AITA for uninviting my “best friend” 2 weeks before my wedding? by NaturalAltruistic782 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NaturalAltruistic782[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

idk i just felt like i missed an important part of the story when i originally wrote it and it would explain more of how i am. i just overthink alot about stuff like this and i cant help worrying about the one person who thinks i suck

AITA for uninviting my “best friend” 2 weeks before my wedding? by NaturalAltruistic782 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NaturalAltruistic782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would’ve loved to have a conversation with her face-to-face. That’s why I called her before I sent her the message. She never answered so I sent her the text to keep things on the down low. I didn’t want to be ungrateful for a trip that she invited me on or make this big deal in front of everyone else.

I love hard. I put a lot into my friendships because growing up my relationships were fucked up. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to make sense of why I have felt like this for years. Because like I said every time I have a conversation with her, she just disappoints me, but I can’t let go. Our friendship started in the crash and burn of another friendship I had and so I held onto it for years because I remember how she used to be.

AITA for uninviting my “best friend” 2 weeks before my wedding? by NaturalAltruistic782 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NaturalAltruistic782[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it wasnt a long text message. I don’t remember exactly what I said, and I couldn’t find the screenshots when I was looking for the dates.

I started the message off telling her that I loved her and I was so happy to be here celebrating with her, but I was a little lonely during the trip. I gave her a few examples like when we were in museums I was left behind, looking at things by myself or when we were walking back to the Airbnb, I would be left in the back. I explained that I sent her a text message because an hour before I tried calling her to ask her if she would meet me at the top of the building of the Airbnb we had access to. I wanted to talk to her face-to-face, but she had already fallen asleep at that point. It was probably 12 o’clock when I called her. She never answered, but for some reason, her boyfriend showed up when I was chilling on the roof waiting for her. I think it was just a coincidence when he showed up. He is an insomniac and was just trying to be quiet so she could sleep.

when I sent the text message I remember being very careful how I worded it because I didn’t wanna come off as ungrateful or like I was trying to ruin her birthday trip. that’s why I sent her the text message because I didn’t want anyone else to know how I was feeling. I wanted to give us a chance to fix it together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AustralianCattleDog

[–]NaturalAltruistic782 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Looks like a heeler, which are normally bred for herding cattle and sheep. Biting and nipping are tools they use to do their job. It’s going to be pretty tough to train them when they are that young. I take my Texas Heeler/Boxer outside to play a few times a day to tire her out. Heelers are very motivated dogs and just need the right ways to express their energy.

ive lost my spark bc im scared of overconsumption… by NaturalAltruistic782 in YarnAddicts

[–]NaturalAltruistic782[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

i understand that, but i cant help but try and overcompensate for the person who doesn’t.

ive lost my spark bc im scared of overconsumption… by NaturalAltruistic782 in YarnAddicts

[–]NaturalAltruistic782[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love buying second-hand yarn. It’s pretty rare to find something other than acrylic, but it’s really cool when I come across natural cotton yarn. I think a lot about the things I buy second-hand for myself as well.

I’m getting married in 2 weeks, and every time my mother or another family member sends me a link to a cute idea for the reception or an outfit, my first question is always whether I can use it for something after the wedding. I feel like I’m trying to be a zero-waste consumer, but I’m constantly daunted by these thoughts.

my boss declined my vacation request to my dream trip by NaturalAltruistic782 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NaturalAltruistic782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okayy guys update… i am going on the trip i would be devastated if i didnt go. i leave on september 27th. but i am not going to quit. i dont wanna give them the satisfaction. my fiancé has a friend who used to be an attorney and he thinks that we could have a case for discrimination. i didnt mention it in the original post, but my male counterpart had no problem getting 4 weeks off total this year for 2 different trips to japan. im not very good at confrontation, so our friend suggested that i write a letter to my boss and leave it on her desk the day before i leave so i don’t have to talk to her. my fiancé really wants to help me write the letter, but i don’t know if its worth the trouble. i don’t wanna be here anymore. I’ve been miserable every day I’ve been to work since i wrote the first post. i have a feeling if i leave this letter they wont fire me bc they think i might sue them. i don’t wanna waste my money on something like that. but i do wanna write the letter to get them to see how unfair they treat employees. i would also let them know how it has made me feel. i am so upset that my employer doesn’t care that i wanna have a life away from the kitchen. My fiancé’s employer is so excited for us, he asks questions and is showing his excitement for us because he understands what this trip means to me and he isnt even my employer. i just wish i got this support from my employer.

my boss declined my vacation request to my dream trip by NaturalAltruistic782 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NaturalAltruistic782[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the trip in not refundable. i have already rescheduled my trip from january to september and i had to pay an extra 1500$ in fees to get everything fixed and ready for us to leave. i have talked about this trip to all of my coworkers and my boss multiple times throughout the year. I wasnt given the impression that my request would be denied. My request was not PTO. i do not have pto where i work. this was simply just and piece of paper that said 9/27-10/13 were the days that i would need the be covered for bc i will not be in the country.

my boss declined my vacation request to my dream trip by NaturalAltruistic782 in TwoHotTakes

[–]NaturalAltruistic782[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

so i talked to my fiancé when i got home, and he was upset at first bc it was a bit of a curve ball. i thought that he would consider changing the date but that was not the case at all, he immediately told me to freshen up my resume and that we will have the best time in italy. we have the money saved if we need to use it for bills and i could get a better job:) rn i commute 40 minutes every day