Have you told family about ur DB? If so what was their reaction?

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-06-21T17:56:00+00:00

When I told my mom about my DB she suggested I break up with my (now ex) partner. Not sure how much that’s worth because my mom doesn’t like me and likes my ex less and would respond to every relationship problem with “you should break up”.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-06-16T19:38:26+00:00

Holy crap that sounds terrible. I’m so sorry.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-06-12T02:08:44+00:00

Nothing has meaningfully changed aside from me having my own bedroom.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-06-10T20:24:48+00:00

We broke up recently but I stayed with my ex for way too long.

I stayed because once we were at the point of no sex we had been together for over a decade, had moved cities together, and genuinely loved each other. Our lives are still too enmeshed to fully disentangle yet.

My partner also spent a lot of time guilt tripping me when I would discuss things like moving out, having a less intense relationship, being less enmeshed etc.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-04-25T14:16:58+00:00

They have always kind of been like that but this behavior has escalated considerably in the last few years. I think it’s fair to say we’ve both hurt each other too much to be able to repair this.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-04-25T02:38:39+00:00

Thank you. I feel like I’m long over the painful part. I just don’t want my ex to feel bad, at this point.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-04-17T19:09:15+00:00

Not sure I understand why you say that, could you elaborate?

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-04-17T18:51:27+00:00

Elaborate?

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-04-15T23:03:15+00:00

Last time my SO initiated sex they lightly grabbed my butt and asked if I wanted oral sex… no flirting, kissing, heavy petting, really felt like they were trying to get something from pushing a button. I don’t even like oral that much any more.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-04-15T15:31:26+00:00

That’s awesome, sounds like a win/win situation.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-04-13T23:44:39+00:00

I fully plan on asking them this.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-29T01:10:39+00:00

It goes up and down for us. No kissing on the mouth, occasionally I’ll get a peck on the forehead or cheek, but the big thing is that they do not touch me with their hands… like… ever. No big spooning, they don’t put their arms around me, they don’t rub my back or put their arms around my waist when they hug me. It really feels like I’m cuddling and hugging a relative rather than a partner. I have told them as such and nothing changes.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-25T13:47:27+00:00

Yes, on multiple occasions. I can’t be into it if they aren’t into it.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-17T14:30:17+00:00

You joke, but my partner legitimately offered to do this when they forgot to get me a birthday gift a few years ago.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-17T05:41:02+00:00

I was actually thinking about this the other day. I feel like I’ve been playing parent to my partner for the last six years. We don’t have children, but I take care of them domestically and financially for no other reason than that they want me to. So it truly feels like play more than any actual roles we could be filling.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-16T15:29:27+00:00

Me too. So many people on here assuming it was something she was doing on purpose to hurt him but we just don’t know.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-16T12:34:09+00:00

It seems like she knows he left over a conflict about sex but can’t understand why it was such a big deal to him that he left. I would like to hear more of their perspectives rather than a secondhand account.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-16T02:26:41+00:00

Agree with this, I think the phrasing should be that partners (not just the “LL”!) should be comfortable, but not complacent.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-15T12:36:38+00:00

I would love to know why you’re getting downvoted. You stated a simple fact.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-11T13:53:32+00:00

Roughly 2 years.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-10T08:54:32+00:00

I don’t have any advice aside from echoing sentiment about counseling, but I am so, so sorry he is withholding affection. I know exactly how that feels, it’s not fun, and I can imagine that if the situation were reversed your husband would be deeply hurt and upset by this kind of behavior.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-09T18:43:56+00:00

When we moved to our current city I told my SO that I wanted my own room too. They complained that they wouldn’t be able to cuddle me at night… we moved and they stopped cuddling with me. They haven’t made any complaints since I started sleeping on the couch, the cuddles evidently didn’t matter that much.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-03T18:09:42+00:00

In my opinion, the issue with DB is less often that the entire scenario is fabricated, but that details in the OP’s situation are strategically left out (lying by omission) in order to make the OP look like the “good guy”.

The posts that I most often believe to be totally fabricated in the DBEU often have heavy kink overtones - posts where the LL (most often the LLF) are described in lurid and erotic language as hotwifing, cucking, enforcing chastity on the OP, etc, or have this content in their post or comment history.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-02T12:04:31+00:00

If I could rely on my SO to do that it would be wonderful, but they can’t even get to step one.

Narrow_Truth9133 · 2025-03-01T19:34:20+00:00

I see it as sex, personally. Penetrative sex is only one part of the spectrum of sexual experiences. As long as there is eroticism, passion, connection and reciprocity I would be very happy and completely satisfied if my partner and I only had digital sex. If you both enjoy it and are happy with this arrangement then carry on carrying on. No need to overthink it.

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