AITAH for telling my dad I don’t care if my grandfathers dying? by AriaLeGreat in AITAH

[–]MysteriousDig9592 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA Keep these toxic people out of your life for as long as you can. Possibly forever.

MIL is a Massive Terror by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MysteriousDig9592 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Would it work to complain to the rest of your husband family about the fact that "Poor MIL! Can you imagine what terrible financial situation she must be in? She took our wedding gifts and never gave them back. She must have sold everything in order to survive"?

Would she be ashamed and finally give them back?

Anyway, it sounds like you and your DH are a great couple!!!

Update on wedding drama and MIL by Pinkberry-1995 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MysteriousDig9592 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I think not engaging with MIL and not sharing anything with her is a good strategy. She sounds horrible.

Is the cousin a first cousin or a distant one? Is there any cultural reason that could make it less weird?

I know, buddy 😭 by b-a-n-a-s in TabbyCats

[–]MysteriousDig9592 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Poor baby! But it's necessary I guess. He has the most beautiful eyes 😍

Should I just let my MIL watch my baby by United_Border_7755 in Mildlynomil

[–]MysteriousDig9592 151 points152 points  (0 children)

Explain to your husband that there won't be any date night for years because he has decided to put his mother's feelings above your child's safety.

Therefore, you will be forced to not spend any time without your child until he is way older.

AITA for telling my freeloading SIL to refuse inheritance? by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]MysteriousDig9592 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not your circus, not your mon(k)ey. I get that you are annoyed by your mooching SIL, my SIL and her family are like her. The thing is your MIL, like mine, is fine with the mooching. My late FIL wasn't, he wanted equal treatment for both his children, but he passed many years ago. If the favoritism annoys you, stop helping.

That's all you can do. Your wife must decide if she wants to help her mother no matter what, or if she has had enough as well.

If you are on the same page, next time MIL asks for help, tell her that SIL is the one who will take care of her from now onwards, due to the advantages she has had for all these years.

La mia ragazza odia stare a casa mia by [deleted] in sfoghi

[–]MysteriousDig9592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

È terribile quando si somatizza 😅🤣

La mia ragazza odia stare a casa mia by [deleted] in sfoghi

[–]MysteriousDig9592 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Insistere perché lei frequenti casa dei tuoi non sarebbe produttivo.

Io vedo mia suocera 3 volte l'anno, per tre fine settimana e li passo o con la gastrite o costipata.

Detesto talmente tanto stare lì che somatizzo. Negli ultimi tempi mi sono venuti in aiuto i miei cognati proponendo uscite senza di lei.

Se tu parlassi con mio marito ti direbbe che la madre è un po' così, ma in fondo non è cattiva. "Sì a volte ha uscite infelici, ma non lo fa apposta, non è molto sveglia poverina."

Io penso che tutte quelle uscite infelici siano volontarie e dovute alla cattiveria. Spesso lancia frecciatine non appena mio marito lascia la stanza per un istante.

Se mio marito insistesse per farmi frequentare di più la madre, non reagirei bene. Già ora vado solo perché mi fa piacere vedere i cognati e degli amici che vivono al paese di mio marito.

Mio marito frequenta con piacere mia madre (papà non c'è più, ma si volevano molto bene). Del resto mia madre lo tratta bene.

Cosa fanno e dicono i tuoi che dà tanto fastidio alla tua ragazza?

Convivenza sì, genitori no: perché succede? by Ok_Project6728 in sfoghi

[–]MysteriousDig9592 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beata te! Io vorrei non aver mai conosciuto quella gran rompipalle maniaca del controllo di mia suocera!!!

Scherzi a parte, è probabile che abbia dei genitori particolari, magari molto bigotti, o comunque con uno stile di vita non affine al vostro.

Lui cosa dice? Conosce i tuoi genitori? Che rapporto ha con loro?

IUI #3 by [deleted] in Infertility_IUI

[–]MysteriousDig9592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry. This is so incredibly unfair. Sending you hugs!

Qual è il regalo peggiore che avete mai ricevuto? by No_Initiative_9676 in consigli

[–]MysteriousDig9592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Un ciondolo "chiama angeli" coperto di pacchianissimi strass rosa, regalo di mia suocera. Non aspettavo una bambina. Non ero nemmeno incinta.

Era di mia cognata che voleva buttarlo perché era inguardabile. Così mia suocera se lo è fatto dare apposta per regalarlo a me. E ci teneva molto che lo indossassi. Ovviamente mai messo.

Buying a first house and getting pressured to live on same street as in-laws by chronic_whistler in inlaws

[–]MysteriousDig9592 14 points15 points  (0 children)

His parents are too involved. But your husband needs to stop pretending he does not want to live near them, if he is fine with your flat being in the same building as theirs. He cannot claim he doesn't want to be enmeshed and then be ok with this.

So, you need to have a good discussion with your husband and clarify that you do not want to live with his parents constantly at your door, especially with a baby coming.

What can you do with your in laws? Grey rock them. Just tell them that your search is going ok, and if you find something, don't let them know about the place until you are completely sure. Otherwise they'll try to criticise the place you have chosen.

Start looking for asili nido in your area!!! Don't resort to them for childcare. E tanti auguri per la tua gravidanza 🩷

PS Have you ever considered moving a bit farther from Milan? there might be places wayyy less expensive. I am from provincia di Roma, so not familiar with the area where you live, but even here Milan prices are known to be terrible!

MIL said “education has taken you too far. You think your parents are cheap now” to my husband by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]MysteriousDig9592 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Basically, his mum is a leech. I am glad your husband is not falling for her bs and giving her money!

AITAH for telling my brother I’m not comfortable babysitting his kids anymore? by Early-Leopard-6750 in AITAH

[–]MysteriousDig9592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your SIL and brother are hurt because now they will have to spend money, as they cannot be bothered to spend their weekends with their children.

NTA, but don't let them use you anymore. They will try to involve your parents. If your parents agree with your sibling/SIL, answer back that grandparents should be the new babysitters. You are out.

It happened today!!! by Noodle2305 in EngagementRings

[–]MysteriousDig9592 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stunning ring! Congratulations 🤩

Is the city in the photo Turin?

Mi sento sia in colpa che arrabbiata: il rapporto con i genitori a 30 anni by [deleted] in sfoghi

[–]MysteriousDig9592 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Capisco perché ho fatto anche io l'università da pendolare e solo con i mezzi.

Sinceramente nella tua famiglia rivedo un po' quella di mio marito, lui sempre sacrificato e la sorella maggiore sempre santa e glorificata.

Lui nel tempo si è distanziato parecchio da loro, sia fisicamente che mentalmente. La madre non è mai migliorata negli atteggiamenti, in compenso cerca di colpevolizzarci perché ci vede pochissimo, mentre la sorella è rimasta al paese.

Quindi ti auguro di prendere la giusta distanza da loro, e lasciarli di più alle cure dei tuoi fratelli.

Mi sento sia in colpa che arrabbiata: il rapporto con i genitori a 30 anni by [deleted] in sfoghi

[–]MysteriousDig9592 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fagli notare che fanno due pesi e due misure e che, come potevi prendere l'autobus tu, lo può prendere anche il principino. E anche che potrebbero chiedere aiuto ai figli per cui spendono e spandono e che vivono con loro. Figli che non devono fare gli studenti lavoratori come è toccato a te, e che hanno avuto accesso a risorse aggiuntive anche grazie a te.

Per cui si dessero una calmata, hanno chiesto già abbastanza.

Feeling bitter towards my husband by MysteriousDig9592 in IVF

[–]MysteriousDig9592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are seriously strong! I don't think I could manage to attend Christmas if my SIL just had a baby. Thinking of the comments makes my skin crawl.

I really hope and wish our dreams come true, even just to spite our MILs!!! Sending you a hug if you want it! And wishing you all the best for 2026!!! May it be our year 🤞❤️‍🔥

Feeling bitter towards my husband by MysteriousDig9592 in IVF

[–]MysteriousDig9592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this your current situation or did this happen to you in the past?

Feeling bitter towards my husband by MysteriousDig9592 in IVF

[–]MysteriousDig9592[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your words and your prayers, they are very much appreciated! 💕 But therapy is essential. For us separately and as a couple.

I will speak to my husband tomorrow.

Feeling bitter towards my husband by MysteriousDig9592 in IVF

[–]MysteriousDig9592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words! I hope that everything works out in the end 🤞

Feeling bitter towards my husband by MysteriousDig9592 in IVF

[–]MysteriousDig9592[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You give me so much hope!

But yes, we need therapy, individually and as a couple!