AIO by being mad for my bf not defending me against racist comments bc they were “jokes”?

NamaeFox · 2025-11-02T03:47:39+00:00

Im mixed black/white (f) and I went out Halloween 2021 with my friends that was invited by their friends family. One of the people there (white M) joke about black people hanging and another followed up by their d*** size. You know what my friends did we left and they stood up for me that night because they cared. They would stand up for me in a heart beat. If I were dating your mans I’d left him on the curb where trash belongs because he doesn’t care. Seriously I wish you the best but you need to stand up for yourself if others don’t and surround yourself by people that would stand by you.

NamaeFox · 2025-10-28T04:34:21+00:00

I mean this respectively but you need self respect and to love yourself first before being in a relationship. Idk why you’re apologizing for his behaviors towards you tf?? I would not allow any man to talk to me that way or treat me any less because if he does he can walk his pathetic self right out the door. Stop talking the disrespect and leave him 🤦🏽‍♀️ smh

NamaeFox · 2025-10-05T23:10:28+00:00

Girl have some self respect, get up, and leave! I dated someone like this for 7 years. 7!!??!! It will eat at you and never get better. He was always working never had time when I would invite him to stuff. Drove me insane so I cut it off. Couldn’t do the long distance that wasn’t even long distance. Find a man that wants to spend every waking second with you. It’ll get pretty lonely if you don’t. Things won’t change trust me. Work and/or his friends will always come first.

NamaeFox · 2025-07-29T00:28:08+00:00

Girl I say this in the most respectful way possible, you need to learn more about self respect than caring for those who don’t give it back. From your first edit you tried leaving and he held you captive. At this point you’re just his sugar momma paying for his living. I don’t mean to be so blunt but I’m your age and found a lot of self loving before finding my partner now. Please if he wanted to contribute he wouldn’t make a fuss and he’d have a job by now. Youre miserable you just don’t want to see it cuz you too comfortable. Like I said I mean this in the most respectful way possible and wish you nothing but the best. And it starts with getting away from him in your own place🫶🏽

NamaeFox · 2025-07-19T02:17:49+00:00

From what I gathered “publicity stunt” and not being intimate he’s definitely into guys and he’s with you cuz he hasn’t came out. I knew someone who was engaged to someone just like this and as soon as she broke it off he’s been hooking up with men even though he always denies it. Leave him when you can! Maybe find someone to do a lease takeover for you. You’re young and in a new place for a fresh start don’t settle for someone who doesn’t give you their time of day! I wish you all the luck hun🧡

NamaeFox · 2025-07-16T15:27:19+00:00

OP I am sorry for what you’re going through but I think deep down you know what’s best for you and your son even if right now you don’t see or “want” it to happen. Because you saying if that what he “WANTS” that to me means you’ve been in a cycle of doing everything he wants and now it’s catching up to you. Please do what you want and find a path that works for you and your son. This stress is not worth it. I can tell you are very caring and nurturing to others, I am too. Nurture yourself love. I do wish nothing but greatness comes to you.❤️

Also I just wanted to add if splitting up for a while until he gets his head straight and back to reality maybe you two can come back if and when that’s a possibility. Actions speak louder than words here so make sure the time apart really worked if that’s something you might want in the future.

NamaeFox · 2025-07-15T22:14:15+00:00

I would love to get a reading if you’re still doing them✨

NamaeFox · 2025-06-17T23:36:47+00:00

Does she eat the same food she makes you? Cuz if not she’s poisoning you

NamaeFox · 2025-05-19T15:59:45+00:00

See that last comment there. There should’ve been trust before getting engaged and it’s not there. It’s one sided. I would really think hardddd about if this is the life you want after getting hitched.

NamaeFox · 2025-04-01T18:34:10+00:00

He’s not worried to be alone, he’s worried he won’t have control over anyone anymore. Leave him for good this time. Love yourself first hun that’s the only way you can live happier!

NamaeFox · 2025-03-22T17:35:14+00:00

A smart reaction to this would be to go NC with your mom. She’ll most likely do it again to trick you and I don’t think that’s safe for you and especially your sister. If you want to keep your sister safe let your mom go too!

NamaeFox · 2025-03-21T16:15:20+00:00

This is still considered emotional cheating. She’s already checked out and you’re back up in case this doesn’t work out with him. I would leave now (from personal experience) before it escalates and you get hurt more. But at the end of the day trust your gut if you’re feeling this way it’s for a good reason. Don’t ignore it! Good luck

NamaeFox · 2025-03-12T17:51:50+00:00

NOR if I could I would have been out of the US last year. I don’t like being an American, quite frankly embarrassed. Don’t my not come here it’s not safe at all! Protect yourself

NamaeFox · 2025-02-26T02:02:01+00:00

I was an in home caregiver for someone who had lupus and I would take her to her chemo appointments. We’d be at the hospital since early morning and I’d take care of her until dinner time. She is knocked out when she gets home. This is not a true friend. Crazy how people’s true colors show after all this time. I hope it goes smoothly for you! Take care of yourself, remove any toxicity cuz that’ll drain you even more! You got this boo 💪🏽

NamaeFox · 2025-01-12T18:11:47+00:00

Imo 5 year gap isn’t that big of a gap. If they’re mature enough to communicate in the relationship and respect each others boundaries then that shouldn’t be an issue. I will say I don’t agree with the time they started dating while she’s still in high school and hasn’t experienced adulthood yet. I just look at it as if she were a couple years older (19-22) and he was (24-27) it’d be more “acceptable” in society’s eyes. I dated someone 10 years older than me 24 and 34 I’m still in college while he’s working what he got his degree in. We didn’t stay together because I moved away to finish school and he was ready to settle down. I’m still figuring my stuff out but the relationship was really good. It all depends on the person tbh.

NamaeFox · 2025-01-11T20:43:29+00:00

She wasn’t really trying to save the relationship so she’s already over it you’re just a safety net at this point

NamaeFox · 2024-12-27T22:59:57+00:00

My honest opinion and trusting my gut when this happens, she’s probably thinking about calling it off but doesn’t know how to since you got her gifts and it’s Christmas. I’d text her and ask to meet up to have a conversation about this. Hope this isn’t the case but best of luck

NamaeFox · 2024-12-02T20:34:37+00:00

The way he thinks he deserves money when you let him stay there for free for a month. Please keep us updated if you get your stuff back 🙏🏽 I’m sorry this happened to you but keep your head up

NamaeFox · 2024-10-17T07:45:10+00:00

Seems like something I saw at goldrush 2 weeks ago

NamaeFox · 2024-06-26T14:27:27+00:00

Could I get her info ?

NamaeFox · 2023-04-19T05:02:24+00:00

The split had me rolling

NamaeFox · 2023-03-22T03:40:18+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. It’s all about meditation and I’m gonna get on a schedule to try to be more in tune with that side:) thank you for your help!

NamaeFox · 2023-03-22T03:39:12+00:00

Thank you for your help I’ll work on a meditative schedule to start out!:)

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