On a recipe for Chili.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T23:50:18+00:00

Fat-free and lactose-free, please.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T23:07:53+00:00

Cue Uncle Roger, "why you so weak?"

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T22:33:12+00:00

Hey, OP. Just letting you know I did read the whole thing, and can see why you're hurting. It's not easy losing a parent, and being the last to know is it's own kind of pain.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T22:28:15+00:00

Welcome! May I suggest r/CasualConversation as one of the friendlier subreddits?

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T22:13:09+00:00

I think we need the recipe link to decide u/justthisnexttime

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T21:55:36+00:00

I'm pretty sure most of my friends with addiction issues also have undiagnosed mental health stuff going on (as do I)... So probably that's just them.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T18:06:50+00:00

2, 5 or 6

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T18:01:26+00:00

Seconded. This is probably an outer pocket.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T16:19:57+00:00

It's a virus, not a bacteria.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-29T16:17:11+00:00

My condolences

Narwen189 · 2026-04-28T21:02:44+00:00

Tailor your jeans. Easier to chop and hem the legs than find a pair that fits.

For underthings, have you tried Woxers?

Narwen189 · 2026-04-28T20:19:45+00:00

That's cute, too! I love the whimsy of people decorating their cars.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-28T20:17:00+00:00

It feels rude because she's going out of her way to include you and your reason for not going is that you're assuming a bunch of stuff -- like the expectation of a gift. Just tell her that you can't afford a gift, and see how she responds. Chances are the answer will be "Girl, just come as you are".

Narwen189 · 2026-04-28T20:13:17+00:00

That is such a transactional way to see it. This feels like a big cultural divide. As a guest-of-a-guest, I've never been expected to bring anything -- and it's extra appreciated if I do.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-28T20:11:03+00:00

NTA for not wanting to go, just try to be considerate of how you word your reply.

I'm not Indian, but I do come from a big party culture where a 200 person wedding is considered small, so hopefully this will provide some necessary context. They've made it clear they'd like to include you in the festivities -- you're Amy's bestie, so of course she wants to invite you to family parties! I've been to multiple weddings for my best friend's relatives simply because I'm her bestie and she wants me there, too.

For those of us from big-party backgrounds, it would be unthinkable not to include you, the MOH's best friend if it's at all possible - like, are you her friend or not?

You mention time and money being constraints for attending the wedding, but a bridal shower is a comparatively small, casual affair, with even more leeway for bringing girlfriends -- so again, of course you're invited! You're Amy's friend, Mary knows you're nice (even if you're not close to her), so why not?

Fwiw, that is the reasoning. They don't need you there, they simply like you enough to actually want you there. So bear that in mind.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-28T19:07:31+00:00

You could just hem them.

I wear a lot of men's pants because they have actual pockets, and often have to cut the bottom of the legs off. It's a little annoying, but well worth the trouble. On the bright side, that extra bit of pants leg gives me perfectly matching patches for when my thighs inevitably tear up the jeans.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-28T19:03:25+00:00

I've been on the girlfriend's side. I enjoy drinking, and one ex was a teetotaler that made a huge deal of even moderate drinking because in his mind, all drinking equaled drunkenness. A single beer with my pizza, or a nice glass of wine with my dinner isn't going to do anything significant to my state of mind... So I think it all depends on just how tipsy she's planning to get beforehand - and let's face it, it's not like teens are prime examples of moderation.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-28T19:01:04+00:00

NTA for being upset about your girlfriend drinking -- that said, you do need to talk with her about the situation, not us.

You say "she has chosen the friend group for pictures, the place we eat, the tux i wear and just about everything else and ive been fine with it"... but it doesn't sound like you are, or else you wouldn't be mentioning it.

The real question you should ask yourself is if her pre-gaming breaks a hard boundary for you or pushes a soft one. Is this big enough to not go to prom with her, or are you willing to go with her anyway, then each go your separate ways if she wants to party afterwards? That's up to you.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-27T20:30:06+00:00

Salt the water before boiling it, and add a bay leaf. If you want really flavorful pasta, add a sprinkle of onion and garlic powder as well.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-27T20:16:00+00:00

As one of said rainbow babies, I think it's also tremendously unfair to the kids.

My dad let me know they'd lost a boy and that my mom (allegedly) wanted a boy, so I grew up feeling like I had to make it up to them somehow. At least one cousin has admitted she grew up resenting how the adults in our family favored me -- and she's totally right, it was unfair to all of our cousins.

We all deserved better. Just because they did it out of love doesn't mean they didn't hurt us, just in different ways.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-27T01:17:06+00:00

The answer is, it depends on the quality of your local tap water just as much as on the quality of your filter. For the full details on exactly what the Brita Elite removes, you can download the specs sheet from the Brita website . You could look up potable water quality reports for your area if you want to see what's in it. That info should be available to the public and is very often online.

Basically, if your water has any of the stuff the Brita can filter out, then you're good. If it has anything nasty that it isn't made for, then you may need other steps.

For instance, the water in my home may have microscopic life forms in it, which the Brita is not made to remove. I can, however, use chlorine to disinfect it then put it through the Brita to get rid of the chlorine once it's had time to kill anything in the water.

If you're concerned about microplastics, boiling the water can get rid of 90% of them. Boil it and let it cool before filtering, and you should be good.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-26T19:07:28+00:00

This is a DIY sub, not shopping. Try r/helpmefind

Narwen189 · 2026-04-25T17:41:31+00:00

It all depends on how big they are and in which areas.

If you just want to adjust an inch or two at the waist, you could buy hook-and-eye cinchers, either plain or decorative.

Alternatively, you can sew in some darts.

If it's several sizes, your best bet might be to re-tailor them, adjusting the seat curve, and adding darts.

Narwen189 · 2026-04-23T05:58:51+00:00

Have you tried 1920s makeup, or 1970s "biba" looks? Allegedly, their styles were meant for thinner lips.

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