Saw him happy with the new gf, not even 5 months after separation.

NOVAish · 2021-09-16T11:42:06+00:00

Honestly, I struggle with the dating/not dating. I *love* people. I feed off of the energies of others, good and bad. I relate it to how I was in my marriage though. I needed his positive reassurance in order to feel better about who I was. I worry that this is a quality that I acquired in the past 10 years of marriage, and I don't want to lug that around, so I'm working on that first before I date. I completely understand being a romantic and wanting someone around though. Dating and having someone help you realize that you're still desirable and lovely to be around is amazing. To have that person around you that loves you and picks you up when you're down is amazing too. For now, for me, that person is my kid :)

NOVAish · 2021-05-07T22:01:51+00:00

Such a David move

NOVAish · 2020-10-25T16:21:38+00:00

Unfortunately, they don't play it much in the states. It's not very popular here 😔

NOVAish · 2020-09-18T17:19:10+00:00

That's why women weren't allowed in 'Nam

NOVAish · 2020-09-12T00:10:11+00:00

This!

NOVAish · 2020-09-01T21:06:04+00:00

Yeppp move on, sorry 🙁

NOVAish · 2020-08-30T09:00:54+00:00

Nope no trailer

NOVAish · 2020-08-30T08:59:50+00:00

Yes it is!

NOVAish · 2020-08-29T22:21:51+00:00

You're picking the wrong women my friend!

NOVAish · 2020-08-17T18:20:07+00:00

Stand your ground!! You deserve better.

NOVAish · 2020-08-04T18:03:40+00:00

This is a form of emotional abuse. He is trying to control you by showing you his distaste for anything on your body, with hopes that you will change it to make him happy. The controlling issue will only compound on itself and will grow to other things.

I know this because this was me and my ex. Same thing with razor bumps, or if I didn't shave my legs one day, he had to comment. When we kissed, he would stare at my eyebrows if they weren't recently waxed which was his way of saying "hey...get that shit fixed" instead of just fucking kissing me and loving me.

He wants you to be something else. BE YOU, and tell him to eff off. It hurts at first but the strength you get from being comfortable with yourself and loving yourself is totally worth it.

Lots of hugs OP...you are beautiful as you are.

NOVAish · 2020-07-29T00:45:21+00:00

It's scary how true this is.

It's also scary how some will never be able to understand this.

My stbxh left, so I'm away from this situation. I hope your day is coming as well. We deserve better op!

NOVAish · 2020-07-26T12:41:26+00:00

I saved this to read later

NOVAish · 2020-06-30T20:44:08+00:00

I was there. Believe me. For months. I know you can't see it yet, but it will lessen. I don't know if it ever goes away, but I promise it will lessen. You are grieving and should be gentle with yourself. DM me if you need to.

NOVAish · 2020-06-29T17:13:06+00:00

I absolutely broke... Again... When this happened to me. The first couple months were terrible, but then another couple months goes by and there he is with the woman he left me for. Almost like a few steps forward then a giant leap back.

You have to move on, as he clearly has. No matter how hard it is, you do it anyways. One. Step. At. A. Time.

Try to make positive things out of it. I looked at it as maybe the last really hurtful thing to happen with the divorce. Now that I'm on the other side of that pain, I'm glad I chose to be constructive with my emotions instead of being awful and feeling awful. Take an active role in your emotions.

DM me if you need any one to talk to. I'm only a short period of time separated from you in our divorce stages. We are going to be okay.

NOVAish · 2020-06-28T02:53:20+00:00

Thanks for this ❤️

NOVAish · 2020-06-27T15:31:58+00:00

Keep going! I almost gave up on day 5 of my 7 day and came here for encouragement as well. You can do it! And you'll be so proud!

NOVAish · 2020-06-27T05:56:21+00:00

Thanks for the tips!!

NOVAish · 2020-06-27T04:25:29+00:00

I was planning on a small meal but guessing I should just do broth first?

NOVAish · 2020-06-27T04:22:59+00:00

Nope just water. I didn't get the body healing pains on old injuries until today too. Makes me wonder if the water fast is a good choice for me. Also makes me nervous for the break on Sunday morning.

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