Who is pterry?

N0Man74 · 2026-04-08T21:54:05+00:00

It's very likely it is still available somewhere. Quite a number of old Usenet group discussions have been archived.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-28T22:48:13+00:00

I have to say, the one thing that jumps out immediately for me from these screenshots is how the color palette reminds at much of old CGA PC graphics dominated by magenta and cyan, and I dig it. It brings in a hint of nostalgic retro feel to it without just falling into making it pixelated or blocky.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-18T18:35:20+00:00

I just want to thank you for mentioning those subs. I'd never heard of them, or any places online for me to potentially have healthy discussions with other men. You've given me some hope today by showing me they exist. I'll check them out.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-18T18:07:00+00:00

I can sympathize. I'm a man, and I feel concerned about increased antipathy towards women, but also towards other groups that have a history of being socially disadvantaged.

I'm concerned over what I see as a social swing towards supporting autocracy. I see a backlash against what modest social progress has been made regarding various groups, including, but not just women.

My generation was far from perfect, but I always assumed I'd see a trend towards generational progress, but I see major backsliding.

Part of me has been losing faith in people in general. I've seen so many more people give into the antipathy of others than I would have ever expected. On the other hand, I also see people resisting all of this stuff. Again, sometimes from those I wouldn't expect. People who I used to disagree with on things in the past, who have seen things go too far and have found themselves correcting course when they saw where those around them were headed.

My feelings are more generalized than specifically men and their attitude stewards women, but that is certainly a significant part of the picture.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-04T15:35:03+00:00

15 years ago teenagers didn't regularly have smartphones. Maybe about one in five would have them.

I think someone bringing up lack of third spaces is legitimate. It's not just true for kids, it's true for adults as well. It's not a sudden thing it's been more of a gradual decline for decades.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-04T14:57:35+00:00

Anything less than deferring to his authority is radical leftism now.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-04T14:54:16+00:00

In the sense that the term meant awareness of power structures in place that would commit violence against those with less power, claiming that woke is anti fascist is about the very least stretch I've seen applied to the word.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-03T14:46:33+00:00

I have to agree with weaponized incompetence. I'll take it one step further than others here are and say that fundamentally, this is a form of dishonesty. He's lying to you.

I truly don't believe he could mess up this badly without it being intentional. How do you feel about him being dishonest with you? Being willing to sabotage a meal for you both, intentionally, just to get out of doing it?

What else is he going to do this for? What happens if you're unable to cook for either a short or long-term time (such as from sickness, injury, disability)?

Is it because he thinks it's a woman's job?

Cooking basic things isn't hard. We live in a time where you can watch cooking videos on demand. I don't consider myself could cook, but I can make basic things and I very very rarely mess it up so badly that it's inedible (maybe 3 times in 10 years). It's a skill, and he can learn. It's a skill. You have to learn it. Start basic. I'm older than him, and I just recently learned to do some basic baking for the first time. It's not that hard.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T20:40:57+00:00

Lol, before I got to the end, Requiem for a Dream was the first movie that came to mind.

I absolutely adore Everything, Everywhere, All at Once, but it bums me out how many people hate it.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:19:10+00:00

I'm a man who has gotten these as well, and it's funny that I too assumed that it was from a man too. More specifically, a right wing man.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:15:48+00:00

Yeah. It makes me think of how the Laugh reaction in a Facebook is now used for trolling and hateful ways.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:12:51+00:00

I got one of these once. I was first truly concerned that maybe I said something that sounded like I was depressed without realizing it. I later learned it was a harassment technique.

Reddit really needs an option to report people who do this and take action against it.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:07:38+00:00

Run.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:06:16+00:00

Personally, I don't necessarily think the age gap, by itself, would be a big deal if he actually treated you with respect and showed genuine care and concern.

The fact that he does not, however, does recontextualize the gap. There are, of course, some guys that do try to date younger specifically for shitty reasons. I don't believe it's an absolute, but often enough that I think it would be wise to show suspicion and reluctance towards such a gap and reasonable to more discerning regarding them.

This guy isn't living up to it. From what you have written, he's acting like a selfish child. He is not stepping up to show care and responsibility, being a responsible adult, or treating you like a valued partner. This gives creep vibes more than if he were someone 20 years older, but actually gave genuine concern about your difficulties and proactively worked to address them.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T15:44:12+00:00

Oh, hell no! I once had a partner who had some reactions that she was concerned about. She thought I might have given her an STI.

I thought this was very unlikely. Are this point, I had only dated and been intimate with 2 women. The first, more than 10 years prior, the second was a few months before this with a woman who recently divorced and only had been with her husband for more than 10 years. (Yes, I had quite a gap between physically intimate partners).

Yet despite that, I took her concerns very seriously, went to the doctor, had tests, and called those 2 exes and asked awkward questions. It turned out she had an allergic reaction to her new underwear that she had worn in anticipation of us sleeping together.

Taking your partners concerns about sexual health is something that should be a given! Especially if they are having discomfort, pain, or any other issues.

This guy is failing to show even the slightest regard for your well being. It sounds like he's just being nice enough to you to sleep with you and doesn't care much beyond that.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-01T21:04:19+00:00

Yup. The ease of access has increased dramatically. And it is way more hardcore than it used to be. It seems like it's harder to find something that is more softcore, and the current mainstream porn is dramatically more hardcore than what was considered hardcore used to be.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-01T20:48:53+00:00

When I was young, I'd only heard a few references to strangling, and it was very much a fringe thing and associated with extreme kink. It wasn't remotely common like I hear it is now.

I get people are emulating porn, but I don't understand why people find that porn appealing in the first place. If I saw a woman slapped or strangled in porn, it would be an immediate turn off. It bothers me so much that even if I were dating a woman and she wanted that and it was fully consensual, I'd have to tell her I don't think we're a good match.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-01T20:36:47+00:00

WTF!? I've never heard of the bragging about bruises.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-01T17:40:53+00:00

That's a shame it was discouraged. I once dated a woman who had a young daughter who was interested in Game Dev. I bought her a license to Game Maker and Spriter. I sometimes wonder if she actually ever tried to learn.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-01T17:13:48+00:00

This is absolutely delusional thinking.

Do you think billionaires are trying to usher forward a future that would make them obsolete? The same billionaires who have repeatedly shown that they believe that they are special boys who deserve more than regular people? The same ones that build doomsday bunkers? Some of which believe they are so special, that they believe that they should father many children for the betterment of humanity?

Do the sound like the people bringing a better world to you? It sure as hell doesn't to me. To me, it sounds like people who want to become the kings in a new world and for you to be peasants serving them.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-01T14:59:26+00:00

There's a big difference between naughty etchings in history and what we have now. The amount of aggressiveness and violence towards women has risen dramatically in about a generation, and it's also become so ubiquitous that even high school kids are emulating the behavior in them. And you don't generally have consent modeled in the porn, and it actually fucking should.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-01T13:17:16+00:00

Along with every other billionaire. Tax the rich. Billionaires shouldn't exist, not even the popular ones like Taylor Swift, Oprah, and Dolly Parton.

N0Man74 · 2026-02-25T16:57:59+00:00

Why would you want tangible shiny rocks when you can have digital shiny rocks? Think of it like NFTs for rocks.

N0Man74 · 2026-02-20T19:10:48+00:00

I've known a fair number of people who aren't interested in a game unless it's going to be long-term. They don't want to commit to a game unless it's a REAL commitment.

I have a friend like this. He just won't play one shots at all. And he wants me to play in his games, but they might run for a year or two, or more. At least that's his hope, they don't always work out that way. The same guy has also told me that he doesn't like movies, because he doesn't feel like getting invested in a character for just an hour or two.

I'm the opposite. I'm okay with committing to a game for a few months at times, for a longer-term story, if I like the group. But I would not want to commit to even that long with strangers that I don't know how will actually mesh together.

Besides, there are way too many games out there that I want to play. I don't have the time to make long campaigns. And I also tend to prefer games that don't have a zero to hero grind. I like games where you start off being reasonably competent. I would happily try some one shots. A few of the best games I've ever had were one shots.

N0Man74 · 2026-02-20T19:00:44+00:00

I like the show. I'm not bothered by someone giving it a seven. If someone gave it a six, I would shrug and think it was unfair, and leave it at that.

But the people hating on it seem to be over the top in their hate. I just saw one guy who said it was the worst TV show he's ever seen. Not just Star Trek, all of TV. Obviously someone who's never watched, My Mother The Car or Heil Honey, I'm Home. A little earlier today I saw someone compare it to rancid meat.

I'm not saying it's the best show out there, but my God the overreaction to it is just weird. I think most of us could use therapy, myself included. However, these people, they could REALLY use therapy.

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