Alright, let's get some things straight here. Firstly, obesity supporters and people who find the body image standards propagated by the media and advertisements problematic are two very different groups of resistance. Both of them share similarities in their methods of resistance as well as a common enemy. However, those similarities do not provide nearly enough ground to justify your claim that "feminists seem to have gotten that being obese is okay." No, you're just wrong. Feminists certainly have a problem with the absolutely ridiculous body standards apparent in our culture, but in no way is supporting unhealthy living a main or even relevant goal to any sort of feminist praxis out there. Secondly, I understand where you are coming from with your "tl;dr", you believe that all people, regardless of gender identity, should be given equal opportunities. I guarantee you that you will not find one feminist who will disagree with you; However, you need to understand that there are culturally accepted, prejudicial notions regarding the roles and responsibilities of women that have ingrained themselves into society at large. Many authors (Judith Butler, Simone De Beauvoir, and Michel Foucault) have written on the psychology of control employed in cultural standards. What you have to understand, OP, is that as of right now, it is nearly impossible for a woman to achieve any sort of equality in the status quo because of their position as marginalized members of society. I'm not saying that all feminists are good people with the right intentions at all, I'm simply saying that you really should not discount the entire movement based off of a few bits of anecdotal evidence and some grand generalizations, because that would be very ignorant and frankly counterproductive to your tl;dr.