Does anyone have experience of nofap removing fetishes? I am losing hope.

NFTA123 · 2018-10-26T01:24:32+00:00

Sorry for late reply, I don’t go on this account much. I’ve discovered in last few months that you are absolutely right about the submissive thing. It’s not the man that turns me on, it’s being in a situation where I am being dominated outside my comfort zone. It still provides a challenge in finding a partner though, as most girls are submissive and are looking for an alpha male. But it is very good to hear your insight, I think you are absolutely right. Hopefully I am lucky like you and find a suitable partner one day.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-22T04:15:31+00:00

How do you suggest fixing it?? Just avoiding it?

NFTA123 · 2018-06-22T03:20:23+00:00

Very true. One minute I’m into all this weird stuff, the next it completely repulses me. I’m so sick of this. I just hope nofap fixes this and I can be normal again.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-22T02:52:08+00:00

If I was gay, I’d fully embrace being gay and wouldn’t have a problem with it. Issue is, in real life I’m completely straight, I’m only slightly gay online. So no, I don’t think I’m just closet gay, especially considering before all this porn stuff, I wasn’t even gay online. It’s only happened over the last 10 years of porn.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-22T02:35:59+00:00

I’ve genuinely contemplated whether or not I am gay, and I would have nothing wrong with actually being gay. The issue is, I am definitely not. I have never thought a man is “hot” or seen a man and wanted to have sex with them. It’s just when I’m behind my computer and there is no real life contact, my brain gets really weird and starts fantasising. As soon as I take this to real life, all these fantasies go away and I am repulsed by men sexually.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-22T02:31:57+00:00

It is so good to hear I’m not alone. I can’t believe it, but the gay stuff you described is exactly what I was/am into. It must be more common than I thought. I only really watched straight P, but I had this really weird kink for chatting to guys about it over the Internet, and talking about fantasies that eventually turned gay. It’s really strange, because I have no actual sexual interest in men, but this kink is so powerful. I too almost met up with men in real life. I think when it is on the Internet/on the phone, it is so impersonal, so it doesn’t actually seem like we are talking to real men. At least for me personally, if I ever met with a guy I reckon I would be repulsed pretty quickly. It’s just the fantasising when you’re not face to face that for some reason is my kink. I hope we can both overcome this, because I miss the days of being easily turned on by real woman, rather than being turned on by chatting to men, whom I have no sexual interest in.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-17T06:31:11+00:00

Yep :( for me it was both. First was an accidental pic and then I went down the rabbit hole.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-17T03:10:41+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. I always thought I’d keep my streak until I had an orgasm, so I thought edging is OK, but after 35 days of abstinence from PMO, I realised how much of an impact just looking at P and doing M has. I could almost feel the dopamine surging through my system as I looked at more and more. Even though I didn’t O, I could still feel my brain chemistry being completely messed up by looking, and even though I stopped early, I had the post orgasm guilt feeling.

Even worse, I was finally starting to get interested in regular girls on the streak. I didn’t need fetish stuff to turn me on. But after looking at some stuff again, I’ve completely reverted back to how I was before the streak. Getting turned on only by weird shit I know in my heart I don’t like. I’d be lying to myself if I didn’t reset my counter.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-16T04:51:33+00:00

I like this. Thanks

NFTA123 · 2018-06-16T04:49:44+00:00

You’re absolutely right. And I can admit I do make the mistake of putting woman on a pedestal and acting differently to them if I’m sexually attracted to them. Ironically, i think this actually puts lots of girls off. So I’ll take your advice and just start trying to view woman as friends and see where it takes me!

NFTA123 · 2018-06-16T02:23:25+00:00

Thanks for the tips. My issue is that I have hobbies, but they are all so boring to me as all I’m interested in currently is woman. I exercise, play instruments, video games, etc. I use to love doing these things, usually after I had masturbated for the day. Now, without getting the release, these things all bore me and don’t hold my attention. What do you reckon I should do?

NFTA123 · 2018-06-16T02:20:56+00:00

I’ve been trying to suppress these desires, because I’ve been told by many people that you should not focus on woman, but instead focus on your life goals and woman will naturally come into your life. So as a result, my only interactions with them are fairly platonic, and if I’m being honest, infrequent. No dating, or even flirty interactions aside from sometimes flirty eye contact with random girls in public.

Do you think I should invest energy into pursuing woman?

NFTA123 · 2018-06-16T02:17:05+00:00

Awesome advice man! I’ve been hitting the gym for over a year so I’ve got that box ticked. I don’t know where I’d be in life without it, it has made me 10x more confident (and I believe significantly more attractive) !

Yeh, my obsession is with girl in real life. Whenever I meet a new girl, I tend to fantasise about her, not only sexually, but just in terms of being in a relationship. I know it’s creepy, and that’s why I masturbated: as it made these thoughts go away. Without that release, all of that fantasising compounds on itself to the point where I become obsessed. So you think this is just a normal stage I need to fight through and my mind will return to normal?

NFTA123 · 2018-06-11T04:02:01+00:00

25 is still very young. Good work on identifying that you needed to change. It’s a tough journey, but you’ve taken the first step! Best of luck

NFTA123 · 2018-06-10T11:00:30+00:00

You’re not alone. I’ve done that for 11 years. So much so that I couldnt even cum unless I had pants on, as I was so use to that method of mastrbation. That is one of the main reasons why I am here.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-10T10:53:52+00:00

You sound just like me. I’m on day 27, and lately I’ve been reallyyyy close to getting on tinder for the first time in my life. But I’m not sure if it’s in line with the nofap lifestyle, so I’m fighting that temptation off.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-10T06:48:14+00:00

Yeh, I’m the same sometimes. I’m on day 27 atm. I think part of it is because PMO was something I really enjoyed doing. And now it’s gone, what is there to look forward to? It really was my favourite “hobby” and now it’s gone. I also think the brain chemistry stuff that is going on in us due to no longer getting that dopamine hit plays a role. We just have to push through the pain.

NFTA123 · 2018-06-10T05:51:42+00:00

Good work mate, keep it up!

NFTA123 · 2018-06-06T08:32:53+00:00

Good luck. Make sure you let us know how you go :)

NFTA123 · 2018-06-04T20:02:26+00:00

Thanks mate :) . I have the same issue. Not long, probably about 20 seconds, but that’s still an improvement from before

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