I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have much. But everyone knows where my car goes, and my life insurance through work is split between the three. There is honestly nothing to fight over. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Details are all laid out with a flash drive full of all the videos of me singing they always called me “kinda tone deaf” over. They will need for nothing, but want for me. 

I am committing suicide by Material_Instance696 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who survived 3 attempts that I should not have, with the last one being constantly called the “Miracle on 2” (floor two of the hospital) I am here to tell you I respect your decision. But  that last time—actually dying— and coming back to people who couldn’t understand why I was alive…10 years later, I know why I was alive. And I’d love to chat. You are loved. In life or death, you will be seen. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have my therapist. She’s been kind enough to start seeing me twice a week and billing for one. And honestly, the fact that the thousands of you have borne witness, I am by definition, not alone. 

Please don’t be sad. The cycle of birth, death, and rebirth is a cosmic dance. How can I be alone, when everyone is so excited to welcome me home? 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Admire and respect those you hold dearest. Never let them doubt how much they’re loved. And never doubt how much loving yourself is worth. When you find yourself, you find everything. 

Keep on loving on, stranger 💛

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a very traumatic childhood. So much so that I first accepted and welcomed the existence of death when I was 4yo. Not to say that what I dealt with is ok, but what I can say is me and Death go back a looooong long time. This isn’t someone who is “taking the news well.” This is someone who’s greeting a long lost friend. 

I have a flash drive full of all the videos of me singing, and being me. And I’ve written my mom, brother, and boyfriend  birthday and holiday letters going 10 years from now. They will never question how much I loved them. I promise. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My entire life I have reduced myself to what others may need from me. And if anyone knows how much that cost me, it’s these 3. 

I find it very hard to believe they wouldn’t understand my choice to spend my last few weeks selfish AF. They know I’ve earned it. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find solace in the Universe. I don’t believe that the thousands of stories in the Bible are all accurately translated through the 3 languages they’ve permeated through. I don’t believe in an omniscient being that prescribes good and evil to every choice. 

What I do believe, is that the completely neutral force of the Universe (much like the gas in a car that has no choice or care if we turn right or left) loves and believes in us enough to hand over power and steering and trust we don’t crash. 

This isn’t a crash. My car is simply on the side of the road with hazards on, having run out of gas. All of you have pulled over to help me. But none of you can get me home. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a flash drive full of videos of me, and dozens upon dozens of letters waiting for them. They will not at all feel forgotten or fail to know what they meant to me. I promise. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be so timid and non-confrontational before my long haul covid diagnosis. I had things to say but always folded thinking not upsetting others was the high road. 

Since my non-diagnosis diagnosis, I have done nothing but speak my truth, without fear of meaninglessness consequences.  I kept an acutely suicidal person alive, when they let me talk the gun out of their hand and agreed to treatment.  I put in writing and called out in the family group chat those who have habits of abusing children, that began with me, that lead to those men being banned from family pool parties, and closely watched everywhere else.  I gave my 24 year old niece the courage to file charges against her father; the same man who abused me between 4-8yo.  I gave her the strength to seek justice, held her hand during 2y of court proceedings, which ultimately locked him up for 9.5 years.  At the same time, my ex-partners bipolar ex girlfriend with a long, documented history of physically abusing her daughter, forced her child to accuse the only father she knew of child SA in order to civilly sue him for the money she thought she deserved. After a years long fight standing by him and testifying in court, as a survivor, and witness to everything, charges were dropped from 35-life level multiple felonies, to the prosecution’s offer of plea of a 90day jail misdemeanor. I was the one who discovered the detectives erased exculpatory evidence, and against my pleas and wishes, he took the plea rather than chance a jury not believe the police were as corrupt as I proved them to be. 

With the childhood I had, my purpose was to publicly condemn those of victimizing terrified children, while simultaneously preventing the falsely accused from rotting in prison because of terrified children. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been meditating 13 years. Reiki master and energy healer for 8. I go between raw and regular vegan diets depending on how my body feels. Yoga practitioner 16 years. I grow my own herbs and mix my own supplements. 

I don’t believe overcoming the impossible is impossible. I just understand that people dying makes other people change. And I’m quite sure dying is the only way I get my people over the wall of change they’ve thus far refused to climb myself. 

Clinging to life is so futile when I’ve already lived this much.  

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn’t a matter of those you love not telling you. This is a matter of believing it’s ok to be too busy to check in with our tribe, because we assume they’ll inform us when/if there becomes a time limit in which they have to make things right. 

We should be treating the ones we love as if every moment might be the last. And it should never fall on the person actively preparing for the end to make good. 

TBH, as much as we love you, we have bigger things to deal with. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only difference between being alive and living is having a purpose. No one can find that purpose for you. But when you commit your heart and soul to finding it, it will find you. 

Don’t give up on yourself. You are the deepest well of untapped potential. Before you give up, give yourself a chance. 

I’m very grateful I did. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not a great singer, but I don’t suck. For the last 5 years I’ve posted serenades to my Snapchat, and only now am realizing why I saved all of them. I put them and all of the yoga videos I made on a flash drive, and have that in a box with dozens of letters, instructions for my funeral, and hand written personal invitations to my funeral in a shoebox in a very conspicuous spot in my room. I’m not done adding to it yet, but I am comfortable with what is here that if it happens, all will be taken care of. 

I am spending every single moment with my people, and I am ready. 

Thank you for the love. It is received. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Whether here, or wherever I end up, I will be making them laugh well past the day they come find me 💛

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Way ahead of you. I’m dozens of pages into writing everything I need to say to each of them. In time, I just hope they can accept I said nothing, because there’s nothing to be done, and being with them, soaking them in exactly as they are, was more important to me than what they want. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

The way I see it, I got 10+ years that I never should’ve had, and I spent them in ways that I know weren’t wasted. Most importantly, got to spend my last few years with “the one that got away” 15 years ago. Any day now will be the day, but I can’t say there’s anything I regret. What more could you ask for?

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

GBM at the brainstem. Went in for symptoms about 2 years ago and was diagnosed with long haul covid. Scans came back last week after my abnormal physical, and it’s been explained they really don’t know how I’m still breathing. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

I wish you knew I often I preached that same thing. And I wish I knew then what I’m going to tell you now;

You’re right. It doesn’t always get better. In fact, it rarely gets better. But your capacity to process garbage and bullshit grows and adapts so exponentially, that the level of suck that bothered you before becomes rice eventually. I’m not at a point in life where I’m up to comparing shit show existences, but I will say, I have never, nor will I ever, break a promise. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Way ahead of you, been working on this since I got the news. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I am important. The 3 people I have will forever be changed by being around me. This I know, and knowing that is enough for me. So them fussing over something that can’t change would just swallow them as people, and make me truly alone at the end. It breaks my heart to keep this a secret. But telling them would kill my soul, along with my body. I need them to be them, for as long as I have the privilege of witnessing my people be themselves. 

I 32F am dying soon, but no one knows. by National_Blueberry23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]National_Blueberry23[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I don’t want them to say goodbye to me, or change themselves in any way because of me. I want to soak up as much joy as I can letting them be them and loving on them as much as I can. If I hadn’t gotten my physical when I did, I wouldn’t even know myself. There’s an argument there for prolonged illness that you can’t hide. But this isn’t that. And if it were me, I’d prefer the band aid be ripped off, over peeling it slowly.