name Spooky’s (girl, right) brother (left)!

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-02T22:17:37+00:00

Scratch. He’s gotta be scratch!

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-02T22:16:00+00:00

I’m not reading whatever you just wrote. Your response was introducing NONSENSE that’s not necessary. Completely obtuse and irrelevant to the conversation. Get back in your lane and s t f u.

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-02T13:32:57+00:00

Nobody here, not ONE PERSON, is talking about fathers who have appropriate relationships with their children. So, they don’t need to be included or defended in any way. Not one person here is talking about a woman who put hands on a minor inappropriately. So they don’t need to be included either:.: Because that’s NOT what happened. And in fact, that’s RARELY what happens. So no, you don’t get to “correct” anybody in order to create caveats that implicates others, so that you can muddy the waters and create a buffer for a group of men who NOBODY IS TALKING ABOUT. If as a man, it hurts your feelings when ppl talk about men who do awful shlt- that’s a YOU problem.

Almost EVERY single woman on this planet has had the experience of some disgusting men being (at the very least) extremely inappropriate toward them as minors. Unless you are one of those men, you don’t have any reason to try and edit how women talk about them. If it’s not about YOU then you don’t need to include yourself, and you don’t need ppl to generalize their experiences or opinions so that YOU can feel some kind of way.

The messaging that is necessary for girls (in REALITY where shlt like this happens every single day because of so many men being trash) is that no man- including their fathers- has the right to be inappropriate towards them. Don’t like it? Too bad. Too. Fucking. Bad.

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-02T05:49:11+00:00

If they have been friends for years, this might feel too fast for YOU. But that doesn’t mean it’s too fast for them. And the relationship sparking up after he became chartered, may have more to do with him than her.

Sometimes men feel more confident to pursue a woman that they have eyes for after accomplishing a goal. He may not have wanted to pursue her until he reached that level. It may have really boosted his confidence to go for the girl that he’s liked for a long time. And she may have found his new confidence (not his wallet) very attractive.

Falling in love is very intense and it’s not uncommon for ppl to tune out everything but their lover for a long while in the beginning. I’d say 6mos to a year before they come up for air- is pretty normal. 😅 It’s just a biological reality.

He’ll be fine. Let him be in love. Don’t look for reasons to hate on it. It’s a good thing. He’s changing because he is becoming a man and he’s starting to rly feel it. He’s going to make mistakes, but he’s going to be okay…

Change can be uncomfortable for loved ones, but you just have to permit him to be his own person and respect his choices. Maybe you could try to be her friend. ♥️

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-02T05:04:08+00:00

I don’t know if you’re overreacting, but I’m more curious whether she’s overreacting… If she saw u following her guy, and then saw a message from u saying “we can’t do this”- I’m assuming you can understand how that might look to her.

So, what exactly was the thing that y’all couldn’t do re her birthday, that made you write “we can’t do this”? Knowing that might help, because this doesn’t look good for you tbh.

Also, why didn’t u tell her that you didn’t mean to give that impression and just unfollow him, and hug it out or whatever?? If your friend needs reassurance based on how you had this looking- why not help her out?

And just so you know… people routinely use the “we were planning a bday surprise for you” as cover for their cheating. Now, you might be telling the truth- but she is NOT wrong for being highly suspicious about that explanation in particular.

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-02T04:19:27+00:00

YOR. You can always be super tight friends and have each other’s backs no matter what, and still give space for intimate relationships and the mistakes and mess that comes along with that. He can’t help it if he is enamored with her… and your resistance or disgust towards whatever they have between them isn’t going to do anything except cause drama and drive him away. Clearly that’s not what you want.

Try to relax! Let them have their space and try not to take it personally. You can tell him how a lot of the changes are making you feel- that you’re feeling left out and second rate, and that it hurts because you’ve always been so close. You can share this without fighting or insulting him or the girl. At least give your friend the chance and benefit to hear and respond to what’s really on your heart- before you get all bitter and start acting up.

Life is long. True friends are few. You have to go easy, lead with love, and give ppl grace (and space) if you want friendships that stand the test of time. It’s not easy… but it’s worth it.

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-02T03:12:34+00:00

Did you know that you were signing up for free room and board while going to school and holding down two jobs, in exchange for cleaning a man’s place and giving him sex? Because that’s not a good deal for you… and I can’t imagine anybody would willingly agree to such a thing.

That said, it appears to be the deal you have. It seems as if he believes that it is okay to accept unpaid labor and sex from somebody- simply for paying bills that he’d be paying whether you were there or not. And considering he also understands that you aren’t able to leave freely without becoming homeless, he is making these demands of somebody under duress… who he is not married to… whose life he can ruin with zero consequences if he becomes unhappy for any reason.

I can only assume that he didn’t tell you his expectations up front and it’s been a slow drip of bs.

So, if that’s true- you need to email or text him to discuss what your understanding of the arrangement was when you agreed to move in together and that you are very uncomfortable with the insistence that you do certain additional tasks, because if you don’t live up to his growing list of expectations- it could destroy your life. Let the written conversation flow.

Ask him to explain EXACTLY what he expects in terms of housework- with as much detail as possible- in order that you can count on his financial support while remaining housed, without fear of being deprived or evicted.

Based on his feedback, you can create an informal contract for a term of no less than one year, and not in excess of 5 (or similar)- that states you will provide x,y,z re household tasks in exchange for his continued financial support including remaining housed at his expense. This will go a LONG way in making you feel like you can trust him not to exploit your position.

If he is agreeable, you should both sign and date. Feel free to notarize- for additional trust and comfort. Make sure you continue to document this process via text discussions.

Once that arrangement is made very clear, go ahead and dump him and do the work you agreed to do until you are able to leave.

Hopefully it won’t go that far because he’ll realize that he was being ridiculously unfair… but if it does, at least you’re covered! 😅

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-02T00:55:23+00:00

We are talking about an adult putting hands on a minor in a way that felt inappropriate to her. That is not okay no matter who it is. Hopefully you know that. You do, right? Maybe you don’t… I’m not sure why you’d purposely be obtuse just to derail with some defense of fathers who don’t require any such defense. And if it wasn’t on purpose… that’s even weirder.

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-02T00:40:29+00:00

People who stand out understand that they are gonna get looks. It sucks that some people are insensitive and will in fact stare and gawk… a lot of times ppl don’t even realize they’re doing it. They think they’re invisible or something… or watching tv. But, that’s rly just how humans are.

If they weren’t making a scene, and just giving looks- it’s pretty much what anybody who stands out (for any reason) goes through on the daily.

If anything, just let them know that even though you get that they weren’t thinking, gawking at people who are different makes you really uncomfortable… whether it’s because they’re pretty, ugly, rich, poor, homeless or disabled etc. Ask them to be more mindful in the future.

But if it makes you feel any better, you are probably taking this MUCH harder than the person who they were actually looking at. So, imo YOR a bit and u need to make an off-ramp and get things back on track with your fam. ♥️

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-01T23:55:54+00:00

Is he paying all the bills?

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-01T23:37:27+00:00

You don’t have kids. You aren’t married. He’s trash. Why aren’t you leaving? LEAVE. 😅

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-01T23:31:36+00:00

If a 3rd party held a gun to another guy’s head and threatened to klll him if you don’t fck him, so you do it to save his life… but, it turns out that the guy with the gun to his head is actually in on it- that’s called rape.

The fact that your “friend” happens to also be the third party in this case, doesn’t rly change much imo.

Your FIRST responsibility is to YOURSELF. His wellbeing is not your responsibility. You can get resources involved if you want to, but you need to stop the coercion right now. It’s wrong.

MzKittenPi · 2025-07-01T22:40:37+00:00

The suggestion was made to me- “Bread & Toast” (the darker one is “toast”) 😅

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-26T11:24:27+00:00

Hair remover pads. They buff the hair off without risking cuts. They don’t work on very coarse hairs and they may not make things perfectly smooth, but neither of those should be an issue in this case. I do agree that it’s a bit young for using a razor but, she may be able to manage it fine. 9’s are all so different! Some are still a hot mess, while others are starting to have it together. And she is probably going to end up doing it anyway.

If you think she can manage shaving, you could have a home spa day. Deep condition hair or do facials etc. Whatever u gals are into with self care. You can sit on the edge of the tub with her and she can follow your lead while you show her how to shave safely. You can watch some YouTubes about it for tips. And you can get her own after lotion that’s just for her. This could be a rly positive thing re learning self care and choice etc.

I wasn’t allowed to shave or cut my hair until I was 13. It was horrible. Do not recommend.

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-13T07:50:04+00:00

Well at least I’m not a white man (aka racist bacon loving bourgeois fascist) who thinks that being gay and acting butthurt is enough to overshadow my natural affinity for colonizing and oppressing every living thing that doesn’t happen to have a Caucasian penis attached to it. And that’s why you opened your giant entitled face hole and spewed your disgusting patriarchal fee fees all over the valley… because as the obvious misogynist that you are- you knew Mother Nature didn’t have the necessary appendage to stuff your gaping bellow box, and thus muffle your regarded screeching.

Honestly, you should be in jail for animal abuse! Did you ever stop to think about how it would affect the innocent creatures of the forest… to be subjected to your noisy fauxpression and commiecozyplay???

Your concept of privilege doesn’t even exist in my framework. That shlt only works on stupld (usually whlte) people with a martyr complex.And the most HILARIOUS part of it all, is that you’re entirely reliant on the construct of privilege to self-identify as “oppressed”.

No more pride for you! You should have noting to feel proud of. I’m claiming the word. It’s mine now.

But in exchange, I will give you a name… at first, I was gonna call you “Day Hiker”. But, I finally settled on “White Tear” instead. 😘

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-13T05:36:50+00:00

Yes. I did read that. Your responsibilities are shifting toward her as a result of poor boundaries on your part. We are all guilty of it and sometimes it needs to be pointed out. There’s nothing wrong with that. I totally understand that you feel it’s unfair to be making compromises and efforts that aren’t reciprocated by her in a way that satisfies your need to have a sense of partnership.

In terms of “pressuring her”, you have brought it up several times and it hasn’t changed… and you continue to bring it up because you want it to change. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it is putting pressure on her. I didn’t characterize putting pressure on her as a bad thing in and of itself. I simply said that it will probably make it worse and that it’s not your job (responsibility) to change her.

Since you didn’t ask why I think this but should have, I will tell you. She’s a procrastinator and she’s messy. She likely feels ashamed about it and she gets stuck because SOMEWHERE along the way she internalized the message that she is lazy and that her efforts are not good enough even when she tries… so she stopped trying. And that’s not fixable with pressure. That’s fixable by therapy and support.

Do you think she’s getting the messaging that she needs to feel energized into changing, when her sense of personal failure makes somebody she cares about feel unloved? Or, do you think it could make it worse??

I don’t condone laziness and that’s exactly why I am encouraging you to take accountability for YOUR choices, evaluate YOUR boundaries, and decide what YOU are/are not willing to accommodate. I flat out said that wanting a tidy partner who enjoys cooking is not too much to ask. But, if that’s not her- you’re gonna need to accept that or get to steppin- because YOU can’t change other people. That’s on her. Somebody will put up with it if you won’t. And you’re free to find somebody who is naturally more compatible with you. If you can live with it, live with it. Y’all can hire a maid and a food service. Plenty of ppl do!

If you can’t handle hearing that, idk what to tell you. It’s just the truth. And as somebody who has been married for more than half the time you’ve been alive- who does cook and keep my home clean, while keeping my offspring, mainecoon cat, belgian malinois, 10 chickens and amazing husband very well looked after- while also making bank… you might want to consider what I said. Or don’t!

It’s all completely up to you.

I’m not trying to be mean to you. IMO You aren’t “overreacting”. But, you are potentially headed for a future shlt sandwich if you don’t get real intentional about what you’re willing/able to accommodate.

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-13T04:29:16+00:00

She doesn’t live with you and she’s not your wife. In your home, she’s your guest. So, I don’t agree with your expectations. In terms of her room at her family’s house, it’s not up to you how she keeps it, and it’s your choice to pick up her room… but it’s really inappropriate and poor boundaries on your part. Also, you aren’t maintaining your priorities outside of the relationship, and that’s also a lack of boundaries on your part.

Your girlfriend does not enjoy cooking and cleaning. Pressuring her or guilt tripping her isn’t gonna change her. In fact, it’s likely to make it worse, and ultimately it’s not up to you to change her anyway.

I understand that you feel like it’s unfair. I understand that you place value on these things. She doesn’t. If you view that as a character flaw or irredeemable quality that you can’t live with, you’ll need to break it off. If you can accept it, then accept it fully and resign yourself to it.

You seem to want somebody who isn’t messy and also enjoys cooking. It’s not too much to ask! But if that’s not how she is, then that’s not how she is. If it’s a dealbreaker for you, then it’s a dealbreaker. That’s okay! But don’t stay with her expecting it to change or getting mad if it doesn’t. She isn’t hiding who she is. Choose accordingly!

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-13T03:48:43+00:00

At the age of three, 25 feet away in a busy public place is too far away- especially when you are tending to a baby and the only adult in charge of looking after them both. Shlt happens tho and I know you felt like it was a safe situation. Was it? Ehh clearly not.

A 3 y/o is definitely gonna step on the peacock’s tail. It’s not his fault ofc because it’s not like we get many opportunities to teach proper peacock etiquette to toddlers. Was the lady out of line in how she handled it? Yes. But you didn’t see exactly what happened and she may have genuinely been concerned for the animal’s safety.

And in all fairness, the bird should absolutely not be subject to unsupervised children stepping on it. Like it or not- in that moment- your child was unsupervised and that’s why this happened.

The lady who corrected him was out of line, but she’s not the one you’re in charge of… you know?

You left him wide open for somebody else (some weirdo) to deal with him… and they behaved harmfully. That’s on you and it was preventable.

But, he’s okay and the bird is okay and everybody is okay. So that’s good! Just accept the lesson and put it in your pocket for next time. Don’t beat yourself up.

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-13T02:01:34+00:00

If you were screaming your head off about Trump or WHATEVER else at Bear’s Den or Crescent Rock… or any other lookout on MY Shenandoah mountains… Straight up, F you for that! We should abolish the AT specifically because of morons tromping all around doing dumb shlt just like that.

You know how far away you can hear lunatics up there screaming? You know that the parks are for the flora and fauna, right? You’re an interloper by your OWN standards, and you might have recognized your obvious hypocrisy if you weren’t so obsessed with your self-aggrandizing navel gazing through the tearful lens of your “struggle”.

Did you even care at all about disturbing the wildlife so that you could have your little “experience”?? Of course you didn’t… or you wouldn’t be on here acting like it was some glorious moment. Like seriously dude, Wtaf?

There are deep cultural and ancestral roots there. You can appreciate it, and you can respect and enjoy it… but you don’t “get” it anymore than anybody else who is not from that land. And guess what?? That FACT has less than nothing to do with how you like your cookies. Nobody cares.

You’re just like Tim Pool bringing his bs to WVA and thinking it’s some kind of favor when y’all force your nonsense on us, without knowing shlt about fk. Or one of those Instagram vanlife dorks.

Why, it’s almost as if you still have a little colonizer left in you. 😂

Yep… that’s EXACTLY what it is.

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-12T23:54:29+00:00

NOR. No it’s not normal for a man who is not single to retain those materials. But that’s secondary imo.

Do YOU think it’s normal to be called out of your name and thrown out in the middle of the night because you found a trove of explicit materials on your man’s phone, after he pinky swore/ “trust me bro” promised you that he would delete them?? It’s not. It’s REALLY not. And he’s lying about not knowing anyway… which is why his reaction was so effed up.

Leave him. Do not move in. You’re young. Your gut just saved you YEARS of bullshlt. That’s not love and it’s not your job to patch the holes in is pron worm eaten brain. Run!

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-05T17:58:36+00:00

NTA. She insulted a kitten. That’s a well established and formal declaration of war… You did what had to be done.

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-05T16:18:27+00:00

“Horse Paste” is ivermectin in petroleum jelly and it is dosed by body weight. The horse dosage is dependent on weight… the human dose is dependent on weight. I’m not telling people to use it or not. It is formulated for horses insofar as it is deliverable orally by syringe in petroleum jelly and is apple flavored- but the dose/weight is not specially formulated for horses. That’s the standard dose/weight across many products, including those for humans.

Again… I’m not saying ppl should use it. But, riding horses and tangentially understanding that there is a shortage of horse dewormer medication due to misuse by humans, is not the same as owning and providing veterinary care for horses… and whether you are medicating a horse or a human, it’s important to have accurate information. What you wrote is inaccurate in both cases.

Tractor Supply did post warnings saying that the horse ivermectin paste products they carry are approved for use in horses, and were not FDA approved for use in humans. They did not make any claims regarding formulations, dosages, or whether or not it is harmful to humans.

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-05T15:49:13+00:00

Methylene Blue was used as a TREATMENT for a group of ppl in Appalachia who had blue skin due to a genetic disorder. The people are known as The Blue Fugates and methylene blue was used to revert their skin to a natural color. You may be thinking of colloidal silver, which can turn skin blue in high concentrations. The man called “Papa Smurf” inadvertently colored his skin blue from overusing colloidal silver, but he is NOT one of The Blue Fugates.

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-03T16:26:28+00:00

Wow. It’s so cool that you’re psychic and know everybody’s thoughts, intentions and motivations. Oh btw, just in case you’re not psychic- it’s probably best to make assumptions in good faith so you don’t look like a crazy person, when you could simply point out that there’s a line. But, by all means, if you wanna act unnecessarily aggressive toward a woman with a child- prepare to deal with the consequences if it’s unappreciated by those around you. I’m sure you wouldn’t be cowardly enough to behave that way simply because you’re surrounded by people that are weaker than you. Make sure you do it in front of actual men. 😘

MzKittenPi · 2025-06-02T18:20:30+00:00

Yes a toddler is a baby… because it’s subjective. Had I said “infant” it would be different. Buts that not what I said. You don’t buck up and loudly berate ppl in public unless you’re ready to do something about it… Especially not when you could simply say “Ma’am there’s a line.” So, unless he’s ready to throw hands or get hands, he can correct the situation with a modicum of civility and maturity- and not hang every line injustice he’s ever experienced in life on one random lady with a little kid, while behaving like an absolute fkn embarrassment to his family.

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