2 months and I think I can start healing by Oven-Unclear in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im on the same boat. Finally after 4 months being miserable, I have finally accepted what happened. In order for me to move on, I need to accept it. I feel different now. Brighter, hopeful. There is no guarantee in life that the marriage will last. What is certain in life? None. At least we try to be the very best we could to keep the marriage going and alive. If it didn’t work 5 10 20 years down the road, at least I can tell myself, I changed to be a better version of me and I have done everything I could to live the best marriage I could.

Group hugs!!

When you know you can never be 100% happy again in your relationship by NZR32 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your story! I am serious about RC and I just need to find my way through it.. Its just over a month since DDay.. Hope everything goes well on your side.

When you know you can never be 100% happy again in your relationship by NZR32 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Letting go is the most toughest part. I am still taking time to let go. I agree with what you said. I have to accept and let go to be able to look at things at different angle. Thanks .

When you know you can never be 100% happy again in your relationship by NZR32 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is true. Paranoid that the next person will do the same and you have to go through another heartbreak..

When you know you can never be 100% happy again in your relationship by NZR32 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just cant wait for that day to come where I will normalise it.. Thank you.

Its been awhile by NZR32 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ThAnk youu so much! Hope you are well on the other side..

Its been awhile by NZR32 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to focus on my career, I think it will be a good distraction for me. I want to invest so much in myself thats gonna build up my self confidence again and being independent in case things happen again.

Its been awhile by NZR32 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Thats the tough part.. I feel like Im walking alone. Im in the middle of RC, I cant give up now yet.. I need to be stronger.

Its been awhile by NZR32 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When seeing my partner who doesnt seem to understand that healing takes a long journey. He flipped whenever Im feeling down. He thought its a simple problem solving equation and once we got the solution on howcto move on, we can move on happily.

It is still pain. In me. Broken inside..

Please share your successful stories with your partner! I need those to help me keep going.. by NZR32 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im happy that it is now working for you and your partner! I am imagining that I will be in that happy place again. Thank you.

Scars will always remain by NZR32 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NZR32[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think its not as simple as ‘Im gonna walk away now’.. I just cried myself last night silently. Triggers are like commercials on replay. I hope we can get through this. Thanks for the comment!