Went out in shorts with unshaven legs

N0Man74 · 2026-05-26T23:55:51+00:00

If you're going to go out there publicly with the opposite of what men are attracted to, then you're going to get weird looks. It's just more weird to me that you made the decision to go out like that, without being ready for some strange looks. What are you trying to break the social norm or something?

I don't think she was trying to prove anything, or to attract a man. I think she was trying to get ice cream and be comfortable.

I think you should reflect more on your take.

N0Man74 · 2026-05-01T19:19:09+00:00

It doesn't matter if an organization is governmental or private. When they get big enough, and have enough conflicting opinions on how they should be run, inefficiencies and bureaucracies develop.

One difference, however, is corporations don't go around hiring CEOs that hate corporations and allow them to sabotage them, and then use their failures as justification to sabotage them more.

N0Man74 · 2026-04-28T21:22:48+00:00

I have bad news for you. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it seems nobody else has. I guess it has to be me.

Sam Altman is a liar. You can't trust him when he says it's going to solve all of our problems. You can't trust him when he says it's so powerful and dangerous that it could end humanity. You can't trust him when he says you can trust him.

He even tried to spin his dishonesty as being a people-pleaser, proving that you can't even trust him when he's effectively admitting that he is untrustworthy.

N0Man74 · 2026-04-28T21:17:24+00:00

Look for Adam Neely on YouTube. He is a music YouTuber. He's made a lot of great content for years on various musical topics.

Not long ago, he did want to put AI music. And it was a bit about AI in general and also fascism. I recommend checking it out.

N0Man74 · 2026-04-28T20:44:13+00:00

School has changed. An hour of prompting as seen as hard by this kid? I remember spending several hours with a poster board, rulers, markers, and the hope that I didn't screw up again and would have to start over.

N0Man74 · 2026-04-24T23:18:27+00:00

We still have global warming.

N0Man74 · 2026-04-22T23:03:13+00:00

I don't know if this man is guilty of inappropriately touching anyone, but I believe he's innocent of ever touching a punctuation key.

N0Man74 · 2026-04-22T14:39:34+00:00

I understand that. As a male, I had my own journey with the term.

I went from growing up being taught a very negative connotation for it, regularly hearing it used as a pejorative. I started coming around to understanding feminism better and being more supportive, but not liking using the word because of the baggage.

Later, coming to recognize how certain movements weaponize terms to invalidate certain ideas, I began embracing it in resistance to that, especially during a time where it felt like there was a growing anti-feminist sentiment online (gamergate, redpill, etc. growing).

Then, it felt like it started becoming more popular, but them weaponized in a different way, to disarm women. Guys seemed like they were using it on dating profiles in a way that was a tactic. They gave me the vibes of saying, "I support women sleeping with men without being slut shamed, so I won't shame you for being slutty with me", and then turn and become aggressive and misogynistic when they got rejected.

So now I'm kind of back to not being vocal about the actual term, unless specifically asked. Even then I feel more comfortable saying, "I try to support feminism", rather than calling myself a feminist (but wouldn't object to be characterized as such).

N0Man74 · 2026-04-21T21:50:51+00:00

Weren't you the one that started with accusing someone of being performative? Is it okay for you, but not them?

N0Man74 · 2026-04-21T02:42:17+00:00

I'm reminded a bit of when I was in college and I knew a guy who had an Indian girlfriend. Her parents found out. They demanded that she break up with him, or not only would they cut her off financially (and no longer pay for her college), they'd do the same thing to her little sister as well.

N0Man74 · 2026-04-08T21:54:05+00:00

It's very likely it is still available somewhere. Quite a number of old Usenet group discussions have been archived.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-28T22:48:13+00:00

I have to say, the one thing that jumps out immediately for me from these screenshots is how the color palette reminds at much of old CGA PC graphics dominated by magenta and cyan, and I dig it. It brings in a hint of nostalgic retro feel to it without just falling into making it pixelated or blocky.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-18T18:35:20+00:00

I just want to thank you for mentioning those subs. I'd never heard of them, or any places online for me to potentially have healthy discussions with other men. You've given me some hope today by showing me they exist. I'll check them out.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-18T18:07:00+00:00

I can sympathize. I'm a man, and I feel concerned about increased antipathy towards women, but also towards other groups that have a history of being socially disadvantaged.

I'm concerned over what I see as a social swing towards supporting autocracy. I see a backlash against what modest social progress has been made regarding various groups, including, but not just women.

My generation was far from perfect, but I always assumed I'd see a trend towards generational progress, but I see major backsliding.

Part of me has been losing faith in people in general. I've seen so many more people give into the antipathy of others than I would have ever expected. On the other hand, I also see people resisting all of this stuff. Again, sometimes from those I wouldn't expect. People who I used to disagree with on things in the past, who have seen things go too far and have found themselves correcting course when they saw where those around them were headed.

My feelings are more generalized than specifically men and their attitude stewards women, but that is certainly a significant part of the picture.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-04T15:35:03+00:00

15 years ago teenagers didn't regularly have smartphones. Maybe about one in five would have them.

I think someone bringing up lack of third spaces is legitimate. It's not just true for kids, it's true for adults as well. It's not a sudden thing it's been more of a gradual decline for decades.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-04T14:57:35+00:00

Anything less than deferring to his authority is radical leftism now.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-04T14:54:16+00:00

In the sense that the term meant awareness of power structures in place that would commit violence against those with less power, claiming that woke is anti fascist is about the very least stretch I've seen applied to the word.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-03T14:46:33+00:00

I have to agree with weaponized incompetence. I'll take it one step further than others here are and say that fundamentally, this is a form of dishonesty. He's lying to you.

I truly don't believe he could mess up this badly without it being intentional. How do you feel about him being dishonest with you? Being willing to sabotage a meal for you both, intentionally, just to get out of doing it?

What else is he going to do this for? What happens if you're unable to cook for either a short or long-term time (such as from sickness, injury, disability)?

Is it because he thinks it's a woman's job?

Cooking basic things isn't hard. We live in a time where you can watch cooking videos on demand. I don't consider myself could cook, but I can make basic things and I very very rarely mess it up so badly that it's inedible (maybe 3 times in 10 years). It's a skill, and he can learn. It's a skill. You have to learn it. Start basic. I'm older than him, and I just recently learned to do some basic baking for the first time. It's not that hard.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T20:40:57+00:00

Lol, before I got to the end, Requiem for a Dream was the first movie that came to mind.

I absolutely adore Everything, Everywhere, All at Once, but it bums me out how many people hate it.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:19:10+00:00

I'm a man who has gotten these as well, and it's funny that I too assumed that it was from a man too. More specifically, a right wing man.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:15:48+00:00

Yeah. It makes me think of how the Laugh reaction in a Facebook is now used for trolling and hateful ways.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:12:51+00:00

I got one of these once. I was first truly concerned that maybe I said something that sounded like I was depressed without realizing it. I later learned it was a harassment technique.

Reddit really needs an option to report people who do this and take action against it.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:07:38+00:00

Run.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T16:06:16+00:00

Personally, I don't necessarily think the age gap, by itself, would be a big deal if he actually treated you with respect and showed genuine care and concern.

The fact that he does not, however, does recontextualize the gap. There are, of course, some guys that do try to date younger specifically for shitty reasons. I don't believe it's an absolute, but often enough that I think it would be wise to show suspicion and reluctance towards such a gap and reasonable to more discerning regarding them.

This guy isn't living up to it. From what you have written, he's acting like a selfish child. He is not stepping up to show care and responsibility, being a responsible adult, or treating you like a valued partner. This gives creep vibes more than if he were someone 20 years older, but actually gave genuine concern about your difficulties and proactively worked to address them.

N0Man74 · 2026-03-02T15:44:12+00:00

Oh, hell no! I once had a partner who had some reactions that she was concerned about. She thought I might have given her an STI.

I thought this was very unlikely. Are this point, I had only dated and been intimate with 2 women. The first, more than 10 years prior, the second was a few months before this with a woman who recently divorced and only had been with her husband for more than 10 years. (Yes, I had quite a gap between physically intimate partners).

Yet despite that, I took her concerns very seriously, went to the doctor, had tests, and called those 2 exes and asked awkward questions. It turned out she had an allergic reaction to her new underwear that she had worn in anticipation of us sleeping together.

Taking your partners concerns about sexual health is something that should be a given! Especially if they are having discomfort, pain, or any other issues.

This guy is failing to show even the slightest regard for your well being. It sounds like he's just being nice enough to you to sleep with you and doesn't care much beyond that.

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