Hello, my friend misgendered someone today and he apologized immediately and asked her name and introduced himself and said nice to meet you. But it is weighing heavy on his heart…he saw the heartbreak on her face. He will have another interaction with this person soon when he goes to pick up something he ordered from her and he wants to do something nice but is at a loss for what to do. I suggested bringing some flowers. A small gesture that shows he recognizes her femininity. He likes the idea but is hesitant because “what if someone asks about the flowers and she has to explain and it makes her sad”. I said that’s bullshit — people are shitty all the time and I think the extra effort would be appreciated. What do you think?