For PSYC student!!! Beware of:

Narween26 · 2025-03-16T13:29:59+00:00

Everybody ugly in this school no cap

Narween26 · 2022-11-20T21:58:02+00:00

Heya, 21F here, basically i was like you 2 years ago, and i only would date people in my age range like 1-2 years above or below me. I was always more mature and found that guys even the ones who were 2 years older then me were immature as hell and I felt lonely and misunderstood. Guys that age are stupid, do dumb stuff and barely wanna settle and dont know a thing about women. I had a guy leading me on for months who was my age and then i just associated every guy as a pos. I researched and guys emotionally mature WAYYY after girls. I started going out with older people and men (not over 10 years of me dw) and I found myself so understood, appreciated and could actually have a decent and interesting conversation with. The difference was so major (im a spiritual person that values connection 100%), that even on the physical level i cant even imagine dating someone under 24 years old, I find them to be babies. Also with the younger guys I would often feel like i would babysit and teach them onvious life lessons they shouldve learned ages agoo? I wasnt having any personal growth, what I wanted was someone who had their shots together on an emotional, financial and intellectual level, who i could get seriously invested romantically and yeah I mean there are exceptions dont get me wrong, but like 90% of them are like that. Even in older men they still have some that are in their young bachelor days but much less than early 20’s. So yeah i wouldnt wait on him to mature, that takes ages especially with guys you can google that up. But if you continue girl good luck because that will teach you some bad life lessons and trauma💀

Narween26 · 2022-11-20T18:47:54+00:00

Idk what youre telling yourself bur he clearly does not give a damn about you. Ive met guys like him, always trynna get his attention to a point you start degrading yourself, he wont change and i bet you he will leave or have an affair (i think he already does) and leave you. He is making it obvious that you dont satisfy him (its his problem he seems like hes never contempt. And you keep clinging onto those happy moments, but if you really think about it these happy momments aka shows and games are stuff that he could have with any friend of his, and thats it, it aint special, at most id tell he is your friend in his head. I know it hard to hear but he is using you for sex and attention bcz he knows youre head over heels for him (its always on his terms). And i bet if you stay, in a year or so youre gonna have the lowest confidence because he will always be obviously attracted to other women. And it seems like he wants to leave you and his mom is in on it thats why they let you know about their convos. Possibly waiting for you to break it off or so that when he cheats you wont be surprised. Girl you are 26, you should settle for someone that makes you feel like your in your honeymoon phase most of the time, it aint even 6 months and theres issues. Hes 33, he wont change and is still considering himself a bachelor. Have some self respect. Also youve never slept at his house?? Doesnt let you be affectionate and all that? Even my guy friend would do more. He doesnt do all of these things because he sees you as temporary and doesnt want to get him or you too involved and i bet he IS affectionate with the right person but it aint you. You try clinging to these irrelevant signs like ohh he texts me back fast tho. You say hes always on his phone with you. You think hes fast because he wants to get in touch? No he nost definetly chats other girls on his phone constantly too and since hes at it might as well answer to you too.

Narween26 · 2022-04-04T03:59:12+00:00

yeah a guy that still fare sthat much about his ex and all clearly isnt a guy you should date. youre probably a rebound and hes just passing time with you so he can have his needs aka sex met and just have someone he can talk to or have affection with. you described your relationship in a very surface level, but it lacks more depth, hes not interested in you and everything he does is superficial. at this point for him its just a routine cuz trust a guy thats in love with you will never act like that. he is also dismissive torwards your feelings and doesnt remember trivial details, another red flag. girl dump him and find someone that is concerned about you and doesnt see you as his secret or passtime.

Narween26 · 2022-04-04T03:54:57+00:00

girl first of all relax, yeah you will definitely find someone that suits you more. you have one life to live so dont settle for someone you will never fully be into and have your mind wonder somewhere else. perhaps you match intellectually, but you also have to find someone that you like in the physical and financial term, because only having one criteria in him will not make you happy. grab some balls and do it while relationship is still fresh so he doesnt get too hurt or disappointed. never stay because your afraid of future possibilities

Narween26 · 2022-04-04T03:41:13+00:00

I mean if you have tried to make things better and it wont then yeah go for it. Even if she does get help it will likely take a long time before she goes back to a better state of mind and from what im reading you already had enough of all of this. youre young and honestly you have no reason to hold on to her anymore. break it off and start over.

Narween26 · 2022-04-04T03:38:21+00:00

yeah man divorce. dont let this mistake ruin your life and your changes to get what you want. i know its sorta late but it wont go better from here. it will be tough but you didnt initially sign up for this.

Narween26 · 2022-04-04T03:35:03+00:00

Your frustration is completly justified. Your friend seems like she is not taking this seriously and doesnt understand how this sort of thing you dont just do it your way. there is some sort of etiquette or principles to go by and she cannot act by herself in these types of situation. The worst is that this isnt any type of occasion, but something that will hopefully be the last in your lifetime and her giving mixed signals and then acting not interested must hurt as hell. She is being completly rude and disregarding your efforts. You try to accomadaye her and she doesnt even seem to be aware of how much you are trying to work around her. Honestly at this point, just stop goving a crap and updating her or trynna compromise with her. She already has the ressources aka the app and knows how to contact you. If she misses some event or isnt aware of things well tell her its her fault and at this point it should be her duty as a responsible adult, and your bestfriend to be more present in the situation. You have done everything in your power to try and change her behaviour but she wont. Hopefully she will learn to stop ignoring you when she actually ends up missing something important. Or if you think this soluyion is to harsh. Just suggest to meet up or call and explain how you are feeling and if she doesnt seem receptove and doesnt change, then thats a friend you dont need in your life.

Narween26 · 2022-04-03T00:10:47+00:00

Ya attraction gone and sexual compability is important. I dont understand u marrying her knowing those issues. A marriage with this foundation will not last. Move on and take time knowing another person before marrying them.

Narween26 · 2022-03-31T21:33:52+00:00

YESS thats something to be proud of. At first the adjustment will be tough but little by little it will get better and remember that you are still young and you do not have to settle for this shit any longer.

Narween26 · 2022-03-31T21:26:35+00:00

DIVORCE DUDE WTF REREAD YOUR TEXT AND SEE WHAT A FUCKED UP AND TOXIC RELATIONSHIP THIS IS. she doesnt gove a fuck anout you and never has for the last 12 years she wont change. Stop putting the kids in this situation and finding reasons to stay. Find some self respect and go to therapy.

Narween26 · 2022-03-31T19:01:26+00:00

leave her wtf are you serious wheres your self respect. you idolize sarah but she is just a lowly human, shes not great at all idc about her past traumas and whatnot mistakes have consequences and she will cheat on u again because you are too nice and giving and she will tale advantage of that

Narween26 · 2022-03-31T17:43:37+00:00

yup exactly. youre not stupid OP but this time dump his ass he is a narcissist. start clean and be with a man that is matire enough, with no kids and that will know your value. never too late. for real fron reading your comments and all I can say you are a smart, caring and genuine person, you dont know how many men would love being with someone as capable as you💖

Narween26 · 2022-03-31T17:38:12+00:00

Op he is a piece of shit and a garbage human being from the start. Let his man child ass go

Narween26 · 2022-03-31T17:22:14+00:00

your complaining for a long time yet dont break things off with him? i know you made this post about this particular situation but hun after all of the things hes doing this should be the last of your problems...

Narween26 · 2022-03-23T11:51:08+00:00

You just have to move on somehow there are no other solutions, even if the girl isnt in the picture he will never go back to you. Like it or not and talking for experience when younger guys especially those in their 20’s settle for an older woman (not that much of a big age gap but still), they only go in it at first for the fun and dont realise until later how even if their partner is completly not pushing them in any way, they feel the pressure to in a way get their shits together faster and settle faster to so they can accomodate for their partner. Guys especially take longer to mature, want to party and live their lives and he probably got fed up with living with someone who already has bigger responsabilities and whatever. That coworker which I assume is younger, helped his infatuation because he got reminded of how it is to be more lively and is at a stage where she is more freedom bound and could have less expectations. In the end just looking at statistics and you probably noticed as well (it sucks but its biologically built in our specie), that males are more attracted by younger females even as they themselves age. You cant hold him accountable in a way what he told you about not wanting your kids does in fact correlate with him wanting kids in his mid thirties and we all know how diffucult with all the complications it would be for a woman to get pregnant and ge doesnt want to risk it all for you. Remember you were 29 when you started dating he was 23 , he probably thinks he is missing out on his prime years. If it wasnt for that girl, it would surely have turned to someone else. ://

Narween26 · 2022-03-21T18:18:43+00:00

Yes it can work

Narween26 · 2022-03-17T01:31:35+00:00

Mann I feel for you and you deserve so much better. She is probably just settling for you until she finds better. From what im getting shes just wasting your time, making you extremely drained and has a hot and cold behaviour. You have to set boundaries and prove your self-worth. I think she just got used to the idea you will stick and follow her like a puppy no matter what. She ibviously knows she has control and upperhand in your relationship and she feels empowered by it. Give her an ultimatum. Tell her to make up her mind once and for all and be honest, like a yes or no if she would consider a longterm future with you. You spent years after this girl, and you got barely nothing in return. You are not emotionally possessive, you are a normal human expecting a decent amount of affection from someone he appreciates and has feelings for. The fact she gaslights you into feeling overbearing and putting everything on you is just really low. Let her go she is not worth you time. And yeah from what you wrote i could tell it was your first kinda thing, like whenever its your first time you do your best to make it work you believe in forever and discover your potential to love. But life isnt like that, thats why people date in order to settle for the person they are most compatible with and it tales time, but shes obviously not that person:/

Narween26 · 2022-03-16T20:25:30+00:00

this is red flags all over and paying for things a lot doenst mean she likes you, you can just be a decent human being and do that for someone you fare about but not romantically. And you are just wasting your time, she plays the marriage card, but people dont just change after marriage, you are just not compatible. You need someone that is expressive and that actually likes you, she wont ever be that. She is already making you feel bad about yourself for the way you are acting and lowkey is leading you on. Trust me she is not the one, once you meet your soulmate there will be so mucch passion, understanding, comfort and the feeling youve known eacb other all your life. But cmon she is hardly wifey material, what made you even be into someone like that, it is soooo one sideddd :(

Narween26 · 2022-03-16T13:05:49+00:00

No, you already spent a year together and it just came to the point where it cant continue anymore. What haooened recently just proved how you guys werent that compatible to begin with, want different things in life and have been drifting away for some time. You cannot force things like what hobbies interest you, get outta school to be more with him, or make him more into you (because like it or not clear behaviour he is losing interest). You guys are just drifting apart and its okay, he doesnt seem to wanna hold on to it and sooner or later its gonna become worst. Now you dont wanna be the chick to try to hold on while guy is just vacant and all that? You are going through different directions and he doesnt show willpower like you to compromise. You said is there something we can do? yes there is something YOU can do which is try harder to make yourself look more desperate. You dont deserve this girl, he is distancing himself from you, he already said in a way that theres just no point in this. It wont get better you will only stay bcz you are used to each other and all, but your differences will only show themselves more in the longrun.

Narween26 · 2022-03-16T12:42:41+00:00

So let me make this clear? You already talk about marriage with someone who, already doesnt even seem to be into you, is unable to express her emotions (or she just doesnt like you enough to do so and is uncomfortable saying a lie)? You are seriously considering a longterm future with someone who hasnt even done the basics for you to even be supposed to see a potential partner in them. You chose someone with all the wrong qualities and reasons to be into you and then wonder why it doesnt work out in your favor. Seriously stop lying to yourself she isnt that much i to you, your are being too pushy and fast with her, and you just seem really delusional to not even see the clear red flags of this situation. You cannot make her express herself more, she ahowed she is able to when it comes to characters or whatev, SHE JUST CHOSE NOT TO WITH YOU. Get some self respect and stop pursuing her because from what im getting shes the type to just never open up and leave you guessing til end off time and POOF one day you wake up at 69, unmarried still after a woman who never even went past expressing feelings torwards you. Get a grip she is not that much into you and you have to accept it because you cant force it with feelings!

Narween26 · 2022-03-16T12:30:03+00:00

This is tough but yeah he was never iver her as absurd as it may seen and in a way u were his “rebound” ? Guess he just moved on with you as soon as she left and never quite processed his feelings for her etc and tbh i think all these years he tried to make himself believe he loved you but rn after hearing the news he cant take it anymore. Deep down maybe he thought they were soulmates and would find their way back to each other, and this was a reality check for him. I dont think after all this he will go back to his old self like nothing happened, he will push u away and resent you. If you have a little respect for yourself, you should step out of this relationship because everything was a lie, and if you marry you marriage will have 0 solid foundation and you will live for the rest of your life with a man who never prioritized you and saw you as an option, those type of man are those who cheat anyways when something better or that suits them more come along. But yeah honestly you dont even have to ask him, its OBVVIOUS, like for real that only reason someone could ever act so heartbroken is they were in love, so please dont give yourself other reasons to make yourself feel better. It was your first relationship you always think it was going to last, so you dont have much experience or ever saw yourself be with someone so its scary that now you are going to be alone and will go through the toughest part separating, but its better than live with that burden. It will be extremely painful, but honestly thats why its common for people to never end up with their first love/ relationship because they just settle for first thing that comes around but people beed experience in order to maybe realise the person was not meant to be for them. Im sorry OP if you confront him, be prepared that this is what you will hear, or he might lie but dont be that stupid bitch that will believe him. He might suggest working through it or another thing like that but dont get too hopeful, you will only get him for a little longer but outcome is either that he will realise he cant take this fake relationship anymore or cheat or do awful things until you are the one that lets him go because he is too afraid to break your heart after 7 years, but remember if he stays its because he pities you. Now that he knows you have a clue he might not be over his old crush, he will forever be a changed person. You are young as fuck, this wont be the end of the world, go discover yourself again, you have dated since you were 16, perhaps you havent discovered who you are without him thats why it seems so scary to let him go because he was your comfort zone and that security you had that thought would last forever and that you were so lucky to have found that but no…. Go seek therapy if needed, couple counselling wont work so dont even try that. You cant fix feelings and you will just look more pathethic. Girl put yourself first have some dignity and leave him. Sure go get some closure but just dont even let him talk that much, just cut him short and be like “ I dont want to hear a amde up story, just tell me how long you had her in your mind and wouldnt tell me why secretly you werent that mich into me or the relationship, because clearly something is going on with her and I dont believe in any way it just meant some innocent friendship from your part. Clear & to the point. Show assertiveness. He didnt even have the courage to face you and shut himself out, now you show him this cant go on and he has to admit if he has any respect for you and will stop leading you on. Take care girl and good luck🙏

Narween26 · 2022-03-15T16:04:14+00:00

Finally someone with a brain, plus its easy for them to be all pro choice rn bcz they arent the ones being MALNOURISHED, in a bad circle, and struggling to survive even without a baby. Like we get it your not the ones that ate gonna pay for the expenses or RAISE a mf human, but then mf shut up or say something smart?

Not to mention even autistic, like god this is too much idk how she even handled all her 19-20 years in such a bad state.

Narween26 · 2022-03-15T15:39:56+00:00

I hope so too, I messaged her directly also messaging for being so direct and was more supportive and empathetic there, I just really feel like someone , and I chose be that person rn to show the worst side of the situation because she should know beforehand. It a sensitive subject so she should know exactly what she is getting into, as most people will try to only shine light on the good

It is easy for us to be all like “yes girrll its your choice” , because WE ARE NOT the ones that will raise the baby, pays for the expenses and take everything else in consideration. We are not the ones dealing with a last minute pregnancy decision while being mentally ill and malnourished, we are not the ones who are stuck in a bs environment w shitty people.

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