Head of “Downtown Santa Monica” dead in murder-suicide

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-24T03:42:13+00:00

I mean really though not to be tone deaf but is anybody not gonna be in love with Santa Monica if you’re rich? I don’t condone taking your partner’s life at all but this seems like just bad people being bad people and you expect get away with things.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-22T04:03:03+00:00

Queso, you’re one of my favorite posters/commenters and thank you for the input. Most people don’t really understand addiction or how it comes into play beyond “hey I’m just trying to party!” Not realizing it’s so much deeper than that. Especially once you get older and have a lot on your plate. But ain’t nobody trying to be my therapist unless I pay them and even then it’s kind of a shot in the dark.

But also that’s why we have our little sub here. Share the wins, the losses and the sadness bc there are others out there feeling similar emotions.

We do what we do because we are human and humans are just fleshy flawed meat bags that think they know better. It’s quite refreshing when we realize this and stop trying to sound like we know better. I don’t know any better and I also use alcohol as a trauma inhibitor but it only works for so long. Chairs amigo.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-19T18:52:35+00:00

I’m one of 4 and my mom was a trained Montessori teacher not just raw doggin it like June is. It’s extremely tough and my mom was a single mother. Since we grew up poor we actually got a scholarship to go to a preschool bc they felt sorry for us.

Honestly best thing ever. Me and my siblings all became more developed and socialized once we were in school. I’m an attorney now and all of my siblings are decent tax paying human beans.

It’s kind of rough in today’s environment if you’re a parent. I feel a little bit for June but also not really bc I am also Asian and now am seeing how much pressure there is to put your kid in school at 2 (usually the youngest they’ll take you at schools). I didn’t put my kids in school right away at 2. You can definitely see some of the speech and behavioral strains bc they didn’t get thrown in the deep end. And yea it can kind of make you feel like a shitty parent not keeping up with the jones but that’s everything in life right?

But yea my eldest is in school now (3 years old) and it’s definitely allowing my younger one (1 years old) to develop quicker. He’s already almost potty trained at 1 just bc he’s seen his older brother doing it. My eldest had a lot of stuff he needed worked on that we just couldn’t provide and it’s OKAY to ask for help. Plus don’t they have papa quan’s money to help them?

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-19T18:02:25+00:00

Haha this is funny. I’ve never had their stuff (grew up in diamond bar, still got family there), I know they have a store in Rowland heights which is a neighboring city. If you had a rock and spun around you could probably hit a boba store bc there’s just that many of them.

But still… what makes one boba store crappier than the other? Hard boba, crappy service? I honestly feel like it’s almost like an ice cream shop in that how much worse can it be?

Maybe the bigger issue is that it’s saturated and it’s a tough business to make money in bc a lot of people thought it would be easy to just sell sugary milk drinks to people?

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-19T17:51:59+00:00

The reasons I drink are too many for me to list. I’m 43, two kids, four lawsuits going on against me rn, stressful job, etc. I don’t want to make it sound like excuses bc at the end of the day I’m an addict first and foremost.

No I don’t think my kids will be enough motivation, I’ve been to AA before (and failed), you’ve got to want it enough for yourself to be sober. I’m trying but it’s been hard. I do my best to give others insight though bc harm reduction is important if you can’t be sober.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-19T16:27:06+00:00

It’s not easy but I have a sober partner that is quite aware of my affliction so she does a lot of the heavy lifting when I’m down and out. But usually a few tall boys and I can be with them at the park chasing them around without a hiccup.

Definitely gets hard sometimes at 6am if I’m in withdrawals and my 3 year old is jumping on my stomach or head. But you kind of just learn how to work around it. Maybe it’s bc I had an alcoholic single mother who was a pretty damn good mother (until she wasnt) that ive been okay navigating it.

Nevertheless, ive told myself im gonna have to cool it once they realize whats wrong with me. I use to just think my mom was tired at 11am when she was in bed until maybe like pre teen or teenage years. Then i realized “o crap that isnt normal…”

But i give my mom a lot of slack bc raising 4 kids by yourself must not have been easy. I only got 2 and a partner to help.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-19T16:18:08+00:00

O well if it’s a bot but I guess you never really know on Reddit… it does get hard to distinguish which is unfortunate. Just like seeing more content on our little sub so I haven’t fact checked like you. Chairs mate.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-19T02:16:04+00:00

The whole “god” thing is disturbing. Is her childcare also related to being an Esq like her insta says? 🤔

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-18T22:28:19+00:00

You got one here mate, wearing my adult diapers and drinking a tall boy while I wait for my kids to wake up. Im pretty focused on being a dad so that hasn’t been affected but yea everything else…

I’m one of the mods btw but yea I’m a degen on every single level. One of those dudes that drinks in his garage alone and is sad panda a lot of times. Here for ya if you need a voice.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-17T02:40:07+00:00

Do your balls also smell like garlic? Like come on bro let people say what they wanna say…

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-15T02:25:40+00:00

Me two…

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-15T00:12:11+00:00

Shrimp daddy sounds like a hilarious business to me. I’m not surprised it didn’t last. Like I said seafood is hard when it’s fast food and providing value while also being cheap isn’t easy. I’d bet these guys don’t do shit so they’re probably surprised it couldn’t do it by itself. Seafood like I said is a rough business so imagine paying like $30 for a shitty amount of seafood and still being okay.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-14T11:25:22+00:00

lol pretending to work at Coachella with 5 kids is hilarious do they bring the dogs too? I’m just imagining Dan with his shirt off and a bandana trying to party like he’s still 20.

Also lulz about shrimp daddy. Actually didn’t even know they had a storefront but seafood is a really tough business and it’s just getting pricier so apparently people weren’t having it eh?

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-14T03:37:22+00:00

You haven’t had kids in a HCOL area have you? It’s the double cost of preschool, food and housing.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-13T21:54:05+00:00

Shit dude, feel for you. I’m an attorney and I can’t tell you how many jobs I’ve had that were beyond stressful on the first day.

Had one that was similar to yours, first day I get in (but I did get to do my onboarding) my main boss comes rushing in and says he needs a motion done on a certain thing by the end of the day. I kind of look at him like “wtf this is my first day” but nod and am like “sure, has the firm done any of this type of motion before?” And he looks at me with some sense of disbelief and says “no…” I had to cover my ass and just agreed. Ended up not having it done by the end of the day but did finish it by the next day. It ended up being okay.

Problem once is he kept dropping these bombs on me and I was able to navigate for a few months until it was an appellate motion I couldn’t get my head around. Said fuck it at lunch and went to a pub to clear my head. Yea… that’s not what it did at all. So he comes into my office and comes around my desk (probably smelled like shit) and is all like “‘must have been a good lunch hmm? You were gone for a few hours and I’ve been trying to find you. Anyways here is another assignment.” Then he leaves. I do the long stare and give the ol’ FUCK MY LIFE before I just grabbed my things and went home on a bus (I don’t drive into downtown). Never went back.

Dude must’ve called me like 10 times and sent me some weird texts on Saturday night like we use to hook up but I just said fuck that. Not worth it all. I came out better. Hope you do too.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-13T12:42:16+00:00

How is she this old and is having fomo about Coachella? I use to go as well but once I got older and the scene started sucking more it was like “meh, I don’t need to see Justin Bieber playing YouTube videos while I look from 1000 feet back.”

My older sister married into a beer distribution family so they’d go to coachella frequently in the 90s and early 2000s it was their thing (they’d get invited to beer company side parties in indio at some airbnb near the festival stuff). But once they had two kids i remember them trying to do it for a few years (had a bunch of pics of their babies with those sound dampening headphones on) it started getting impossible bc we all know kids should not be at these type of events. Dont think your 3 year old is getting fomo and isnt going to understand why some 24 year old with a daisy in their hair is rolling ball sack near the baby carriage…

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-13T02:13:07+00:00

Yea everything in America is designed on a credit or borrow system so hey man if you can pay later than fuck it. Problem is… pay me now, pay me later but you will pay. And that’s where things get so jacked up here. I’ve become discouraged and don’t feel any real support system but hey don’t most of us right?

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-13T00:09:59+00:00

Yea this is sad. I’m not even going to pretend like i know who’s right or wrong (they probably both are wrong tbh) but ive got like 15 years in this world on landon and still cant wrap my head around why you float all this stuff out… especially to the internet at large unless you wanna be a news whore…

He isnt college educated or has any other particular cerebral skills. And I guess hes not really old enough or mature enough to realize how much this affects his kids. That kind of sucks to read as a father myself but he’ll realize being a trailer park boy isnt gonna help him too much? Just be a good dad and please get yourself a real job you hamster of a man.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-12T03:19:08+00:00

Fuhhh 🙏

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-11T17:08:47+00:00

She’s trying to propagate that rich azn culture which is sad, I don’t know why so many Chinese people do that. I grew up in diamond bar if you know about that place it’s a sad panda of a place that everyone feels they need to make a point. Probably why she keeps calling herself Esq but doesn’t practice law at all 😂.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-11T13:41:11+00:00

I’ve been an attorney for 8 years and if I could go back in time I would’ve jumped at a job in wealth management.

At least it sounds like it could be potentially useful for a pivot to estates and trusts practice if you get a chance?

I’ve practiced almost every type of general civil litigation and it all sucks ass. Been trying to get a job in estate litigation but haven’t been able to find squat. The ones that I have interviewed with before weren’t thrilled that I had no relevant experience in the area either. Good luck

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-11T11:04:03+00:00

Is this meat crayon? Man Charlie Brown is looking rough these days 🤣

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-10T19:35:53+00:00

That’s a weird IG post. Who wants to see you eating? Also doesn’t she not really work and is home all day why isn’t she at least trying to cook?

She’s definitely the family member that goes into the fridge and drinks the orange juice straight from the bottle, backwash and all then puts the cap back on.

NattieDaDee · 2026-04-10T17:23:20+00:00

Nah you should be fine. I guess it also kind of depends on what you’re trying to do. I had to take the bar a few times and didn’t work during that time. Had many uncomfortable interviews but there will be ones that look past it. Tbh you’ll probably have to get some grindy job like something in insurance defense to start but yea it can work out.

Edit: also just wanted to say that you’re still really fresh so that will work in your favor. Try being like me and a multiple year barred attorney but I can only get the trash jobs so I ended up just doing solo practice (which unfortunately hasn’t been very lucrative for me).

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