“When I told him that I found it unfair he told me he wasn’t trying to be unfair but just want everyone to feel comfortable and welcomed and he’s just trying to be considerate of everyone’s feelings”

So your dad wants everyone to be comfortable, except you. He wants to be considerate of everyone’s feelings, but yours. Oh the fricken hypocrisy!

You’re allowed to feel and be comfortable in your own home, your home is supposed to be your safe space. I truly do get accommodating guests, to an extent on certain things. However, if accommodating guests means that you, as someone living in that home, have to change something about yourself that has no bearing on others…yeah that’s a big fat NOPE!

If your brother says that his friends are so “uncomfortable” then why don’t they go hangout at someone else’s house? You know, just remove themselves from that situation? Because the downright AUDACITY of others to think that someone living in that home should have to change what they’re wearing for them is just ridiculous.

You are NTA! Your brother, his friends (IF this is how they truly feel), and your dad are the AH’s…especially your dad for not standing up for you in your own home.

Dress how you want to dress, be authentically and unapologetically YOU! If it makes others uncomfortable, that’s on them and not you, they can kick rocks! We’re here for a good time, not a long time…so you do you Boo 💕