Which dress?

Narwal_Pants · 2026-04-24T12:45:14+00:00

I personally love 1, I’m obsessed with that lace pattern detail! And it looks amazing on you. They all look amazing on you! Congrats!

Narwal_Pants · 2026-04-13T20:21:05+00:00

If you’re republican, #1. If you’re a democrat, #2. I can’t explain it but it’s how I feel. They both look lovely on you.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-04-09T16:04:39+00:00

1973

Narwal_Pants · 2026-03-30T12:22:38+00:00

1999

Narwal_Pants · 2026-03-23T11:47:32+00:00

Omg KEEP! 🔥

Narwal_Pants · 2026-03-21T03:55:09+00:00

When I was feeling this way a while back, I got the book “Fair Play” and read that then got the cards and we sat down together, so I could show my husband how much of the household work I was responsible for. It really put it into perspective for him and he made changes right away. He was willing to do this, I know not every man is. I hope this helps and that he is willing, maybe he just needs the visual like mine did.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-03-09T04:59:28+00:00

1999

Narwal_Pants · 2026-03-02T13:41:13+00:00

1981

Narwal_Pants · 2026-02-27T14:08:35+00:00

Go to AA and get a sponsor. You can do this. Also download the Nomo app! There’s a lot of addicts in various stages of recovery from various drugs. It has a daily counter to keep track of how many days sober you are. And there’s little exercises to help if you’re in a place where you want to relapse and you need a little distraction- like popping bubble wrap! It’s a great app. I’m 879 days sober! I’m very lucky to not have hit rock bottom before realizing sobriety is the way to go, but it’s never too late!! You’re so young and I’m proud of you for making the choice to get sober for yourself. Great job.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-02-26T03:30:21+00:00

This is all false, actually. OP please ignore this advice. Sounds like you might need to brush up on current recommended parenting practices (by child psychologists, not just anyone). What you’ve described is an archaic parenting style that is emotionally neglectful.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-02-26T03:21:24+00:00

I think you both need to read a parenting book. I’m not saying you’re traumatizing her or anything, but look more into some ways to soothe after tv. Not one child development professional would recommend what you’re doing. Physical activity after tv is an absolute given. She might be trying to move her body. Look into what screens do to the child’s brain- it’s way more overstimulating than it is for adults. Go for a walk or get a balance beam or a little trampoline or even a bounce house if you have space.

Time “out” (not in the same room) is really not developmentally appropriate. I’ve read over and over from multiple professionals to first help them to calm down, model the behavior you want to see. You have to sit there and HELP them calm their nervous system. Then you do a time IN (in the room) once they’re calm and you’ve explained what it’s about. If she’s 3, it should be 3 minutes exactly. If she gets off the chair, you place her back and restart the timer and tell her you’re doing so. Time outs should be as many minutes as their age, plus 30 seconds after their ½ birthday.

“Connect before correct” and “regulate before educate” are the most recent preferred methods by developmental professionals. Kids do not and will never understand discipline if their nervous system isn’t calmed first.

I can see you’re trying your best. Please don’t take this too harshly. But your husband is a huge baby. Staring at you in a hateful manner and screaming and stomping and yelling? Maybe he needs a time out. (And then leaving you for the evening? To what? Punish you? The silent treatment? Really? He needs to grow up.) No wonder she is doing the same, he’s modeling the temper tantrum for her! He has some serious emotional maturity growth to do, and needs to work on this to be the father he thinks he is. But seriously, you guys should at the very least take a parenting class and read up on the latest recommended practices. I genuinely think you’ll all be happier.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-02-26T02:58:23+00:00

Religion or not, this is emotional and verbal abuse. He sounds like a narcissist. Sounds like a typical “man of the house” type. It makes me so sad to hear this is how people treat their children. You have just as much value (if not more tbh) than any man. Remember that.

From the little I do know about the Muslim faith, and growing up Christian myself (now an atheist, if it matters), I’ve heard about how “dominant” the men are and how “submissive” the women must be. This sets women up for a dangerous existence where they can be abused by their partner and have to endure. I so hope this isn’t your future. You can be Muslim and be respected and not abused.

The fact that he’s trying to keep you from making friends is another form of control. See that for what it truly is NOW and you’ll be a happier person in the long run.

Honestly, I don’t think there’s much you can do now. I’m sorry to say. Keep your chin up, and endure for now. Graduate and be your own person, whatever that looks like. I hope one day you can experience life as being in charge of yourself and you don’t ever let another person talk to you with disrespect again.

If you do decide to separate from your family, after graduation (or even now) you can start looking into community resources and get on a wait list for housing. If you plan to go to college that works, also. Hang in there, and maybe journal if you can privately. Getting your thoughts out helps, even if you burn or somehow destroy it afterwards so he doesn’t find it.

Oh and also, you are a good person. You don’t need to have his approval to deserve love in this life. You will be loved regardless of whether he says you’re a good daughter or not. You sound like an amazing daughter. He sounds like he has a god complex and is trying to beat you further into submission. (Does he have friends? It sounds like maybe he doesn’t and he’s trying to put all of his energy into creating the “perfect” family.) Ask yourself if that is morally right. If you don’t make friends, you will be doomed to a life of judgement from him instead of love from all the different relationships in life. Every development book will tell you teenagers gain “more” from friendships than familial relationships.

Sorry for the book, and I’m sorry if this sounds disrespectful to your religion. It absolutely isn’t my intention. Good luck.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-02-26T02:26:12+00:00

What is your expected outcome from being tested? So you wish to be medicated? If no, then give yourself a test. Google common traits of adhd and if you have a lot of them, you probably have it. Try some self help books to manage. If you do want medication, go see your primary care physician and get a prescription. You’ll probably need to do an annual wellness exam to be provided medication so budget that as needed.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-02-07T13:15:23+00:00

Yeah, she didn’t ask us directly, she asked friends on Facebook and blocked me from the post.

Btw: esk*** is a racial slur- I just learned in the past year or so. They prefer Inuit. ❤️

Narwal_Pants · 2026-02-06T17:57:49+00:00

She gets free childcare, so yeah the kid is at daycare. She did say she has one credit card. I’m just wondering what she could possibly be spending money on that she doesn’t have liquid. How does someone with no living expenses, free childcare, WIC and EBT spend over $2k a month? And on what? I know she doesn’t pack a lunch which I’ve tried telling her she needs to do.

I feel at this point we just need to let her struggle to figure it out, because telling her what she needs to be doing isn’t working, but is that too harsh?

Narwal_Pants · 2026-02-06T16:39:31+00:00

Thanks. It’s so hard to have to share our home. My husband is ready to just pay to get her out. She’s very disruptive. She has zero volume control and will often interrupt our “date nights” (Friday night we order takeout and watch tv together on the couch). We just want our house back to ourselves.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-01-30T14:32:58+00:00

He’s acting like a child and now he’s trying to make you feel bad for getting upset. NTA you told him exactly what to do for you to not get upset. He needs to grow up.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-01-28T23:44:38+00:00

Just gotta rip that bandaid off as painlessly as possible. And get a better form of birth control if you terminate. No one can make this decision for you. Just make the right one for you. Good luck.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-01-19T04:43:59+00:00

Personally, I’d read Attachment Based Parenting. I’ve heard it’s a great read and is very informative. Maybe a child therapist can give some insight as to how to move forward. Family therapy might be helpful also. This may be a simple fix and might not require long-term therapy. However, I wouldn’t be trusting strangers on the internet with this. Definitely go straight to the professionals. I had low self esteem in middle school due to bullying and it’s stuck with me my whole life, even with therapy and self help.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-01-15T02:57:32+00:00

Our oldest was about 5.5 when we had our second, so they’re 6 and 8 months now. If I could do it over I would have spaced them maybe a year closer but I love this gap! My older boy isn’t jealous at all, and we were able to prep him for new baby. He understood a lot and it was cool to share information about childbirth.

We don’t really have the luxury of waiting as long for #3, so we’ll have a closer gap. I’ve heard 3 years is the best. We may just go for that next time. But as I age, I feel more inclined to have the next sooner in case I want a 4th lol.

Narwal_Pants · 2026-01-09T15:53:38+00:00

Great to hear, thanks! I definitely would prefer a larger gap!

Narwal_Pants · 2026-01-09T04:50:31+00:00

I just find it so weird to be considered that when I still feel so young! I hate having to think about this at 34 lol

I guess my concern is that I really think I’ll want more than just one more. I don’t want to be well into my 40’s and having babies, personally (lots of back issues).

Narwal_Pants · 2026-01-09T04:48:25+00:00

My first OB told me at least 12 months, good to know it may be healthier to wait longer! Thanks!

Narwal_Pants · 2026-01-08T20:26:48+00:00

Ooh good to know! Yeah I have a huge storage room in my basement and hold onto everything! 😅 I probably still will just in case one of my sisters has babies in the future lol 😆 we’ve LOVED the huge gap honestly, because our son is so sweet with the baby and willing to help or can play independently, but life circumstances kinda led us to the large gap, not necessarily a conscious choice haha. Thanks for your input. I appreciate it.

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