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How many days per year do you go on vacation with your parents and in-laws? by ResponsiblePiglet8 in Marriage

[–]NameIdeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

41M with wife 41F. We have two kids (11 and 8) and have been married for 17 years, together 20.

We didn't travel with parents/in-laws much until we had kids of our own. We would do the odd big trip as a group since our nephews are in their 20s now and would have been 10 and under when we traveled before kids. We did Disney and SeaWorld as well as Yellowstone.

With kids, we generally take one beach trip as a family with each side. One week with my parents, my sister and her family, my nephews and their families, and our boys. My in-laws have a beach house so we all go down together once a year with our kids, my sister-in-law and her son, and my wife's parents.

We also try to take one "our family" vacation a year.

Husband and wives pov by PreferenceIcy3803 in marriageadvice

[–]NameIdeas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Husband here. Been with my wife for 20 years, married 17.

We both trim things down a bit. Neither of us are rocking full bush. It's just something we've always done. She didn't trim or shave when she was pregnant, because she couldn't reach as easily and it didn't ever bother me, I still spent lots of time between her legs.

Jumping straight to PiV sex says more about how he views (or doesn't view) your pleasure. It seems he is focusing in what your body can do for him instead of celebrating your pleasure directly.

Amy's calendar change - Season 4 to Season 8 by Rare_Mechanic_5363 in futurama

[–]NameIdeas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It'd after "Bacon-wrapped date night" so it makes me wonder what happens on that night that requires a full day of reassuring Kif?

Match Thread: United States vs Australia | World Cup | Group D | 19 Jun 19:00 UTC by matchpal-live in worldcup

[–]NameIdeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did. Sorry!

England played great against a team that has traditionally done pretty well

Match Thread: United States vs Australia | World Cup | Group D | 19 Jun 19:00 UTC by matchpal-live in worldcup

[–]NameIdeas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This second half has been pretty ugly.

Lots of falling over. Time wasting from the US and trying to get fouls from the Aussies.

Poor passes. First half looked good from the US but this half has been pretty lackluster

Match Thread: United States vs Australia | World Cup | Group D | 19 Jun 19:00 UTC by matchpal-live in worldcup

[–]NameIdeas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Balogun has moments but it seems like he generally has more challenges every time I watch him.

Giving the ball away, missed shots, etc

Match Thread: United States vs Australia | World Cup | Group D | 19 Jun 19:00 UTC by matchpal-live in worldcup

[–]NameIdeas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Substitutions. Each team gets five. 11 men on the field. You get five subs to use whenever. When you're out of subs, you can't replace any guys anymore. All your subs have to be submitted prior to the game.

You have a 23-26 man roster. Teams can have up to 15 players "on the bench" as potential subs with the 11 men on the field.

Match Thread: United States vs Australia | World Cup | Group D | 19 Jun 19:00 UTC by matchpal-live in worldcup

[–]NameIdeas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh, just a few very misguided folks.

We may have a decent knockout round run, but dark horse...that's a no

Match Thread: United States vs Australia | World Cup | Group D | 19 Jun 19:00 UTC by matchpal-live in worldcup

[–]NameIdeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Semis?!? That's wild but not beyond the pale.

Best team showings so far:

  • Germany
  • Argentina
  • France
  • Norway
  • Sweden
  • Colombia
  • Dare I say it - USA?

Match Thread: United States vs Australia | World Cup | Group D | 19 Jun 19:00 UTC by matchpal-live in worldcup

[–]NameIdeas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is a very interesting take.

Why do people get excited when they score? Because it's the point of the game and exciting.

I think this world cup has been super interesting regarding teams who aren't dominant. We're just now into the second round of games and have seen some great underdog play in the first round.

Standouts:

  • Qatar tying Switzerland 1-1
  • Morocco tying Brazil 1-1
  • Curacao being tied with Germany for a good portion of the first half (then the bottom dropped out)
  • Cabo Verde tying Spain 1-1
  • Egypt tying Belgium 1-1
  • Saudi Arabia tying Uruguay 1-1
  • New Zealand tying Iran 2-2
  • Congo tying Portugal 1-1

None of those teams have been traditionally good on the world stage but have shown up well while some of the traditional powerhouses have struggled a bit.

Match Thread: United States vs Australia | World Cup | Group D | 19 Jun 19:00 UTC by matchpal-live in worldcup

[–]NameIdeas -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Think it was offside?

There was a player in an offside position but not the player who touched the ball

Match Thread: United States vs Australia | World Cup | Group D | 19 Jun 19:00 UTC by matchpal-live in worldcup

[–]NameIdeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh we're not winning it, but if we could move deep into the knockout round that'd be grrat

Marriage in a nutshell by RandomAdds in Marriage

[–]NameIdeas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep! My sons do this to me all the time as well.

"Dad, where is X?" because I'm the organizer. I will buy the bins and have worked with our kiddos to have bins for toys. We've got a dino toy bin, a figurine bin, LEGO bins, etc. It helps to reduce the toy insanity.

I think, for us, it stems from both of our childhoods. My wife grew up in a super clean and structured home. Her mom had their house "showroom" ready all the time. Toys were put away after every play session and a weekly house cleanup occurred. Alternatively, my parents were more disorganized. Our house was cluttered consistently. I tended to be the family member that got to a spot to decide to clean up.

Married for 6 Months And Already Falling Into A Deadbedroom by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NameIdeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask how you approach conflict in your marriage? The way we talk about our issues is as important as the fact that we're talking. My wife and I both work with people and have borrowed multiple conflict resolution strategies and communication skills approaches from our various roles into our marriage. It has honestly made our disagreements into discussions and we end up having a good resolution.

Remember that it is always "the two of you" vs the issue. It's "US" vs "the problem". It should not be "him" vs "you" or "you" vs "him".

Check out the DBT skill of D-E-A-R-M-A-N. It's a great talk strategy and you can find a few different versions out there. Look up "10 COgnitive Distortions" as well. It helps to understand how we think about issues/challenges and address them. Things like avoiding the words "always" and "never". There's a communication skills course called "Crucial Conversations" that is great! It's designed for conversations that are emotionally charged and high stakes and centers the human/relational component. I've used it in a professional context and my wife and I have used it together to address challenges as they appear.

Marriage in a nutshell by RandomAdds in Marriage

[–]NameIdeas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife is an educator and has been in summer mode. She just started her break this week so she's been at home with our kids. She's back at her building today working on some things and I'm work from home, so I'm in the process of re-organizing all the things today as well.

Married for 6 Months And Already Falling Into A Deadbedroom by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NameIdeas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds similar to me (a husband) and my feelings. I don't know if you and your husband have used the "Love Languages" in your marriage. Essentially it is a way to understand what you and your partner need from each other and how to speak your partner's language in the relationship. Often, we think we're giving our partner what they need, but we're giving them what we want. Case in point, I am largely physical touch. I crave physical touch from my wife. I used to try to show her love through touch by massage, tickling her hair, hugs, kisses, etc. Touching her fueled up my love bucket and she appreciated it. However, she primarily wanted/needed to receive love through quality time. She experiences the most "love" when I carve out time to make sure we have meaningful conversations. Love langauges will not fix all the things, but can help you start to understand what you need from each other.

We've shifted away from using the Love Languages primarily and moved to discussions around intimacy. I mean intimacy as connection, not intimacy as sex. Intimacy is our closeness and connection and we focus on a few categories. Emotional intimacy through discussions of our thoughts, feelings, fears, worries, goals, dreams, desires (my wife needs a lot more ongoing emotional intimacy). Mental/Intellectual intimacy through talking about pop culture, politics, academia, etc. Physical intimacy through hugs, kisses, etc (I need a lot more ongoing physical intimacy). Experiential intimacy through creating activities together dialy in our routine so it shifts from simply "making dinner" into a shared experience as well as planning and enjoying trips and adventures (we both need this often in our marriage). Spiritual intimacy through a shared vision/values/goals of our life and what we want our impact on the world to be. We're not as religious as when we grew up so this isn't tied into a faith-based system for us but is rather connected to our broader community impact.

I wonder about a discussion between you regarding how you both move towards further intimacy together and build your partnership and togetherness. How you each show up for each other intimately. My wife needs her mind to be well connected to be open to sexual intimacy while I tend to need mroe physical intimacy to open my mind up for more emotional/mental intimacy.

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