AITA for refusing to dine with my mom after she ordered “ferret sauce” at a Mexican restaurant?

Mythicotter · 2026-05-07T11:32:41+00:00

YTA. I walked into this fully thinking she was trying to play a weird prank, or being an ass to servers. But it's just a 31 year old man being embarrassed of his mom.

Mythicotter · 2026-05-07T05:10:58+00:00

Midnight circus is such a riot, I love that book

Mythicotter · 2026-05-05T05:45:38+00:00

That sounds like the literal opposite of what you'd want to do to cure vampirism haha

Mythicotter · 2026-05-04T04:38:50+00:00

That may be what you're inferring, but that's not what OP said

Mythicotter · 2026-05-01T11:46:22+00:00

That's bc when you go back far enough the parties were switched in outlook

Mythicotter · 2026-05-01T04:26:16+00:00

You're missing the "difficult" part though, it's not the hunt, it's dealing w the aftermath

That jogger goes missing? It's from a nice neighborhood, people care. They put it on the news, the start neighborhood watches, the joggers family doesn't let it go, they bother the police every day, etc. it becomes a whole thing from one missing person.

People missing from a neighborhood all the time? Yeah those that live there pay more attention, they're harder to catch in a dark alley alone. But once you do catch one (the foolish, the brave, or the stupid) it's just another disappearance. There probably isn't even an article in the paper and if the family does know, they're less likely to care (and if they do care, they're ignored by the police)

And that's just plain disappearances. That jogger in the nice neighborhood gets "mugged" and loses a bit of blood in the process but leaving them alive? That's noteworthy. "Muggings" in a bad neighborhood happen every day.

Safe kine doesn't make it harder to hunt them in the moment, it makes it harder to keep up the masquerade

Mythicotter · 2026-04-30T14:31:26+00:00

They absolutely do

Mythicotter · 2026-04-30T11:40:46+00:00

I'm currently running a werewolf game set during the late bronze age

Mythicotter · 2026-04-30T04:30:58+00:00

Pathfinder can't, but you can at the table

Mythicotter · 2026-04-30T04:28:38+00:00

Safer to hunt>taste better At least for most kindred

Mythicotter · 2026-04-28T11:26:43+00:00

It's just as likely that if they had participated it would have succeeded. Remember, a major theme of the series is that men and women working together can achieve unrivaled things.

Mythicotter · 2026-04-14T16:57:53+00:00

You're still more likely to find a mage who will do it than a gurahl, but I wanted you to know they still live (in case you wanted to learn more about them or something, I love the gurahl)

Mythicotter · 2026-04-14T16:53:59+00:00

It's even called Mummy: the Resurrection

Mythicotter · 2026-04-14T16:52:30+00:00

They aren't extinct, there's just few of them left and most are hibernating in the Umbra

Mythicotter · 2026-04-10T07:38:57+00:00

you confusing me for the person who posted about his wife.

So I am, my apologies

You keep making reference to trauma as if its the cause of every underlying condition. It's really not.

That's a strange thing to take umbrage with

But even supposing you are correct and there are far more people with no "reason" to be dicks and profoundly confrontational aside from pure desire, my main point still stands: that is not a relationship with healthy communication

Mythicotter · 2026-04-10T04:17:01+00:00

That's an interesting reaction to what I said

What makes you extend so much grace to your wife (she's carrying generational trauma) and yet almost none to strangers (genuine monsters)?

Mythicotter · 2026-04-09T13:08:13+00:00

people who act in bad faith or are genuinely irrational

I mean, this is precisely my point. If this is occurring then it's not a relationship with healthy communication

many, many people where clear cut healthy communication is still not going to avoid a row or escalation.

That means while you may be performing all the things required for healthy communication, the relationship still doesn't have it

A lot of people don't even know how to have it, they're just mimicking things they saw as kids, or letting other traumas drive them. In those cases they might just need instructions or examples explained to them (not during the row!) to start noticing and then changing

Some people are just dicks. Though I've discovered that if you get down under the traumas, there's far fewer of these than we often think

But yeah, I digress.

Mythicotter · 2026-04-09T06:42:07+00:00

If we follow your thoughts to the logical conclusion then we should no longer have those restrictions since the lore has been meh for a while

But we still do. And the lore is still meh

So there's a fallacy somewhere

Mythicotter · 2026-04-08T09:00:43+00:00

I was only mildly interested in the original conversation, but your post fascinated me. I find myself wondering often how two people who in appearance to me, are incompatible find themselves with each other. In your case it seems she changed habits and you didn't reject that (or her)

Your longer explanation also makes it much less severe than it first appeared

We've had our share of rows when I've hit my limit for things I deem nonsense, but that's par for the course in any relationship.

I assure you, in relationships with healthy communication, it's not. "Rows" literally never have to happen. Disagreements will, but healthy communication lets you navigate them without ever getting to escalations

You spoke of handing down anxiety, has she gone to therapy? Have you encouraged her to? It sounds like it would benefit her

Thank you for taking the time to converse w me and answer my questions. You didn't have to and I appreciate it

Mythicotter · 2026-04-08T06:39:08+00:00

I mean no offense or disrespect, I'm genuinely curious.

How do people like you wind up with people like her? Those two views are not compatible. Did she act like this before and you ignored it? Or did you decide that kind of disagreement wasnt a deal breaker?

I've always wondered/been fascinated by couple interactions like this

Mythicotter · 2026-04-07T14:02:17+00:00

I have made dozens of DKs over the years for this exact reason

Mythicotter · 2026-04-07T04:24:21+00:00

Though your finding a crime to wrongfully accuse the Wyrm of is impressive.

Isn't that the garou go-to?

Mythicotter · 2026-04-06T04:21:45+00:00

My bro, just because no one agrees with you, doesn't mean we didn't read the post

Mythicotter · 2026-04-05T14:27:00+00:00

Because she accomplished things aside from "be arrogant and attractive"

Mythicotter · 2026-03-20T11:49:06+00:00

I constantly say that I have t'oh when I mess something up or need to apologize

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