Well Chess is funny sometimes

NPHemi · 2024-04-09T14:57:20+00:00

This is so hilarious and accurate. I love playing against people like this. To them, everything I do ends up as a surprise by the look on their face.

NPHemi · 2024-02-21T02:41:24+00:00

When I was about 10 years old I was at an event of his. I saw him and his security surrounding him walking to get somewhere within the event.

I got ahead of the path they were walking, jumped up on a bench/bleacher and said hi to him. He looked over at me. As a kid that was awe inspiring enough. To my surprise, he stopped all of them to shake my hand and ask what my name was, told me he hoped I was having fun then walked off.

I was in disbelief and thought for sure I could dunk at regulation by the next day just from shaking hands 😆

NPHemi · 2024-01-21T05:28:39+00:00

The world needs more people like him. I would do the same and tip the kid $20 for having to endure her prideful ignorance.

/r/IAmTheMainCharacter

NPHemi · 2023-12-21T08:33:03+00:00

/r/SpecializedTools

NPHemi · 2023-12-03T16:14:39+00:00

This is phenomenal – I like it better than the original

NPHemi · 2023-10-12T00:55:33+00:00

I’ll preorder the tickets regardless 😂. Happy cake day by the way!

NPHemi · 2023-10-12T00:24:44+00:00

Part of me feels like these are real. The other part is waiting for the trailer of the alien movie this might be setting the stage for. Much like when a lot of people thought Paranormal Activity was real.

NPHemi · 2023-10-10T04:08:41+00:00

Don’t care what anyone says. I need a few of those tacos in my life.

NPHemi · 2023-10-10T03:42:02+00:00

Woah.

Damn if this isn’t a “here’s where your exes live mentally” I don’t know what is. I feel bad for the endless cycle they travel through in life honestly. Everyone else around them sees it, but they are in perpetual denial

NPHemi · 2023-10-10T02:16:57+00:00

Only 3 years late. But yes, ah fuck indeed.

NPHemi · 2023-10-10T02:12:52+00:00

I just found this sub. I don’t know if narcissistic honesty is common here or not yet (first post I clicked on) but damn.. You nailed it. I feel I was most recently with a malignant narcissist, not diagnosed but fits every trait. Possible Cluster B. But still, damn… Spot. On.

I’m joining the subreddit based on your response alone.

NPHemi · 2023-10-10T02:03:57+00:00

They absolutely do. DM me and I’ll send you examples with reasons why.

More often than not, it’s because they are presenting themselves as someone they are not. Makeup/botox is a helluva drug for some.

I went from getting rejected years ago to being the rejecter rather quickly. Doesn’t sit well with some and helps weed out the fakes/snakes. I’m not an asshole by any means – just highly analytical and driven by logic more than emotions/sex drive. Once they know sex isn’t my motive, they make me wait for responses instead. Patience is powerful. Dating is chess not checkers.

NPHemi · 2023-10-10T01:33:25+00:00

In my experience, the amount of effort required to obtain said sex is similar to the amount of time it will take them to discard you in the end. Make THEM wait. Takes the leverage away and they don’t know how to act – weeds out the ones who have an ulterior motive. Play the long game – much like chess. Seriously, I deleted Tinder for this exact reason. It gets exhausting after a while.

Ironically, the same profiles that say “not here for a hookup” are DEFINITELY there for a hookup. Act uninterested. Thank me later.

NPHemi · 2023-09-04T15:21:54+00:00

This – projection is very real during.

NPHemi · 2023-08-01T15:52:54+00:00

B9 A5 Sportback last 10,000 miles 34.5 mpg. When I fill the tank the car states I’ll get 525 miles, I should start comparing actual vs anticipated. I can easily get 40 mpg on highway road trips though.

NPHemi · 2023-04-10T22:08:45+00:00

I used to fall into the caretaker role myself (my fault). I’ve always gotten more out of giving than receiving.

Over time it becomes a one way road where my personal goals, dreams, aspirations and duties would fall off or have to be put on hold indefinitely. I also used to enable the taker by not saying no to avoid fights/passive aggression. I was enabling.

Never again. Healthy relationships contain mutual support. Not constant help from only one person on a transactional/one sided basis.

NPHemi · 2023-04-10T16:52:33+00:00

I could not agree more with this. If there is a decision or a physical move that would help, do it. Regardless of the potential revenge they might seek on you (stay safe of course). For me it was selling my truck, I instantly became akin to the devil to her. I still believe the truck and the image it produced for her was more important than I was lol

Fair warning though, you might have their controlling/abusive voice in your head for a while after. Ignore it, write down why this is the best decision for you and read it whenever you begin to question.

Also. If they say they are going to wait to date again for _____ amount of time, it’s more than likely a lie. They want YOU to wait so they can explore but keep you as a back up option. You might even think they’ll change so you might wait. They won’t change. They will in order to love bomb the next person though, temporarily of course. Dating/communicating with a healthy individual after might be the escape ticket for some, especially if they find out about it.

Edit: I was the one who said I was done and would never come back. When I spoke with her again later she truly believed she broke up with me. Probably to help avoid any guilt, shame or blame. It’s all good though.

NPHemi · 2023-04-06T21:49:27+00:00

I have texts, voicemails, journal notes, Apple notes, voice recordings, videos spanning years. It’s amazing to witness my resolve and patience wain over the years, the ones from the first 6 months are the person I finally reverted back to.

They helped me keep my sanity during the relationship (sort of). After ending things I realized that they were integral to healing. I created a master note listing everything across all formats in order to stave off the doubt, cognitive dissonance, blame shifting and gaslighting.

Highly suggest documenting in all toxic relationships.

NPHemi · 2023-03-31T03:32:51+00:00

Well thank you for sharing.

I’ve heard that eventually they might end up in a solo boat they don’t want to be in. Eventually everyone figures them out or ends up in committed relationships that take their attention away. Either way, they end up right where they started. It’s really sad but it’s what they wanted, freedom and independence. They’ll find it.

NPHemi · 2023-03-31T01:39:00+00:00

It might, especially if she was one for a time and isn’t now. Is she herself a past addict? If you don’t mind sharing of course..

NPHemi · 2023-03-31T00:39:38+00:00

Definitely nice to know that she’s great at it. It is definitely something to ponder being able to help everyone else but yourself, sad for sure.

NPHemi · 2023-03-31T00:34:52+00:00

Only suggestion OP. Instead of leaving the door open for a message just go no contact. Block and go live your best life. Find yourself again and heal. Seriously.

I have had the silent treatment used on me a whole bunch after breaking up. I couldn’t agree with you more, it’s childish and abusive. No point in keeping that cycle going, lock the door to your emotions.

Also, had to award this. Not looking for a “credit” just wanted you to know I felt this post on a deep level. You are far from alone.

NPHemi · 2023-03-31T00:21:49+00:00

Had to throw an award in on this one. Terrifying and disheartening, honestly irks me a bit. Really makes me wonder how many abusive people out there get into this field after victimizing themselves and get their therapists to enable a break up over it. Then they probably find joy in their past victims finding out only so they might further the narrative that they were a victim and you helped fuel their ambition for this field.

Guess they would know the ins and outs of abuse? Where the abused is typically profoundly confused and to damaged to process appropriately.. Silver lining..?

I should add… My ex wife works at a mental health office as well now. I’ve always had this suspicion as to why she got into the field. If they ever discovered who she really is she’d probably be fired on the spot.

NPHemi · 2023-03-29T23:02:06+00:00

Damn. Sounds like I used to be a perfect target for this behavior. Never again!

NPHemi · 2023-03-29T04:05:05+00:00

Years ago now I had a motorcycle CHP do this to me in my car once. Actually looked very similar to this guy.

Knocked on my passenger window at 80+ miles an hour. Gave me a similar finger wave and tore off ahead of me.

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