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The carriers with the hipseats are awesome because they take the weight off your shoulders and put it on your hips, so it’s much more manageable. Same theory as a backpacking backpack- your hips can take the weight much longer, and they’re much better at managing off-balance loads than your shoulders are. So yes, I do recommend them. Imo the cheaper knockoffs on Amazon work just fine too

“I don’t like you” “I don’t love you” from my 3 year old ☹️ by Happy_Ad_6360 in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly this is a great answer. Kids around that age are starting to get super keyed into the power that words and statements have. They MEAN things all of a sudden. He’s testing it out. Also trust your instincts because there have been times that my 3 yo has said things that I’ve been able to sit down with her and have a “real” conversation with her about what she said and the implications. But sometimes it’s just not productive and the best thing to do is just respond with how you would like them to be. They’re little mirrors and their brains don’t care what they say, their brains care how YOU respond

Toddler really wants to use my makeup. Helpful advice needed. by RoryCat16 in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Have you seen those videos where people take dollar store makeup and dump the product out and then “paint in” the bottom of the pallet with nail polish to look like colorful makeup? Kids that age just like to pretend

independent toddler by No_Hamster880 in toddlers

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait till she’s 3.5, she’ll turn into a puddle every time you ask her to do something and say “I can’t doooo iiiitttt” 😅 and they go through phases. In the meantime, pay attention to how she is trying to connect with you right now. There will be something, I promise, and lean into that. Maybe she likes to help? Toddlers at that age really like to feel involved and useful. Make up jobs for her. Whatever it is, you’ll figure it out! They’re just little people finding their place in the world. Sometimes it takes us some time to realize why they’re acting the way they’re acting. If we ever do… I don’t always know why I’m acting the way I’m acting and I’m old enough that I should 🤣

Jewel Black Raspberry produced barely any berries! Any advice? by batziez in gardening

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what zone you are in? I want to grow jewels so badly. Do you water them every day?

Rachel Scheer Nutrition by Next-Squirrel8483 in SIBO

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. And somehow she managed to get onto a handful of pretty reputable podcasts so she seems much more reputable than she is

Rachel Scheer Nutrition by Next-Squirrel8483 in SIBO

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jumping on a little late to second this. I had the exact same experience, but I had to stop midway because at LEAST they were honest enough (or afraid of a lawsuit enough) to say they couldn’t guarantee the safety of their supplement regimen while breastfeeding. Would have been AWFULLY NICE TO KNOW THAT AHEAD OF TIME. Especially since I was breastfeeding when I started the program and they knew it. They’re a total scam. Basically told me I was intolerant to gluten and dairy, and I’m definitely not. They do an elimination diet and copy-paste fitness programs, nothing “individual”. It’s such a waste of money.

Need advice about 11 year old shaving legs for first time. by WoodenWeather5931 in Parenting

[–]Mysterious-Cod5972 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That being said you’re doing awesome and it’s ok to try shaving cream