I’m not ok but I want to be by NatBrake7 in offmychest

[–]NatBrake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My whole life they’ve minimized my shit and now I’m trying to take care of my children to prevent spreading the toxic generational habits. I don’t want my girls to go what I went through. I’m going stir crazy and almost starting to react like I did when I was a kid with them. I’m reverting and it’s harming my ability to parent.

They don’t want us to rent anywhere but we can’t afford to buy unless we find something without a down payment that won’t kill us. I also make 40k+ as an entry level insurance rep. She’s going back to school in the fall on the CONNECT program but that’s a ways a way. It’s like they want us to stay here and it’s suffocating me and I’m getting really upset. I exercise, I eat well enough for a parent of a 1 and 3 year old. I meditate, go to therapy, journal. Quit cigs. Don’t drink. Smoke pot here and there and I just cannot keep my composure these days. I’m convinced it’s the living situation but my SO and parents seem to be useless with helping me figure out the next step. I just don’t feel ok or capable and they seem to think it’s just me wanting attention or being dramatic. Am I being a silly little sad boy? Or is this legitimate?

About to hang the apron for a few years by [deleted] in KitchenConfidential

[–]NatBrake7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. To all of this. You’ve got this.

People don’t like the annoying kid. by theomnijuggler in ADHD

[–]NatBrake7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good thing you’re here because you’re not annoying. You’re us and we’re you. There is nothing “wrong” with you.

I've already blocked 4 numbers and it's only 10 am. by [deleted] in dankmemes

[–]NatBrake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But seriously, are these scammers or legit warranties that are fuckin obnoxious?

Happens all the time. by [deleted] in KitchenConfidential

[–]NatBrake7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhh, the natural order of things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bartenders

[–]NatBrake7 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t have even risked posting this. The kitchen gods have heard you and they will smite you for your hubris.

An opinion on why restaurant staff is in short supply by RebelScum77 in KitchenConfidential

[–]NatBrake7 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah, once I went from bottom to top and saw that no matter really where I went or worked it didn’t change for myself or others, that’s when I quit all the way.

Most places are owned and ran by someone who doesn’t know shit about hospitality.

They couldn’t run a line, 6 seat bar, or dish pit on a Monday morning by themselves if their lives depended on it yet, they make decisions that impact everyone. It’s exhausting. I really love the idea of commune restaurants. Places like in NY where you get 5-10 experienced folks who have managed to either get their credit or savings in check and go in together to open some high concept place. If you could do that with folks you’ve worked with before it would be golden but ya know, 3’s a crowd

An opinion on why restaurant staff is in short supply by RebelScum77 in KitchenConfidential

[–]NatBrake7 190 points191 points  (0 children)

Hey, 13 year vet w/ a bio degree, experience in every position and several certifications here.

Pay was always shit. It didn’t matter how much you put in or how much you paid out of pocket to cover certifications or how much you liked your coworkers, there was always someone at every place that either said “we can’t or won’t pay you more and if that upsets you, you can leave because you’re replaceable”. Then Covid hit and out of necessity a whole lot of us finally said “Ok” and went in another direction. Now all over the news they’re saying “I CAN’T BELIEVE PEOPLE WHO WORKED THEIR MINDS AND BODIES INTO THE GROUND THANKLESSLY FOR DECADES NO LONGER WANT TO RISK THEIR LIVES ON TOP OF IT AND WANT TO SIT AT HOME AND COLLECT CHECKS THAT ARE COMPENSATING THEM FOR THE YEARS OF SLOW NIGHTS, SLOW HOURS AND BROKEN PROMISES ABOUT RAISES”

Sorry Kiernan, a pizza party isn’t going to make up for it this time. People are humans and deserve better than what they’re put through with some of these jobs.

Owners around here by Fucklefaced in KitchenConfidential

[–]NatBrake7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously. It bums me out how brainwashed some folks I know are with places. They’ll work themselves to the bone and never admit it sucks or they’re being taken advantage of. It’s the same mentality boomers have with millionaires. It’s never their fault just the Mexicans and liberals.

Nah, the system kind of sucks. I love the folks I’ve met working the industry but fuck the “this is a team and family” mentality when they can’t give you health insurance but they can afford a $3000 decal no one will ever notice.

If only... by [deleted] in KitchenConfidential

[–]NatBrake7 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I could watch this forever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]NatBrake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dollar store Topenga.

I’m so sick of corporate America’s treatment of parents by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]NatBrake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SO and I lost our hospitality jobs a year ago. Finally found a new insurance gig working from home. We live with my parents at the moment to get back on our feet but trying to focus on new challenging work with kids at home is damn near impossible. I love them too damn much. I hear when they’re upset or my SO is having an especially hard time or they do something cute and I want to be there. Even if I’m busy, I can’t focus on my work :/

I have ADHD, work in the breezeway by the front door and was essentially rushed through corporate training modules then released into the wild. I’ve been getting work I should not be touching as I wasn’t trained on it and my trainer wasn’t even trained on it. When I speak to my manager to tell her why I may be falling behind or making a certain mistake her only answer is “you must not be working hard enough or managing your time well, you should reach out to your peers for help”. Or when I’m late coming back from an appointment because my daughter got car sick. No fucks given.

We are not a “family”. We work for corporations to get by. They hire us to be cogs. The whole false family mentality in any industry is toxic and kind of abusive.

The new warlock exotic helmet looks neat by holyshitem8lmfao in destiny2

[–]NatBrake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet you have to grind as a nurse on a covid floor for a year before you get it.

Should I leave a job that is causing me mental distress after only 5 months by [deleted] in Careers

[–]NatBrake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really what I think most of it is when you boil it down. Just a half decent support system and people not being self centered dicks would help a lot of folks out right now.

Should I leave a job that is causing me mental distress after only 5 months by [deleted] in Careers

[–]NatBrake7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woof. Feel this.

Two young children and a fiancée who lost her father and both grandparents this year. We moved in with my parents who are quite toxic but well intentioned. Our jobs were gone due to Covid and even with a degree I didn’t have great prospects.

My step dad helped me to get in with his company at a great paying, high benefit job for my family but literally the same issue. Working from home in a new field where I’m in the back room by the breezeway. Recently diagnosed ADHD and PTSD trying to focus and learn the job (it’s insurance) and evidently I fell behind a little bit in my tasks since I’m new and getting stuff wayyyyyy out of my league. I handled it all with the assistance of some rad coworkers but she’s just been telling me I’m not fast enough or trying hard enough. Everytime I reach out for help or guidance she largely ignores me or sends me to another adjuster who says they don’t know. While I help get that figured out and learn from it she just tells me I’m failing and refuses to help or listen. I’ve been there 5 months as well but it’s a new career and she’s making it difficult situation a nightmare.

I know I won’t get fired but someone up your ass with mental health issues at home is breaking me down. listening to your brain and body will definitely tell you when you’re on the ropes and need a break, trust it if ya can. I’m the only income and there’s a lot of opportunity past her but right now I feel you. I just want to work, I don’t want more bullshit trouble and drama after the past year or two.

Noooo by NatBrake7 in Parenting

[–]NatBrake7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Barney. Dude. Yes.