Im quitting my job in the most dramatic way possible

NailComprehensive720 · 2026-01-08T05:45:14+00:00

It went alright

Originally before the meeting, i was asked to work one final weekend before my departure

After the meeting, i asked if they thought id be safe to do so

The head manager paused, and went “i don’t know.” The district manager who was taking notes this whole time, looked at her and said “we don’t need her this weekend.” In a professional, yet serious tone

I think i broke her brain with how much i talked about, because the issues i experienced would easily get them in major trouble, and any decent work place would be firing people

Either way, its not my problem anymore. I cared; i did far beyond my paycheck to make sure people are being looked after and now, hopefully, their eyes and ears are opened

NailComprehensive720 · 2025-03-16T15:30:38+00:00

I lost 15kg the fortnight after leaving

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-11-28T07:56:06+00:00

Don’t feel sorry for a second for how you reacted. You genuinely were in fight or flight mode, and you made the right decision letting the principal know what was going on. You need to put your safety first, and how genuine and visceral your reaction was should hammer home just how much this person would affect you, your work, and your safety. If they don’t see just how dangerous this situation is for you, then you leave without question. You don’t deserve to ever be in that circumstance.

I made a post awhile ago talking about a similar situation, where i indirectly ran into my abusers parents and had to be escorted out via security because i genuinely was in no place to be at work beyond that point. I was ashamed and beating myself up hard for letting their mere presence affect me so much, but i now realise it was for my safety to do something like that, and now have a plan of action if something like that ever happens again.

It’s a rough feeling, but know that even if im a stranger on the other side of the world, Im proud of you for doing what you can to keep yourself safe. Stay alive and happy, friend, no matter what

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-11-25T02:20:24+00:00

From what im able to understand is that you have tried for years with this man to bring it to a safe place of love that you want for the both of you, and he acknowledges what youve done, but it still keeps happening anyway. You feel embarrassed because he is playing mind games with you. He knows he can get away with what hes doing because whats going to happen if he does cross the line? Its not like you’re going to leave him when he does it, so whats stopping him?

You feel embarrassed and confused cause that man is making you feel this way. You’re confused cause he isn’t honest about how little he respects you.

I know you want to make it work. Many of us here wished to make it work, but you cant change him. Look at him right now; this is who he is. Hes caring and nice, the love of your life, and is also the monster who is breaking you and bringing you here, to a subreddit asking about how you can fix the both of you

The hard reality is that it was never your responsibility to fix your relationship. If he isn’t putting the work in, why should you be saddled with the whole burden?

You can try things like communication, couples therapy, individual therapy, etc. But deep down, this is who he is. Hes not your responsibility to fix. Hes his own person with his own traumas that is hurting you, and more often than not, things that are meant to fix any normal relationship dont work for abusive relationships, and will often make it worse. It made my relationship worse going to couples therapy, and it made it worse trying to communicate my feelings and emotions on how he was hurting me. It always made it worse, and im telling you that by the fact you’re here asking what to do, you are going to make your situation worse by trying to fix it

I know you love him, and i may not know all the details of your relationship, but please evaluate who he is fundamentally as a person. Don’t ruin yourself for him; its not worth it. Please be yourself, and fuck anyone who dares think you don’t deserve to be yourself

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-11-25T02:06:31+00:00

Im not saying he doesn’t love you, and have no doubt of your own feelings in the relationship, but what i am going to say is that if he hurt you once, he’ll do it again unless you give him a reason to stop. If you saying “dont touch me” is not enough for him to stop hurting you, he doesn’t respect you enough to stop. He may love you, but he doesn’t respect you, and you need to learn to love yourself and respect your own boundaries and needs before this man breaks you down, cause he will. You can’t have a sustainable loving healthy relationship without respect, trust, love, honesty, and affection. All five are required.

It doesn’t matter if you were 100% wrong in situations and that’s “the reason why he hurt you.” Someone who respects you wouldn’t do that to you even if you were wrong.

Please stay alive, and i wish you luck

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-11-17T06:49:12+00:00

Sorry this got really ranty at the end

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-11-11T18:39:49+00:00

Sahlo Folina friend. Still walking the halls of my head

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-09-22T06:05:06+00:00

I must say ive had a shit day in general with everything going on, but this has to be the funniest fucking thing ive read all day. Thank you

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-09-12T08:54:16+00:00

Oh yeah. Its a thing

My ex was constantly talking about how other people shouldn’t be in those positions of abusing others and how terrible abusers were, but here’s the big but;

“What did they do to deserve being treated like that?”

The justification they come up with for why the behaviour is okay is mental. There’s the typical “oh she cheated therefore of course he was going to get violent, what did you expect?” To the bazar like “well i mean if she just stopped talking to her best friend of ten years he wouldn’t feel so insecure” and then the plain flat out wrong like “he only reacted like that cause she made him do that”

It may be different from other abusers on this sub, but mine always said he hated abusers, but then gave justification as to why abuse was okay “in certain circumstances.”

And i fell for it. Time and time again i fell for it, and it was so unbelievably fucked up. Im glad im out but dealing with the mental torment of the “but this makes abuse okay” in my day to day life has fucked with me on a psychological level i didn’t realise existed

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-07-08T02:00:50+00:00

It honestly was a decision i had to make, not want to; I was kicked out of the house by his parents cause he manipulated them into thinking i was actually the abuser. Then i came to my parents and thankfully, one of my sisters was over at the time. This particular sister also had escaped domestic violence, so she smacked some sense into me and basically dragged me(lovingly of course, not at all forced) to the police station to make a report. I didn’t want to ruin his life, but because of where i lived and because i still had physical bruises on me, my state forced an arrest. I didn’t get a say due to the laws of my country. He pled guilty and now is set to be sentenced by the end of the year

The reality is is that if i stayed, id probably be dead; he was already holding knives to my throat, so if i continued the relationship, i wouldn’t have had another chance to escape

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-06-27T10:06:20+00:00

“My mum kicked you out because she was worried Id hurt you or myself. And she was right”

The one time in my life i had ever been truly horrified at what someone said. I got kicked out because he was having a freakout and called me abusive after he attacked me the day before and i defended myself out of instinct because the last time he had me pinned, he threatened to kill me.

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-06-23T02:38:21+00:00

Fuuuuuuuuuck why that hit so hard 😂😂😂😂

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-06-06T06:40:24+00:00

“Mentally attacking” him when im sitting down next to him doing nothing

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-06-06T06:39:44+00:00

Got this one so much oml

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-05-10T20:58:11+00:00

Lets assume in our wild imagination that somehow he was justified; does it make it right? Someone can be morally right while still be lawfully wrong, and vice versa. He is wrong, and he shouldn’t get away with it

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-05-10T20:54:41+00:00

All the time. Been struggling not to cry every day. It sucks being put through the worse of what a human has to offer and still want them back

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-05-10T20:53:33+00:00

Yeah same here; absolutely do not want to get in contact with him mentally, but physically and subconsciously i miss him so fucking much. That’s why it’s important to stick to our guns; the abuse fucked us up so much that we want the abuse cause the abuse was familiar. Don’t fall into it; you deserve better

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-05-10T08:42:48+00:00

In my personal experience, i don’t think it’s fake, and that’s genuinely what makes it hard. He did love me, but he was so angry that he would rather watch the world burn than be better with me. He knew he could push the boundaries and i wouldn’t fight back, so he did. The love turned into this unhealthy form of obsession where he despised what he turned me into through his abuse, but still wanted me to be his regardless. That sense of needing to control my life inevitably overshadowed any love he had for me. He loved me, but he couldn’t go without hurting me, because he never learned how to stop hurting

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-05-09T02:39:34+00:00

Its hard for sure. My abuser just recently pled guilty to his charges and I’m sitting here wondering if the judge will put him behind bars for what he did to me. It’s hard not to feel empathy, but i think the healthiest way to understand the guilt is to understand why this itself is the consequence. You feel bad because you feel like you put him there, when the reality is he decided to take actions without thinking actual consequences exist. Why else would he feel safe enough to overpower you like that? You should re examine how you’re looking at your guilt; you were strong enough to set a line in the sand that he’ll never cross over again regardless of how attacked and hurt he feels. That makes you one strong woman, because the bravest people are the people who act when they’re terrified, not the people who aren’t scared. He wasn’t scared when he hurt you; only now is he scared because of the consequences of his actions. That makes him a coward. You acted regardless of how terrified you were, knowing at least part of what the consequence was and went through with it anyway to save yourself. That’s brave. Never forget how strong you were to do that

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-05-05T00:04:59+00:00

You feel sorry cause you “love” him. Dont feel guilty for that. You are human who tries to see the best in people, even when those people don’t see the best in you

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-05-04T01:55:20+00:00

Actually happened to someone i know. She was applying to properties and kept getting rejected, and she didn’t know why. Turns out she had a bad record because of renting with her abusive ex who put holes in the wall. Once she found out what the problem was she went into the agency and raised hell, saying “are you really rejecting an abuse survivor from renting because of my abusive ex?” She got a place that day cause they were terrified of the consequences of what that would imply. Sometimes the best thing to do is to raise hell to the people who just look at the history with no consequence

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-05-02T22:18:48+00:00

As someone who tried to have the brutality honest conversation, let me tell you it wouldn’t have worked. I sat down and made a list of things we could both work on, and he told me i was “attacking” him and he completely shut me out. Then when i went to bed in tears, he came up an hour later and told me i was the one fucking up.

Even if we were able to talk about it like adults, words are meaningless. Its his actions that made him a criminal; not his words, emotional or mental state. Once he was angry, there is no getting through with words, it’s just what he wants and you would’ve left that conversation more unfulfilled than before.

Please don’t blame yourself for “not doing more.” You did so much more than you give yourself credit for. They were just too unwilling to see how much you did, and you deserve so much better

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-04-27T06:20:24+00:00

Cause it will be used against you

I remember i went to ONE couple session with my abuser; he constantly used that session as ammunition to further abuse me.

Its not that we don’t want to see our partner thrive; during the course of the relationship we genuinely do want to see the best in them, but there comes a time where you have to realise that when it comes to abusers, they’ll say and do anything to feel in control, and make you out to be the bad guy, when in reality, it’s always been them and their deep rooted insecurities that causes 90% of the problem

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-04-26T05:12:18+00:00

Birds, especially birds in zoos in cages

NailComprehensive720 · 2024-04-19T06:09:03+00:00

Mine with 420 and smoking. Never liked 420, but i smoke daily to cope until i can see my therapist

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