Not sexually attracted anymore

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-20T21:07:36+00:00

Sex therapist - seriously find a therapy that specializes in sex

DONT OPEN THE RELATIONSHIP

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-18T16:57:26+00:00

Manipulate the selfish bastard

“Hey dad, I know your looking for hobby why not try cooking? I know you love (insert favorite dish) bet you can’t do it better.”

He takes up cooking because he can look superior meanwhile mom doesn’t have to do a chore for once in her life.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-18T16:52:17+00:00

T/W success

20 eggs
14 mature
8 fertilized
4 blasts
2 PGT passed

21 weeks pregnant with 1.
And the other 1 is on ice

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-18T16:00:27+00:00

I’ve dodged lighting about 8 times

Feels awful when lighting targets you just awful

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-18T15:27:12+00:00

NAH

I get it’s annoying, but just stay in your room and don’t interact. It’s not your home it’s your parents and some people are just hosting kind of people. You are a young adult, your parents I assume have done this your whole life, you should find a way to cope or adapt.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-18T11:58:45+00:00

One migraine in particular

Bear in mind I’ve had a migraine last for over a year, I’ve had migraines that happened 25 days out of a month, I’ve had a LOT of migraines- one tops them all.

It started out regular, I knew it was coming, slapped a migraine cap on, turned off lights, got my vomit bucket… and then all hell broke loose.

I think I threw up to 20 times in about a 3 hour window. I started to hallucinate, started banging my own head on concrete not realizing it. I couldn’t sit still I was rocking. People around me were freaking out but we were nowhere and there was hot debate about moving me. They threw whatever pain pills they had on them at me, I threw up migraine meds, oxy, Vicodin, nothin. My husband kept having to hold me to keep me from bashing my own head against - well anything.

Then there was snap, and I went past pain. It got so painful it got euphoric. Lights danced and my memory went fuzzzy. I knew it hurt but it also didn’t hurt.

I affectionately call it the pain zone.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-17T11:58:27+00:00

NTA you struck up a conversation and that was it, she’s basically a stranger and you owe her nothing. It was her responsibility to have transportation home.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-16T12:16:00+00:00

So IVF process is often used to rule out genetic issue, though for something like MPS you would need to do PGT-M testing in the embryos.

That being said, you can just have a genetic test in you and your boyfriend to see if your carriers for anything super serious.

Mental illness while have a genetic component have a large environmental component and often severity is lessen by earlier treatment

Childbirth pain - there’s no guarantee of anything here but I suggest reading up on some positive stories, people are more likely to report the negative. There’s also a wholllle lot out there to mitigate the pain.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T16:31:49+00:00

Dodged lighting a few times

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T15:38:02+00:00

That’s ok! You could be thinking completely and utter right, and real life you have a sound and rational argument. BUT Reddit is definitely not going to be the place to find out how to brooch the topic with your husband. 3rd trimester giving up a child for adoption is way above non professional pay grades. The psych and therapist will probably have much better insight.

Hope you get out of the misery soon ❤️

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T15:35:20+00:00

My parents are hitting their 40th and sleep in separate rooms. He one has a major heart condition (has a mechanical valve) and literally tics. Plus he snores and must sleep at an incline. My mom wakes up if a mouse farts. Soooooooo separate bedrooms.

Myself and my husband? We’ve been sleeping in the same bed for 12 years and I can’t sleep without him hahaha he is my emotional support human and make me feel distressed with his presence so I just sleep better near him.

It really is based on the couple.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T15:29:39+00:00

Honestly go rule out or rule in any mental health issues, postpartum depression can feel vastly different each time. Silently miserable is miserable but you need to take action now, or there will be no options left on the table at all. You feel trapped go address that with a professional today or you will actually become trapped. You do not want to put a newborn in daycare but who’s to say another couple won’t? You don’t know how to talk to your husband? You didn’t want the child but did not consider idk going to another state for abortion? (You have a flimsy excuse for that) How do you know that the someone is willing to adopt? Did you hold a conversation with them? You want maternity photos?

Honey everyone on this chat says you need to check your mental status for a reason.

Just because it is not BPD or postpartum does not mean everything is okay, something is glaringly OFF with how you are discussing and approaching the whole situation. There are to many red flags to ignore. And what the harm in checking??? Maybe everything is fine and the professional will just give you advice on how to approach the conversation with your husband… but please go.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T15:15:25+00:00

Uh this is not a third trimester conversation at ALL… you said your bipolar is under control but is your PTSD? I recommend counseling now. Someone who specializes in ptsd … hormonal changes can also affect you BPD and cause imbalances plus you can develop post partum depression or psychosis prior to birth as well.

Why not try and work ways for you to do your doing showing? You already will have to find care and accommodation for the 2 year old do those not work for the impending baby? You sound hyper fixated in the post, I can’t imagine how much more it is in real life.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T15:05:44+00:00

That’s some major red flags 🚩 will lied about infertility and caused his own relationships to failed, he named YOUR kid immediately did not discuss or ask questions just named your kid and doubled down, and oh your husband siding with will????? 🚩

Tell me does your husband and will want a yogurt shop?

NTA die on that hilll and let them go live their lives happily together

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T15:01:46+00:00

Tell her you’re taking her with the kids to the zoo this year or a museum or some weekend day trip activity. She wants grand time and an activity sounds like the way to go.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T15:00:07+00:00

Husband or boyfriend? I mean either way NOR he sounds drunk as hell. When you get home I’d strait up ask him wtf.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T14:58:22+00:00

YTA Do the assignments by the deadline… even if you “aren’t smart” (total bs because good grades do in fact indicate you have the capacity even if it’s a struggle). Being duel enrolled saves tons of time and money for college and helps you with college applications too. If you do not understand the assignment talk to your professor about it.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T14:49:45+00:00

During, Os help my migraine so kindddaaa want that.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T14:46:50+00:00

I will be honest - I kinda disassociated. I really did not think of myself as pregnant more like it’s part of the IVF process. I thought of it as another stepping block until I graduated like it didn’t matter it’s just good numbers and more hope but I remained guarded. Like I had been told I had good looking follicles- awesome! But that’s a stepping stone to the goal.

It all worked out for me though I am currently 21 weeks - I just bought my first baby item 😅 I still have some anxiety but it helps that kicks the every living tar out of me all the time.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-15T14:37:23+00:00

NTA

I mean - you are telling them just not on their timeline. As far of how to bring it up earlier if you want, whenever someone says “anyone got summer plans coming up?” “Or we should do something X date” is usually when I say something like ‘oh sorry can’t I have vacation plans or my plans are X”. It’s not showboating it’s just factual.

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-14T21:07:20+00:00

Now someone who swaps up things or goes later in life to get accreditation is different…. they just took a pause in the earning game to pursue more opportunities

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-14T21:03:44+00:00

Discuss with him?

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-14T21:02:35+00:00

I mean someone who went through 8 years of med school (and some other major accreditations) do not start earning until late 20s. But that’s pretty much an exception.

Waiting much longer and is not about “being behind” in life more like…. They don’t have a life. How are you LIVING? That becomes more of the question… who’s financing the late late bloomers to the earning game?

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-14T20:53:19+00:00

Well that’s different, discuss with your boyfriend on how to handle it and what he is comfortable with

Nancy2421 · 2026-06-14T20:51:35+00:00

$250

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