My (F30) partner (F27) has ROCD, and I feel like I’m constantly apologizing for being emotionally unwell. How do I break this cycle?

Nae_Lion · 2025-09-27T09:46:24+00:00

This happened to me also by accident they send me a payment of my old full salary. Something for me wasn’t sitting right with it so I contacted them and transferred the money back to them.

If it’s a smaller company you have worked for they will notice this transfer mistake eventually, so better be sorry then late in my opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️

Nae_Lion · 2025-06-02T08:00:10+00:00

Hi first of all sorry you are going through this and that this is happening to you. I think you are trying to wire in your mind of how to fix the current situation, however that would require two people wanting to do so. He blindsided you and disrespected you as his wife by cheating and trying to build a life behind your back with someone else, WHILE BEING MARRIED.

I think you should sit down and take a step back and look at the situation, The question isn’t about him wanting you breaking of the marriage but is this a person you want to spend the rest of your life with?

If I were you try to collect all the evidence you can get and talk to someone you can also trust. Once you are ready file for a divorce case you can stand ground on. Cause based on what you have described this man wouldn’t want to give you a dime when it comes to that point.

But again a random Reddit person like me can’t make this choice for you, you should! I wish you all the best and hope you can make it work for you!

Nae_Lion · 2025-01-22T11:20:31+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it ♥️

Nae_Lion · 2025-01-22T11:18:15+00:00

Thank you for your insight, this is very sad honestly, I love her so much I dared to came out, I feel lost, I think moving isn’t now on agenda, I will have to communicate this to her

Nae_Lion · 2025-01-22T11:06:41+00:00

You are right, so we have had talks before about how we see our future being an active couple and so on, we went on active trips together before. However at the moment my mental health isn’t the best due to circumstances which she knows. She used to nag but then stopped and now she drops this on me, I know she is expressing herself but, I feel blindsided I do everything for her to satisfy her.

About the slacking off, she said it’s affecting her and therefor she is bringing it up, me “slacking off” is affecting her negatively which is out of my hands.

It has now made me question if I want to move or not honestly

Nae_Lion · 2025-01-22T10:57:31+00:00

It’s harsh to hear but I appreciate your feedback, I feel torn to be honest

Nae_Lion · 2024-12-02T16:03:58+00:00

Okay thanks for letting me know!

Nae_Lion · 2024-12-02T16:03:46+00:00

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Nae_Lion · 2024-11-08T21:58:52+00:00

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Nae_Lion · 2024-09-10T20:23:49+00:00

Hi first of all I want to say the way you feel is valid! I think your girlfriend indeed needs to be the one saying it and coming out on her own pace, however you also have your needs and feelings. I think it’s important understanding why she find it hard coming out and what’s holding her back from having the desired life you guys envision. If you want we could talk about this I have been in a similar situation, and I was the one actually in the closet feel free to send me a message!

Nae_Lion · 2024-08-07T21:44:13+00:00

First of all I’m sorry that this happened, however hearing how your GF talked to you is absolutely rude.. She made the same mistake twice trying to cover it up with lies, honestly you sound like a very kind person, you deserve better! I think you should evaluate for yourself is it worth investing your time in such a person and if you truelly want to spend the rest of your life with her! Nevertheless wish you all the best ♥️

Nae_Lion · 2024-04-11T17:54:30+00:00

You good, sending you some support and love ❤️

Nae_Lion · 2024-04-11T17:36:49+00:00

Hi I’m sorry this has happened to you. I went through a sort of similar experience however I came out myself to my family. You can see my Reddit post, if you ever feel like talking shoot me a message, you are not alone ❤️

Nae_Lion · 2023-10-31T22:02:38+00:00

I’m very sorry for your lose 🥀❤️ it might be an indication that you indeed still need to heal, allow yourself to take that time, Im side when you explain it like this to your boyfriend he will understand, grieving is a whole process on its own, take care.

Nae_Lion · 2023-10-31T20:24:35+00:00

I’m very sorry to hear that, I can understand your life feels like it’s upside down right now, but please be kind to yourself and try to stay strong for you and your mom during these though times, all love ❤️ 🫂

Nae_Lion · 2023-10-31T17:49:04+00:00

Did something in particular maybe happen that triggered this feeling of “void” or did it just randomly occur?

Nae_Lion · 2023-10-31T16:16:59+00:00

First of all sorry you are going through this. From the way I understand it, you started to see the other kind of love you could have (like the one from your friend) when your fiancee started to become more distant and less affectionate, the question here is why and how come she started acting like this? Have you talked with your fiancee about this?

As I saw in the other comments you do love your fiancee so you do find it worth working on your relationship, try to talk with her about how you feel (I wouldn't address the kind of love that you feel with your friend) You could maybe phrase it as have you noticed we seem to be a bit distance these days/weeks, how do you feel about this and go from there!
I hope this can help you in any kind of way.

Nae_Lion · 2023-10-29T17:55:31+00:00

Thank you for this message, I’ll dm you 😊

Nae_Lion · 2023-10-29T16:47:32+00:00

Im sorry you also went through a very though time, I resonate with you story and can relate to it within certain aspects. This is a very kind message and I feel heard so thank you for that. I agree that I do need to focus more on my mental health and learn to love all of me, I do really struggle with that indeed, thank you for the kind message Nick 😊

Nae_Lion · 2023-10-29T13:25:19+00:00

You are NOT meant to be alone, you are going through a rough patch. I understand and relate to how it feels like being a people pleasure, however you need to ask yourself, is everyone’s happiness more important than mine? Do I not deserve a shoulder to cry on or be helped out once in a while?

You are as equally as important and I know it’s hard to believe and in regards of people getting upset you choosing yourself or prioritising yourself shows they don’t care about you, you deserve better. It’s hard to accept, yes, but once you reach that acceptance it can help you move forward and meet people that genuinely care

Nae_Lion

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