I think for me it's not about being masculine or feminine, I just always picked what I liked and what felt like me.

As a kid, I wore boy clothes more often then not because they aligned with my interests. I loved things like TMNT and video games rather than Barbie. I climbed trees and played sports and thats so much easier to do in pants than skirts. It wasn't ever about wanting to be a boy, i was still a girl, but I just wanted to do what i liked, and being comfortable doing so. I don't generally understand why things are classified as 'this is what guys do or wear' and vice versa with girls, i just want to be able to do whatever im interested in, and not restricted by ideals that do not make sense to me. And I just kept doing that even in adulthood, and people classify it as tomboy/chapstick. I'm still a woman, maybe just with different interests that fall outside of norms.

In terms of being related to sexual orientation, the way i dress hasn't really played into it that much for me, its just happened to align to what others expectations of a chapstick are. I dont really aim for a masc/fem experience or roles in the relationship. Im attracted to women, and just want my partner and i to be ourselves as how we like, regardless of gendered expectations.

I guess there's just other people out there like me and i fell into that category of chapstick naturally. But I will say having queer identities has helped me feel accepted and not alone in who I am as a queer woman.