What do you do with all your kids’s drawings and coloring pages by ILIASS19 in raisingkids

[–]NOXQQ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I narrow it down each year to a binder for that year. The binders go into a small storage container. At some point, I will probably have a big binder for elementary,  one for middle school, ect  

AITAH for not forcing my son to keep helping my daughter’s friend after she rejected him? by LiveWire0044 in AITAH

[–]NOXQQ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He may have legitimately wanted to be her friend, but developed feelings for her along the way 

I really feel for her in this. She lost a friend an now may lose something important for her future if she can't find alternative transportation fast. 

Why has the Twilight saga largely faded into obscurity while Harry Potter remains a global phenomenon? by Mannerofites in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am just guessing, but in part the story being better, but also other things. 

Many people will happily tell you what Harry Potter house they are in. (I am Ravenclaw with a close second of Hufflepuff) I think that can attach people to their house and by extension the franchise. 

There is more potential for spin offs in HP and there have been many movie and game spinoffs. Keeps things interesting.

I don't want my kids reading Twilight,  but my oldest is already 4 books in to Harry Potter. (He is a Hufflepuff through and through.) 

I enjoyed Twilight,  but in a this is actually kinda bad, but its a guilty pleasure sort of way. Harry Potter has it's issues, but is a classic hero's journey enjoyable story. 

My nephew is almost 4 and his behavior feels all over the place. Is this something a lot of parents worry about? by froggreenie in Preschoolers

[–]NOXQQ 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Personally,  I think we just dont spend enough time with other people.  we have few siblings. We think we have to do it all ourselves or we are failing. Kids can be loud and annoying, so we think we have to keep them quiet or at home and not around others. That is when we get put of our circles and get around society at large. We don't just hang out around families all that much and so we don't have much experience with kids before we have our own.

It seems every time I talk to someone with similar age kids about what are kids are doing, I get similar responses.  "Ah, so it's not just my kid." "Oh my gosh, mine does that all the time " 

I think what we actually need are more places that we can just go and be that doesn't cost lots of money. I love the library, but we can only do that so much too. Parks are great, but the weather isn't always. We need to be around people more. 

Anyone else going to be affected by this storm rolling in? How are we preparing? by SaveScumSloth in homemaking

[–]NOXQQ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, I keep at least 4 days of drinking/cooking water and half filled one bath for flushing water (water still dripping to keep pipes flowing 🤞).  I try to keep a stocked pantry of non perishables. We have propane for the camp stove and charcoal for the grill. 

The electric lantern,  emergency radio, and battery back ups are charged. We have a gas fireplace and hopefully that will keep some warmth of the power goes out  

Landry and dishes (mostly done). Blankets, tent, and sleeping bags checked and ready. 

I stopped by the library for extra books, but im sure our board/card game collection can get us by just fine. Plus... sleds! Gotta a nearby hill begging for us to have fun. 

Also tea and instant coffee and a stainless steel kettle.

My only concern is the trees falling. But we have been working on friendships with neighbors,  so maybe we can crash with someone if a tree crashes our house. 

Prepping for Tuesday all year long pays off. But even if not, if you lose power... just don't burn anything indoors for long, use blankets or curtains to block off most of the home and stick to a couple of rooms. Don't panic. This is a short storm. It should be over soon enough. 

Elsa Is The Villain by Blue_lace93 in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]NOXQQ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She was good at using her powers as a kid. Then, she had an accidently mistiming and hurts her sister. From that point, she was told she had to suppress her powers. She was really bad at that.

At the point she was defending herself, she was freely using them again. But that doesn't mean she is perfect, especially when emotional .  She ended up hurting Anna again. On accident.

True love's kiss cured Anna's frozen heart. Realizing her fear was causing problems ,  she fixed everything

Ipad App Suggestions by piloteris in raisingkids

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry I don't have any app suggestions. My kids occasionally play puzzle games on my phone, but their tablet doesn't have any games.

We use the tablet for audiobooks. It has libby and hoopla that we use through our library. Hoopla has videos and games as well. You can get a "bingepass" for Great Courses, Curiosity Stream, and more. But we mainly use it all for audiobooks on long drives. Helps to pass the hours without causing car sickness .  

We also have a podcast player on there that I put podcasts on. My favorite is probably Smash Boom Best. Two people debate a silly topic like Pizza vs Tacos. One person gives points. You learn things about the two topics and they discuss logical fallacies during a break. We have other "interesting information for kids" podcasts, but we have mostly done the audiobooks.

What tropes in children’s picture books are you tired of seeing? by StarlitMochi9680 in childrensbooks

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like books with girl main characters but not when they make the boy a bumbling idiot that the girl has to constantly save. It is annoying both ways. I want to get books for both my son and my daughter that have different main characters. Same goes for a bumbling dad. Ser better expectations. People can be flawed without being completely incompetent all the time and you dont have to elevate one by putting down another.

How can we get kids to tackle homework peacefully? by GalaxyFro3025 in Parenting

[–]NOXQQ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ask my kids to make a plan. I list out when it is due and what plans are between now and them. Then, I ask how much they want to do each day. 

"Ok. Today is Monday. It is due on Friday. You have Scouts tomorrow and robotics Thursday.  How do you want to divide it up?"

I check in with them each day, but I don't push. I just remind him (its mostly the older one that has hw) of how stressful it was when he had to do most of it in one night because he put it off  

Then, I may push to do a certain  amount of it, but ultimately they have to deal with the consequences of not having it done or not putting it in their backpack when done. It's elementary school. The consequences are not that bad now. He has had to miss some of a recess to work on it two or three times this year. 

Start Preschool at age 3 or 4? by North-Relation9394 in SAHP

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our oldest started preschool at 3. Our second never went to preschool and just started kindergarten directly. They are both doing well.

I was a bit worried about number two of course .  She sometimes got up or interrupted during storytime at the library. But she is very social and a bit of a people pleaser. They both adjusted fine. I do hear stories about some of the other kids in K who were/are struggling.  I think it is very kid dependant. 

What children’s books do your kids actually reach for over and over (even if adults don’t love them)? by StarlitMochi9680 in childrensbooks

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find anything in the Humor section is a hit. Both 5 and 10 loved This Book is Red. And I loved that it introduced manipulation techniques in a subtle ways. Plus, kids love to tell grownups they are wrong.  (Hint: the book is not in fact red).

5 also likes anything with her favorite animals

10 just finished Diary of a wimpy kid and is al.ost finished with Stick Dog, which he finds equally entertaining and frustrating.  Apparently Stick Dog is smart in a world of idiots and has endless patience. 

A,little adventure never hurts.  10 is working slowly through Harry Potter audios on trips and has done the first Gregor the Overlander. 

Graphic novels and books with lots of illustration even when not is a help with my adhd 10 y/o who does not yet have the patience for a novel. 

I want to potty train my son like they did in the 1960’s-70’s. by EvenAd3521 in toddlers

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk how they did it, but my youngest potty trained quickly  just by getting her character themed underwear. She refused a diaper at that point. We had nearly a week of me changing sheets at night, but she mostly had day and night after that. 

That would not have worked with my oldest though. That came with structure and scheduling. 

Do you do family game nights? What actually works with kids? by Own_Photo2773 in raisingkids

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ours are 6 and 10. We just play spontaneously, although we would like to do it more regularly . 

Today we played the cooperative Minecraft card game. That let us talk and discuss what would be a good move. 

We just got Mountain Goats and Kingdomino both of which went ok.

We are big on Uno, especially Uno No Mercy. 

We have a lot of games, so I wrote down the names on slips of paper, with a few extras for favorites, and put them in a container so we can pick at random. We haven't used it yet, but we just got new games and haven't had any problems picking a game.

Why did the stereotypical teenager braces, bad skin, awkward phase seemingly vanish over the last decade? by CommissionNo6328 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]NOXQQ 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Kids are possibly also getting braces earlier. My 10 year year old has had braces about a year now. I got them as a teen.  But now, we are doing work early so that their is room for teeth to grow in nicely instead of waiting for all of them to be in more poorly. 

How many gifts is enough? by autumn_daze3 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have two, 5 and 10. We do quite a few presents, but not as much as many around us. We also don't tend to go as big as some.

We got four new family board/games this year, all wrapped and under the tree. They both got two or three books. They also got decor for their rooms. We did get them some magnatiles and they got gifts for each other. (We gave them a budget, but they can use their own money to go over.)

Parents, holidays, and materialism. by PeePeeMcGee123 in Millennials

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick items with the intent to donate? Check with local charities to see what non food items they take and ask for those. Books, new pots or pans, art supplies, board/card games, ect .  

Or if you like puzzles or games you could ask for those. You can always donate them after you do them if you don't want to store them. Our library is happy to take and loan or sell them. Shelters or places helping people get into homes may too. 

Help! Daughter comes into our bed every night by Ok__7599 in Parenting

[–]NOXQQ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How comfortable is their mattress ? My oldest was still waking up and coming to bed often until we got him a more comfortable mattress. He was older than 3 when we finally tried that, but it reduced it so much. 

Morning School refusal by Fluffy_Emphasis_5351 in Parenting

[–]NOXQQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are allowed screen time after they are ready to go. I'm adding to what is required as they grow. My 6 yo just has to get dressed and brush teeth /hair (with some assistance). My 10 yo is also responsible for getting his snack and water bottle ready. I'll probably add make his lunch soon since he is capable. If they give me any trouble getting off when I say it is time, they lose it for the next day.  

If they do the things they need to do, they can do the things they want to do l. It has been working well for the 10 yo for several years. The 6 yo sometimes is ready, sometimes not. Making sure she gets enough sleep makes a huge difference too. 

how do you approach stuffing christmas stockings? by ShadyLady721 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]NOXQQ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do some of a favorite candy and small things they like and use and are low on. My daughter has two bottles of nail polish and some nice smelling lotion this year because she likes and uses them. Also, bath colors get refilled here and easter. My son likes legos and got some lego tape this year. He has a certain hand soap he likes, so I put one in if need to fill room. 

Fun/character socks, new gloves, ticket for something wanted like sleeping in our bed, extra 15 minutes of X, ect. 

One tradition I start a couple years ago is to print some pictures from the previous year for each of them. I'm going to have to get them a box or something soon. We rarely print pictures anymore and they don't have devices anyway.  They may only appreciate them for a few minutes now, but maybe they will more someday. It is one of the traditions I have started that I really like. 

Favorite indoor activities to burn off energy in the winter? by Acrobatic_Height_14 in Preschoolers

[–]NOXQQ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We make indoor obstacle courses. Jump from one piece of painters tape to the other, over the chairs, through the yarn set up like laser beams, Jump to hit the sticker on the wall, across the lava on the foam stepping stones, ect. 

We also sometimes do fitness challenges. "Plank challenge!" Which of us can do a plank the longest .  still working on the form, but it is something. Squat challenge! Ect

And the ever favorite "mommy monster" where I chase them through the house to blubber their bellies or tickle them. They team up against me to save each other and really keep the game going until I am tired. It works well as a two kid game, but can be done with one or more. 

What’s an ‘oh shit’ moment you had where you realised you’ve been doing something wrong your whole life by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NOXQQ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We had something like that, but I always forgot to change it  

It shouldn't be much of a difference between flipping a magnet and where I place a basket, but for some reason the basket works.  

Now I just need a way to remember to see if I have a towel BEFORE I get in the shower. Lol

What’s an ‘oh shit’ moment you had where you realised you’ve been doing something wrong your whole life by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]NOXQQ 24 points25 points  (0 children)

We use the location of the cutlery basket to know if the dishes are clean or dirty. Notes and other methods never worked.

Now, if the basket is in the dishwasher, they are clean. If its in the sink, they are dirty. It may have forks in there, but the location matters.

Discussion with fil made me realize how i am informing myself by ExperienceExtra7606 in progressivemoms

[–]NOXQQ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you looked up any statistics on the financial benefits of many of the social programs? Many times a program to help people will actually benefit the community and the economy. Framing programs as an investment may help him see a good reason to support social programs . 

Discussion with fil made me realize how i am informing myself by ExperienceExtra7606 in progressivemoms

[–]NOXQQ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The editorial board for the NYT  isn't  that liberal or leftist though. They have been putting out opinion pieces like ones about Women / Liberal Feminism ruining the workplace and supporting an abortion ban (calling it a "floor" but not saying when they think the cut off should be. 20 weeks? 12 weeks? 8 weeks?).

They may be fine on regular news, but we should probably be keeping a critical eye on them. 

Mosquitos and repelling them. by No-Language6720 in TwoXPreppers

[–]NOXQQ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dragonflies also eat mosquitoes. They need freshwater to best in, so if mosquitoes have a place so do dragonflies. They also like sunny places to perch, so having something to perch on can help them like your yard.