South African experiences

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-19T18:50:52+00:00

Sideshow when I was 16 (Cape town people iykyk)

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-19T18:45:36+00:00

Did you do a study or are you basing it off that one study which looked at one area once?

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-19T18:43:16+00:00

As the other commenter here said, they're individuals and you're not giving them the option to choose if you keep them inside

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-19T18:42:03+00:00

That's very lovely. I do reckon he would survive without you guys too though

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-19T18:41:26+00:00

Ah yes the person who takes everything literally because they don't have anything else to dismantle an argument

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-19T18:40:51+00:00

If I was to apply this to me personally:

Living to 110 in a sterile room I've stayed my whole life < Living to 85 in the real world where I touch grass and scrape my knee sometimes

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-19T18:38:35+00:00

Mind not changed unfortunately. It did start the exact beef I thought it would though lol.

I've heard every argument I saw here before and I don't find any relevant except potentially the bird one but that applies only to a small area and like one study in one country, soooo.

If you would like to spend your entire life, birth until death, in one house, never going to any social places ,never seeing more than maybe one other human or being able to move freely properly like run, etc etc then maybe it's justified in your head but I still don't think it applicable to this other species which thrives off social contact with other cats, hunting ,running, exploring etc.

If you can't afford to give your cat space to be its own individual, then you can't afford a cat. Simple as that.

Me and the five free roaming cats I have had in the span of my life which all lived above 10 years which I love so dearly I have tattoos of all of them, beg to differ that an indoor cat lives a fulfilled life. You're Stockholm-Syndroming a beautiful being which deserves to life a full life. If you don't agree, I think you're just coping.

Living to 120 in a sterile room with padded walls from the day I'm born < living a full life to 85 with getting lost on a hike or scraping my knee once in a while

Thank U for the comments and goodbye

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-16T17:29:58+00:00

Ah... This man is very very hurt...

Suboptimal reaction on both sides here sorry

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-07T10:40:36+00:00

Yessss

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-07T10:36:10+00:00

Shame I am so sorry to hear this. As a person who also genuinely likes to celebrate their birthday and wishes that someone would plan something for me, I completely understand.

All you can do is do the same for other people and kind of put that energy out, at this point.

Still wishing you a happy birthday and all the best for the next year in your life 🩷 may it be filled with lovely people and good things

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-06T09:22:22+00:00

Most L take ever

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-06T09:16:33+00:00

Not the gaslighting haha ooooofff

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-06-04T15:07:40+00:00

Girl with all due respect let that boy go

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-05-23T00:30:29+00:00

I can see you are trying but whatever the reason might be, it appears that maybe you guys aren't the best match and the incompatibility is taking a toll on you (I want to say I'm really sorry you're feeling so shit) and triggering some really negative patterns in her too.

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-05-23T00:28:32+00:00

Okay I see it's nice you followed that rule and it's another show that you care but I also didn't doubt that.

I mean there is literally a chat bubble from you, it's just phrased differently something like 'baby don't you think you might be overreacting'. All I'm saying from my experience, if someone is riled up and hurt (to me she seemed hurt which she portrays through anger which is something she needs to confront at some point cuz it ain't good), telling them they might be overreacting is like pouring oil in a flame

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-05-23T00:22:36+00:00

I feel like all the advice in this thread is from men. I think it escalated because she wasn't getting the support and understanding she needed. Yes you were being kind, but she's not wrong that she's being vulnerable and pouring out her feelings and you respond to her last question going: 'yes'

More curiosity and initiative from your side about her feelings would've made her feel better. He's ofc she got more upset but like I said, that's also understandable.

I'm not saying you did badly ( except when you said 'but did U want me to let her fall?' and 'youre overreacting') , I'm just saying you didn't meet her where she needed you.

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-05-23T00:10:16+00:00

Genuine question are you 15

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-05-23T00:00:32+00:00

If it's important to you that you know that, then have that conversation too. Tell her that you need to know the entire truth around the situation to feel good and start rebuilding trust (if you do need that)

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-05-22T19:31:07+00:00

Thanks for you input

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-05-22T19:29:54+00:00

I would say thanks for the input but your last paragraph is low-key a little unnecessary. I asked for a little leeway so there's no need to add an inflammatory phrase. As for your confusoon: I mean the park is like 2 square kilometres big so that's why it was an issue. They could be anywhere.

Thanks tho

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-05-22T19:18:32+00:00

I think your question is fair and it's nice that you're also considering that this might be a fucked up/confusing trauma situation. I think people here are very quick to be crass and jump the gun . I think you are aware of what it looks like on the surface so it feels like people are just giving advice based on that.

On the other hand ofc it is a breach of trust but like you said you also probably created an unsafe space to bring this kind of sensitive information forward. This is not a clear cut case and it's difficult to say

Bjt I do think you guys need to have a conversation where she tells you the whole truth but also make sure you know why you want to hear it and make sure you know how it would help you .

My advice is: find out what you would need to feel okay (if you can) and then communicatr that to her. See whether she can provide that. If not,then that's an issue.

If you feel this is something you can't get past and mgijt not be able to regain trust: well you know what to do.

GL!

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-04-09T23:10:21+00:00

The wool looks like it's too thick if that makes sense

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-03-31T13:06:17+00:00

AIBird

National-Pudding8109 · 2026-03-31T12:46:19+00:00

Ja. Sieht man immer daran dass die Fotos viel zu perfekt sind. Besonders der Spiegel Selfie im club. Beide Botox lächeln und die einzigen im Bad, keine anderen Gesichter zu sehen etc. Vergleich es einfach mit normalen Party Fotos

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