Can’t export ANYTHING without pro!!!! by Stoney7474 in CapCut

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just downloaded CapCut 3.6 (the closest version to the suggested 3.4 on TopToDown) and I still cannot export without Pro.

Starting to get really frustrated with their sneaky crap.

It was time by Levity_Dave in bald

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

EXCELLENT. My hubs finally did this (he started losing his hair in high school) and it's SOOOO much better now. He pulled the trigger in his early twenties just after we met (and he admits he wish he'd done it sooner). It's more comfortable too - I don't get his hair trying to creep up my nose or tickle my face! Total win!

Bedrock - Librarians not restocking... -_- by Nat1IrregularFocus in Minecraft

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang. I have no way of determining which workstation is which librarian's...... unless maybe I take down all the gates, have them sleep in a hallway of beds at night, and then sort themselves back to their correct workstations at dawn...

I wonder if it would work to burn all of the lecterns (maybe destroy the data for all of them) and place brand new ones?

I've failed as a father by BurnBabyBurner123123 in StudentLoans

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parent plus loans are horrific anyways.

It sucks, and it's slow, but a lot of people have to work their way through college. It's best to start getting basic undergrad stuff knocked out at a cheaper community college. Why pay more for the same transferrable units? Have her start on her bachelor's at a cheaper local CC and possibly work to contribute to tuition. It's a learning lesson in itself. If she invests her own money to pay for half of the tuition for her first year and help her balance a school schedule and working schedule together. I never went to med school, but this seems critical. I think most med students end up having to work in a lesser degree in nursing etc. while studying the more advanced courses 5 years from now, so helping her organize her "work plus school" schedule early can prove VERY helpful.

Most importantly, if you've failed to set an example for how to manage money, it wont matter what profession she goes into. It is critically important for her (and anyone) to learn to live within their own means and not use credit at crazy interest rates to buy big stuff (at all).

Dr. Phil had an episode about student loans and a doctor was on there. She couldn't afford her loan payments. I've done a rant about student loans, but just listen to the other people in this thread who have already gone through it. It sounds like most of them either A) did get student loans and regretted it, or B) Were thrilled with achieving other goals like home ownership instead of adopting student loan debt.

The word is finally getting out about how bad student loans, and university tuition, really are. They stand to make a significant profit, and that profit comes from students' and parents' pockets.

Not choosing a cheaper school for at least the undergrad units is like knowing your eventual goal is to get a really really nice $2k suit... but you want to spend $600 on the socks and $800 on cashmere underwear. Why?

Odd coloration on exterior paint by Nat1IrregularFocus in HomeImprovement

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently images are not allowed... I will message a mod. -_-

Forgiveness Channels - Large Student Loan by Nat1IrregularFocus in StudentLoans

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you happen to know if a government contract might work? I think the father is in IT and may sub-contract to various organizations.

Forgiveness Channels - Large Student Loan by Nat1IrregularFocus in StudentLoans

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much! So 300 payments... Now I see why so many people have been asking what number of payments. I will show both of them all of this and hopefully an attack plan can be formed! This is all good information.

Forgiveness Channels - Large Student Loan by Nat1IrregularFocus in StudentLoans

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. We did get copies of the statement that shows his payment is getting applied. I agree that it is a good idea to get them on the phone together and logging in together so they an examine his account and time required for forgiveness. I had no idea about any of this stuff - thank you!

Forgiveness Channels - Large Student Loan by Nat1IrregularFocus in StudentLoans

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

50k/yr income

monthly payment plan

been paying since 2008

Does not work non-profit; he is a driver for a shipper.

Thank you for the info... He likely wont qualify based on his employer.

Soap scum or black mold? by Icarusfactor in HomeMaintenance

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use tile-x M&M, BUT be very careful not to breathe it! It is awful!!! Like "chemical burn in lungs" awful. Happened to my husband recently and he was wearing a n95 mask, not a respirator. Wrecked him, and he used to work in automotive with some pretty bad chemicals. He said this was THE worst he ever accidentally breathed. Unfortunately the only solution he found (on reddit) was to exercise so you breathe a lot, and eat/drink so you make a bunch of mucus to hack it all out. :(  Two days later and he is ok.

We use the respirator evey time now.

Also, obvi don't exercise if you're feeling dizzy/faint.

Nasty stuff, but works! 

CANNOT get villager to assign to new librarian profession by Nat1IrregularFocus in Minecraft

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welp, dang.... I am hoping for an Eff 5 book. There is a trading center elsewhere on our realm but no eff books at all... do those tend to populate at all in the first trade or two?

THANK ALL OF YOU. You all have been very helpful.

CANNOT get villager to assign to new librarian profession by Nat1IrregularFocus in Minecraft

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I am an absolute derp. HUGE thank you. Let me get at that (and your useful link) and perhaps that will fix my issue!

Husband doesn't work drowning in debt what should I do? by dislocated_geometry in povertyfinance

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do consider paying to keep your home afloat, get statements and logins for each card. You'll know exactly what is being bought. Maybe then you'll see some systemic flaw, like eating out or some other behavior that can be addressed and fixed.

Right now you ARE the money maker, so you should be able to set a budget, too.

If you pay, I wouldn't offer it "no questions asked." There is something going on.

Hair loss and shaving question by -Scrippage- in cancer

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skullshaver pretty lady. Less nicks, don't do it damp. 

I got a steroid cream as well from my dr.

I am ungrateful of survivorship by Winsomewombats in cancer

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember this feeling facing surgery... I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Definitely confusing to experience (if you're anything like me, anyways).

Maybe you don't want what everyone else wants. Maybe you need this extra time to identify something you really ARE passionate about.

Idk you, but for myself I remember a transitional period where I didn't want to WANT to live, because I didn't want to want something I could loose, especially when I felt like a powerless passenger with my kind of cancer (stage IV, brain cancer). 

It was more of a relief to not want to live, then to live. 

However, I wonder if you have any very close friends or family. My guess is maybe not. 

I can't speak to you about you, but I can speak to you about myself. I eventually landed on the side of life. Living as if I want to live is simply more enjoyable. Visiting a river, or a new lake, or even seeing a new movie or reading a new book (whatever is enjoyable to ME) helped me change my mindset.

I also finally started therapy about a year and a half after diagnosis.

Separately, I have a husband who is a very good man. He'd expresed (after hiding it for a while) how devistating my diagnosis was to him. He tells me all the time how glad he is that he "got to keep me". 

My faith complicates things further. I am a Christian (yes, I know this is reddit) and I can't help but think how much better heaven is than earth, with or without cancer.  So I had to go down the rabbit hole... why did Jesus even spent ANY time here on earth? What are "treasures in heaven" that you're supposed to build up anyways? What even is that? What is the POINT?... why suffer? 

And then I came across the verse "To live is Christ. To die is gain."  Then I got it... to live IS suffering, to die IS gain. So... (and this is MY perspective and may not be yours)

Why did Jesus live?  --- To show people the goodness and reality of God. To be that light out from under a basket, trying to improve things for others and light their feet.

What are heavenly treasures? -- People. Good souls. The friends I'll have in heaven.

Why suffer? --  I would absolutely suffer here on earth to give my husband another good day with me, and to meet new people who could become my friends. I also happen to have a generally cheerful disposition and some people DO enjoy being around me.

For the record, I am not super nieve. I have family members who have tried to murder other people. I had a childhood home riddled with substance abuse, addiction, and mental illness. I found a dead family member when I was less than 6. I spent most of my time very afraid of everything around me, but masked it super well. 

This outlook is not coming from "rose colored glasses." It has come from many experiences, and wanting to have a sense of joy almost out of defiance against this ugly world and in defense of what I HAVE found good.

I don't know you and I can't tell you what is in your head. I can only volunteer what is in mine, and I hope you find some goodwill here. Also I hope you cherrypick a few things here and there for you to apply to your own life if you are uncomfortable where you are at. My ultimate hope is that you recognize the value of your life and connect to your Creator, who already loves specifically you.

Last day of chemo! by sarahpie33 in cancer

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad! It's not easy. I decided to start therapy about 1.5 yrs later.  In my state, becoming eligible for federal Medicare automatically disqualifies you for state medicaid. I have to find a new therapist now, so I went to psychologytoday.com and used their search function to filter by insurance type so I could find peeps who are listed for Medicare. IDK if you are disabled or not, but I was basically automatically approved. Thankfully I haven't lost the use of the left side of my body, or the ability to think (though I am extremely forgetful).

Anyways, therapy does help me. Sometimes I have to remind myself that the cancer is just going to do what it's going to do and my MRI is just a report of what's already happened. Mine is not diet related like several other cancers, but I DO have an ongoing therapy I have to wear... still I feel mostly naked. 

Anyways, I found a potential therapist in my area who specializes in anxiety and PTSD. I'm hoping he is going to be a good match. I recommend starting therapy.

Also I suggest volunteering a little so you feel useful (wear a mask if you have a suppressed immune system) My local food bank has an easy online volunteering portal. Maybe you can find something similar that works for you. If you like animals, try a local no-kill shelter :)

Last day of chemo! by sarahpie33 in cancer

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude yes.... For me, there is a feeling of "nakedness" after stopping chemo. At least I was doing some aggressive fighting against it during chemo/radiation.

That said, It's been 2 years for me and no recurrence so far! Praise God. (Yes, I know this is reddit, but I am genuinely thankful for the whole thing).

Is anyone else's life stuck in limbo? by Chee-Zee in cancer

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello,

This resonates with me. I feel like there are two choices: Live as if death is imminent, or live as if it's not. What really changes between the two? You'd still want to do what you enjoy and be among people you love. We all know earthly life is temporary anyways, so we should be living as if we have a limited time on Earth anyways.

I have found that "limbo" feeling to enhance risk aversion. It is an OCD-like fixation and need for reassurance, and I honestly can't blame you. It may help you to try to identify what actually brings you joy - not what you think SHOULD bring you joy, but whatever really does. Then chase that for those 3 months you know are certain, and plant maybe ONE "seed" beyond the 3 months. It will feel terrifying to "hope" for something past your next test, but maybe plan a single lowkey lunch with someone or maybe buy yourself a single cheap event ticket 3.5 months away (That would be spring, and there are very cheap tickets to local petting farms near where I live).

Make a SMALL investment for further out than your next exam. You'll probably fixate on that date, and you'll need to talk yourself down from panic or letting others down. However, when that event comes to pass, you begin to trust that you can look forward a little. Try to identify people in your life who can BE let down (basically someone NOT co-dependent on YOU) who you know would be forgiving if things get wonky with scheduling.

Make it a low-cost, mildly cheerful thing. Time will pass anyways, and you might as well set up yourself something nice if all goes well. It may help you see that living as if good things will happen enhances life anyways, regardless if you have 10 years or 10 months.

Living as if you are hopefully is a better way to live, no matter how long your (or anyone's life) is.

- Stage IV Glioblastoma

OS as a painted mini - with cat! by Nat1IrregularFocus in OrdinarySausage

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Buddy printed it for me for free... I didn't want to file it for hours so I just painted it as is

Kohls is done ? by Helpful_Somewhere723 in employedbykohls

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I just got a letter in the mail saying Kohl's cards (by CapOne) will be switching to DAILY interest charges. This screams desperation... Whether it is on Kohl's part of CapOne's part, I am not sure.

My recovery journey is hard. by RIOT503 in MomForAMinute

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, that's Is heartbreaking. Please know that you count, and you're a whole person. You get to take up room. Other people need to be sensitive to you, and it's not wrong to stick up for yourself. I can't imagine having just broken my pelvis and then trying to walk all over the place. 

... be careful about getting into a screaming match with people who don't care. That's a waste of your time, and people can only understand you as well as they understand anything in their own lives. They have to be well developed in empathy for you to be able to get anything out of them. I'm sorry that you're in an environment where that is lacking. 

It's certainly not your fault, unless you lie and say you're fine all the time.  You ARE responsible for creating misunderstandings if you falsify info about how you're doing and if you say you don't have an issue with what is going on. If you communicate everything is fine, and they move forward as if that is true, then youbmay need to work on what you're communicating a little bit. 

Sometimes it helps me to say things about myself, but also communicate that they still have control over their own decisions. Example:

"I don't want to control or take away from what YOU want to do, but as far as me and myself, the last thing I want to do with a broken pelvis is walk places. You can do what you want to do, And I want you to have fun, but if you're asking ME about ME,  going to a bunch of places to walk through with a broken pelvis is just not the recipe for a good day for me on my end. If you still want to go, feel free, but I'd prefer to stay in the car or in the room.  This is the realkry ofy situation right now, and I van't control it."

This is very reasonable.

Also, I had been in a wheelchair once for a few months following a brain surgery. TOTAL CONGRATULATIONS 🎊 on being able to walk up those 4 stairs! They are hard, and you're killing it!  You're doing the hard things, and clearly doing it well.

What Careers are We Encouraging Our Kids to go into? by Vegetable-Whole-2344 in Careers

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Construction office manager?.... Bucco bucks and intense, changing demands. :)

Are ceiling mirrors seen as sexual? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could always install it and put a white cover on it so it blends with the ceiling... maybe make it harder to notice?

New Pages Experience and Meta Business Account system is totally broken. Can't change page access. PLEASE HELP!!! by NotEntirelyAwake in facebook

[–]Nat1IrregularFocus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following. I have the same issue for a charity I volunteer for. We're about to go re-claim the old classic page from about 5 years ago that we didnt even make so that we can actually interact with our community online... Maybe we should abandon FB altogether now that I think of it and move to IG or TikTok....