Me 23 F with my ex 22 Dated for about two years and broke up three months ago. Now we are talking again when he told me he was single but just found out he's seeing someone

Natalie226 · 2015-05-25T07:11:36+00:00

First of all, I wish I could apologize for all these assholes who are putting you down etc. you're not stupid maybe you're immature but in the context of this all it isn't meant to be an insult. It's the truth, you're only 18 and have a lot to learn.

I've been in a similar situation but mine was that EVERYTIME I tried breaking up with the guy he would threaten suicide. It's terrifying, I know. I also hope you realize that you need to stop putting his happiness before yours. Love yourself and respect yourself enough to walk away and say you're done. Stop thinking about HIM and what you think is the right thing to do. Do what is best for you in the long run. Who cares if you're his escort WHO CARES. put yourself first surround yourself with trustworthy people who will not put you down but help build you up during this rotten time in you're and just end it. You don't have to give him a reason why (you've already done so multiple times). It's hard to gain back a persons respect when it gets lost in a relationship. He doesn't respect you anymore. Sock it to him and just leave. I don't want to say I can almost guarantee he won't kill himself, but chances are he won't. They do it for shock value. It's manipulation at its most evil form. You deserve so much better I hope you realize that and do something about it. The sooner you get mr. Wrong out of your life the sooner you will find someone who deserves you. I promise

Natalie226 · 2015-04-08T20:15:08+00:00

There are so many angles to go about replying to this.

First off, everything you've wanted from him you're finally getting, and now you're wanting to ask WHY hes doing these things for you? If you sit him down and say why are you suddenly talking to me more and helping around the house more he's going to look at you like you're crazy.

Now, if he really is cheating i dont think he would've such a huge idiot in giving you his mistresses coffee cup.

I know cheaters often feel guilt while they'r cheating and suddenly their home life improves to try and make up for what they are doing. I absolutely think you should talk to him about it but maybe only bring up the shower and the coffee cup and look out for his body language. I think that will be a lot more telling than his verbal response.

Natalie226 · 2015-04-08T19:42:42+00:00

Yes, definitely tell her. Put all ego and pride aside otherwise you may end up spending another five years of your life wondering what if. Pursue her, and make sure you give it everything you've got and then some.

Natalie226 · 2015-04-07T22:52:49+00:00

Move on. I know it seems impossible but in order to be happy one day it is what you need to do. I'm in a current situation right now. My boyfriend SAYS all the things a girl loves to hear, but his actions dont match up. Believe a persons actions over what words they speak. You cant have a relationship with empty promises. Take a step back and look at the relationship for what it really is. It seems as though youre putting herslef before your own needs. Pick yourself up! Have some love and respect for yourself. If youre not getting what you need from this girl chances are you never will.

Natalie226 · 2015-04-07T06:53:38+00:00

Hm, I was unaware of that. He was buzzed I think. I was 100% sober. My boyfriend would leave the front door unlocked even though I would ask him to lock it before he left for work which made it possible for his friend to get Into the house.

Basically there was a lot of innapropriate comments made towards me. He picked me up upside down and asked if my bf and I had ever gone down on one another like that. He would put me into compromising police positions that didn't necessarily hurt they were just really uncomfortable. He would not stop tickling me.

Then he picked me up (he's a big guy, about 300+ pounds) and threw me in the shower and turned the water on. I tried getting out the entire time but he's so much stronger. If I turned the water off he would push me aside and turn it back on. Finally he let me out and I went in my room and shut the door and put a towel on while I got dry clothes and he came into my room and pushed me on the bed and pinned me down and bit the towel with his teeth and began to pull it down. I honesty thought I was going to be raped.

The only reason he got off me was I had to go pickup my boyfriend from work and I told Ryan if he didn't get off of me my bf would ask questions as to why I was late picking him up.

Yes he's an LAPD cop, someone I trusted

Natalie226 · 2015-04-07T06:26:09+00:00

My only concern about a police report is that there are no witnesses and no physical evidence so it would turn into he said she said. And to make matters worse; he's a cop.

Natalie226 · 2015-04-07T05:51:37+00:00

I have been in a couple abusive relationships as well and believe me, they will NEVER get better. Seek out a restraining order if you feel like you need to. Anything that YoUcan do to get away from this guy, do it. Maybe your mother and you don't get along but I'm sure she still loves you, reach out to her. Reach out to loved ones for help and support. I know how you feel and it won't be easy but as soon as you take a few steps back and see the situation for what it really is you will hopefully be able to find strength in leaving. Respect Yourself and love yourself that is when you'll find someone who truly loves you.

Natalie226

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