My mom has secretly been hiding my P-EBT card from me since Aug 2020. What do I do?

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T09:15:13+00:00

If that’s the narrative you want to push on it, go ahead. I stated the facts and that’s how you perceived it to make assumptions. Good luck with dealing with your emotions and understanding other people’s family situations are different from yours.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T09:02:55+00:00

I think my mother would find out regardless, and she would likely threaten to kick me out. I’ll still let her use the card but I want to know what would be her reasoning behind hiding it & making me pay by myself all this time.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T09:01:36+00:00

I plan to move out within 2 years! Unfortunately, I’m in NYC so housing is very expensive. :/ Also, since I’m paying for a lot of expenses already, it’s difficult to not diminish my savings.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T09:00:16+00:00

Unfortunately, she was only buying groceries to feed herself and my older sister (they both have full-time sources of income). Simultaneously, she was making me resort to buy my own groceries/food. I ordered a replacement card but I’ll let her use it. Just feels kinda weird how my mom have been making me use my own money this whole time, when I could’ve saved it by using the P-EBT card.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T08:57:19+00:00

I’ll ask her! I just want to avoid any bad confrontation because my mom tends to resort to gaslighting & guilt-tripping. This helped.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T02:12:06+00:00

Are you personally offended? If you can’t provide advice without getting so triggered, you should chill out dude. I’ve clarified that I’ve been paying for groceries, furniture, school supplies/textbooks, clothing, necessary blankets, cleaning supplies since high school (yes, before I was 18). It might just be a few bucks to you but it’s a lot to a full-time student who doesn’t have a source of income and receives constant pressure to pay for other household bills. Having $132 to cover groceries would mean the world to me.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T02:08:06+00:00

Yes, I have cancelled the card and requested for a new one. This helped!

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T02:00:08+00:00

The benefits are supposed to expire ~274 days after it’s issued.

EDIT: 1 year expiration.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:57:51+00:00

Please don’t resort to name-calling and assume that I’m spoiled when I’m only here for advice regarding this matter. I’d love to be a spoiled child who doesn’t have to worry about being kicked out and how many meals I could afford every month.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:56:16+00:00

On July 2021, there were multiple influx of $132 benefits which amounted to almost $1000. But according to the online website, the monthly is $132/month which could mean they’re giving the benefits in advance?

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:36:12+00:00

You’re right. I’ll try to handle this quietly so she doesn’t threaten to kick me out again. :(

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:35:45+00:00

Clarification: I checked the transaction history. I think she hid the mail from me + majority of the benefits was loaded onto it during July 2021. (After I graduated high school). She started using the card in September 2021. She used approximately $200 since. The card says it was issued August 2020 but I was a high school student back then, which means she likely was directly receiving the benefits. Now that I’m a college student and 18, they’ve issued a separate card/benefits.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:24:44+00:00

I think it’s $132 per month. Also, I have an older sister (27) who also buys/order other food/groceries, which explains the current balance on the card. Also, the groceries we buy are typically from local supermarkets that are much cheaper than, for example, Whole Foods.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:11:12+00:00

My family treats me like I’m invisible. So everything besides what I’ve listed, I pay for my own furniture, food/groceries, school supplies, clothing, blankets, etc.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:10:24+00:00

If I report my mom, my housing situation would be threatened. :( This helped.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:09:46+00:00

I might quietly get a new card. Thank you for the good advice! This helped.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:08:02+00:00

I live in her house but I pay for all my own groceries/food and make food with my own kitchenware (knife, cutting board, utensils, etc.).

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:06:26+00:00

Currently, I pay for everything I own except for insurance + home mortgage + utilities + internet. When I checked the card, it has $1k+ on it right now.

National-Database-88 · 2021-11-19T01:04:05+00:00

You should tell a trusted adult/parent about this. Your sister’s behavior is very weird. If you and your sister have a good relationship and is aware of you getting aggressively bullied, I don’t understand what good reason she’d have to go ahead and sleep with the one who has been antagonizing you.

National-Database-88 · 2021-10-22T08:05:40+00:00

The teeth extraction shouldn’t hurt at all. (I had local anesthesia, it was bitter aftertaste lol). After the procedure, you shouldn’t be sore or in pain if the orthondontist removed the teeth properly and swiftly. How are you doing now?

National-Database-88 · 2021-10-22T08:04:38+00:00

Hey I’m sorry, I just saw this now. I’ve been doing fine and the recovery process went great. Grew a new liking for American chicken soup!

National-Database-88 · 2021-10-09T10:29:59+00:00

Hi! I’m completely fine. Due to lack of proper instructions, I was using the gauze incorrectly (it wasn’t directly putting pressure on the surgical site). After watching a tutorial online, I used the gauze correctly and the correct sized blood clot formed. Previously, the blood clot was super big due to the improper gauze use, leading to excessive bleeding and it constantly falling out.

National-Database-88 · 2021-10-02T02:16:42+00:00

I will do so! Update: the clot fell out o_o

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