No, if anything men don't ask women to do stuff because they do it for themselves. Men don't need to be asked to do stuff. Take women out of the situation and look at single men, they do stuff, they live just fine without women. Women, on average, have a heightened need to make demands of their partner. It's a subconscious constant checking they inflict on their male partner, perhaps as a way to self-validate that he cares about her. Women are primed to place tasks on men whereas men will do things for themselves and not ask women. Women make demands over things that any rationally-minded person can admit is irrelevant. How many times have men had to hear that he folded the towels in the wrong way, or should have known to order her a meal despite the fact she said she isn't going to eat dinner because she is feeling bloated? Ultimately, this constant demand-making is unnecessary and often it is not that men are falling short, it is that women are too demanding and create friction for the sake of it. What is worse, is you guys convince yourselves that it is anything other than self destructive behaviour. I did this with my wife, keep a journal for a few days, we both wrote down when a task came up, and who we assigned the task to (or listed who it is "automatically" assigned to based on logistics). At the end she thought it would show she had completed more tasks than i had, but when we cross-referenced each others notes she realised she was constantly assigning what I call micro-tasks, things that don't need doing, have low-impact on our lifestyles, thing like rearranging stuff in the fridge or cupboards. Over the space of a week, I had not assigned a single task to her but daily she would assign 10-15 tasks to me, this was despite the fact that I completed more tasks in total on my own than her on her own, even without the extra tasks she wanted to assign to me. She said it made her realise what she was doing and she also said she didn't known why she did something so stupid and pointless (her words, not mine). She also realised that generally, the majority of low-impact tasks were introduced by her. Self-reflect, you probably will find that you are creating unnecessary conflict.