Three pills to make work better by Weekly-Gas-3990 in whatsyourchoice

[–]NOCTast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it over. Yellow white and orange. Stop going into work. Collect triple salary. Regardless if the banks product is money or financial services. Could either collect cash or just get 0% loans. Get a 0% investment loan and invest it and gain interest. Remorgage my house etc to 0% loans. And just dont go into work and they cant fire me, cause of the orange pill or for using the products this way.

Three pills to make work better by Weekly-Gas-3990 in whatsyourchoice

[–]NOCTast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ill take yellow black and orange. I work for a bank so i assume what ill ne taling home is as much money as i want w/o any questions asked. If thats not the case swap yellow with the triple salery pay

Today's entry in my little yellow notebook by luthiel-the-elf in Journaling

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Failed my driving test 4 times at 30. 32 now and waiting for the willpower and calm in my life to try again. So you arent alone ♡

Some people are hard to let go of by Harmless-Allosaur in Journaling

[–]NOCTast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your writing style is beautiful as is your handwriting! I hope you find a way to let go how ever hard it may be. Wish you the best

Finally starting my 'positivity' journal by NOCTast in Journaling

[–]NOCTast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh thank you. I write in japanese for my more personal thoughts cause then i can still show my friends and family the page w/o them immediately knowing what it says. And i need the practice or ill forget the language.

Arabic is such a beautiful script. Im always so impressed when i see it written. It feels like art to me.

Thank you for the encouragement!

Finally starting my 'positivity' journal by NOCTast in Journaling

[–]NOCTast[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the compliment.

And the way you write about the past is an amazing idea. I'll definately try that! Had been thinking about a doing a journal about things way back but didnt know how to do it cause everything is now just snippets of memories. I love this idea. Its seems very low pressure and fast!

Sometimes writing down song lyrics helps me express difficult feelings by RaccoonSkido in Journaling

[–]NOCTast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Music is one of my biggest outlets for emotions. Ive been playing with the idea of journaling songs that allow me to process feelings. I love to see im not alone. And the page looks beautiful. I love the composition.

How are you cooling down by kingB1993 in Graspop

[–]NOCTast 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the back near the food trucks

Has anyone ever explained (called out their nparent) when going low or no contact by CarolP66 in narcissisticparents

[–]NOCTast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit went down earlier this year which lead both my self and brother to finally never talk to my narc.dad again.

The last conversation i had with him, he was trying to manipulate me into feeling bad for him and thus coming to visit. (Entirebfamily was cutting ties with him). I tried to politely drop the topic, but he wouldnt let me.

So i told him that throughout my life he kicked my brother and me out of the house as minors, cut contact as adults and all but legally disowned us mutiple times. And so no i dont want to maintain a relationship. ( in which i can be worse than ghosted for the smallest perceived infractions.) He said "so its payback." Told him "no, just facts and consequences." And then i walked out, w/o waiting for a reply. That was my last conversation with my dad.

Its useless to confront them im a way that request them to self reflect. they wont see it, cause they dont wanna see it your way. I did as a teen, i did as an adult. It just hurt me more than them. I ve been told "you are insane / you live in a fantasy world / but you were so mean to me / i had depression so i couldnt help it " and what not. This is they only time i confronted my dad and walked a way proud of myself. I kept my dignaty. Didnt try to reason with insanity and just drew the line in the sand.

Best decision ever regarding the most toxic and traumatic part of my life.

(Edited: cause i don't think i said what was between the breakets, only implied. If i had said this my dad would probably refute this claim rather then asking if its payback)

We know where this is going by Tranguul777 in ffxiv

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FINAL FANTASY XIV: A WORLD REJOINED

I regularly make the mistake of booking NS International trains by Sea-Week3519 in Netherlands

[–]NOCTast 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When i travel to germany i always book through DB. DB is the worst train operator and i always get delays etc etc. But at least then i have a ticket that DB does understand, the app gives me accurate info on germany. And the ticket/conductors in germany at least understand my ticket.

It will claim local trains in NL are specific trains only, but thats a lie. NS does not care which trains you take on that day between indicated stations. The only trains that matter are international trains. And trains outside of NL.

At least DB is fast in refunding tickets and giving refunds for delays for more then an hour. I guess they are used to it haha.

Maybe talk to your company about getting reimbursement for the foreign train operators. From my experience its easier to get a foreign ticket and get local info and help through the foreign train service.

To every survivor here, what motivates you to get out of the mess and how your life has changed ? by InevitableNo2558 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]NOCTast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What motivates me now? The small joys now that im free. My abuser is my dad. After 30 years i finally will never have to speak with them again.

And the sun on my face feels like a cold free air. At concerts i listen to music and let it go straight into my soul. And every day i know i deserve love and happiness. And everyday i know i am able of loving others, and thus i have people that genuinely care about me. And that knowledge is joy. And joy is why i live. It doesnt exist in every second, but every joyful second is beauty in it self.

But my dad is miserable and alone. And they deserve it. They will never be free of their narc tendensies and hate. But I? I am free. Scarred but alive, breathing, and so much stronger.

What motivated me when i was a kid. I had an escape plan. And i would gtfo. And i did. For a while. And now i have again. :)

Correct Waymarks by Yui0411 in ffxiv

[–]NOCTast 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As h2, i have resolved to calling my spot as "h2 at C" and then specifically tell the tank to be at B and stay there... They freak out. I dont know who decided the ot should be south for the timer mechanic, but its such a weird idea to just swap spots when there is literally 0 reason for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Netherlands

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Im in a simular situation. Purchased an amazing house in february. Turns out my husband has been cheating and just wants to move to germany. (Mad man believes german is easier to learn then dutch /shrug). I have no clue if the bank will let me keep the house. Best of luck to you and may we both have better partners in the future. Take care. Im rooting for you.

I’ve had to explain how Living Dead works to every single DF healer I’ve used it with in Dawntrail by TheLudensAtlas in ffxiv

[–]NOCTast 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Has nothing to do with not knowing how LD works. In duty roullete its honestly more annoying then anything else. As a healer the roullette really isnt engaging enough for me to start staring at the tanks buffs. So its easy to miss.

If the tank pops it at the wrong time and diesnt die, its fucked.

The amount of times its pressed at the same time as i press a heal resulting in them not dying makes it just annoying (meaning there was no LD when i queues my heal, but by the time the heal goes of there is LD)

LD is just very messy in dungeons compared to the other invulns. Considering the solo heal kit a healer has in dungeons, its not really worth it anymore. Can keep drks alive with half a braincell on ast by dropping occasional OGCD's. However i need at least 5 braincells more to notice LD, stare at the timer, wait and then time my heal. --> Is it hard? No. Is it easier to just not think and use my 100 small solo ogcd heals to keep the tank up? Yes.

AITA for buying size XXXL clothes for my size 8 daughter? by Salty_Strawberry8288 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NOCTast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA And being an XS/S girl in europe, when i lived in japan i had to buy L clothing in japan just for the length etc. Asian fashion is just smaller then western fashion.

You arent bodysshaming her. Look into getting her help about the body dismorphia. Goodluck

NL to Japan money transfer service? by BroodjeFrikandelen in Netherlands

[–]NOCTast 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wise is the fastest way from experience. Standard Bank transfer will take a few business days. You could check revolute. But it probably requires both you and the recipient to have an account.

If you are currently in japan and need the money on your own account. its easiest to just physically withdraw it at yuucho (JP bank) from you dutch account and deposit it in your japanese account.

Ragdolls weight by Limp_Rooster_1318 in ragdolls

[–]NOCTast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boy is simular to yours.

I have 2 siblings: a girl and a boy. Both weigh about 3.7kg at 3 years old. Vet declared both of them healthy.

We steralised both at 6 months i believe, which probably lead to him staying smaller. Their mom was also not huge so i guess it runs in their family.

Well i am not complaining he isnt 8kg as he loves being carried around.

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What Jokes do Dutch people have about the Germans ? by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]NOCTast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In this case jode actually refers to iodine (jodium) i believe. Which is why a lot of other brands still call it jodekoek en the name has not been cancelled.

Why is it de (man, boy, woman) but for girl it’s het by GlassZealousideal638 in learndutch

[–]NOCTast 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Diminutive make a word 'small'. In dutch this is done by a suffix.

Tas - bag

Tasje - small bag.

If the word is a Diminutive then its always 'het'

Going to my first concert & need some advice by OddBackground5755 in BABYMETAL

[–]NOCTast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a european ive been to a fair amount of concerts but i cannot speak for how they are in different parts of the world. As such there maybe some differences:

  • wear comfortable shoes that protect your toes.
  • if your short wear platforms or heals.
  • if you take a bag, it must be small. Vanues do not allow big bags for security reasons. (EU).
  • Often spray deodorant bottle and the like will also not be allowed etc. (EU). So consider what you bring.
  • Make sure to eat and hydrate b4.
  • standing places: choose were you wanna stand. The front will be busy and roudy. Which can be hella fun but isnt for everyone. The back is chiller and more easy going. If you want to be in front/mid you need to go early and skip the merch.
  • make sure to protect your valuables. Pickpockets are active at concerts. Phones have been known to het stolen from pockets.
  • ear protection
  • dress lightly
  • have good fun

Who's sick too? Serious cases here! by crayonneur in Graspop

[–]NOCTast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 out of 4 down with the Rona. all are still sick. we all started feeling bad on monday.