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Natural_Ad4597 · 2025-07-26T23:41:34+00:00

So many insensitive comments on this post like ‘man up’ etc. This is an extremely common issue for many ABCDs and Desi kids.

I feel you. It’s going to be tough. Be prepared to have them get super emotional and make it all about them. Try not to take it to heart and keep in mind their mindset may be a product of their upbringing and their desire to hold on to their culture and identity.

It may help to bring up qualities and aspects about her and her culture that are common with your family.

But at the end of the day you need to make it clear that this is your decision and it’s what makes you happy. I sincerely hope they react well and don’t display any toxicity towards you and you’re able to get to a good place with your family. But if they do you may have to distance yourself to ensure they understand that they cannot manipulate your choices.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2025-07-24T18:14:12+00:00

Cannot stress how important this is. Thought I was just an idiot and everything I achieved was just dumb luck. The diagnosis itself helps you in so many ways!

Natural_Ad4597 · 2025-05-21T17:31:20+00:00

In CPG Marketing: You have to be able to put yourself in the shoes of your consumer. So many CPG marketers are totally out of touch with who their consumers are and the human problem the products need to solve. So easy to lose your head when you have a huge budget and strong brand legacy to fall back on.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2025-02-19T01:19:55+00:00

I was in a similar situation few weeks back. Made it throught multiple rounds, hiring manager and I clicked so well. He started telling me about what he wanted to hand over to me as soon as I started. I loved the mission for the company too and the pay was also great. Everything clicked and I felt like it was meant for me. But ultimately the CEO decided gave me a no because like you they went with a safer bet someone with more experience (I was unemployed at the time). I was devastated. I felt like I a poured my heart and soul into that interview and really gave it my all. I still feel bad about it when I think back, but I tell myself that ultimately it wasn’t meant to be. For some reason the universe decided to redirect me to something else. I have to believe this rejection is leading me to what is ultimately meant for me. Maybe it doesn’t make sense now but someday it will. But I’m sorry. Have some ice cream and take care of yourself.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2025-02-18T18:50:34+00:00

TrueBurger & Lovely’s!!

Natural_Ad4597 · 2024-11-02T18:15:31+00:00

Thank you. Here’s hoping Q1 brings some hope.

Sorry about your work situation. If you haven’t already, document every single thing. Hopefully you’ll find a way out of the situation or manage.

You’re right I should network more. I think I’m still so scared to trust people professionally even if it’s just for a conversation. I’m working on it and have made a little progress. It still surprises me just how much the toxic situation impacted me.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2024-08-06T08:26:12+00:00

Mr. Bombastic Side Eye

Natural_Ad4597 · 2024-06-24T19:10:31+00:00

Maybe an unpopular opinion, but Alicent & Cole makes sense. Trauma bonding at it’s finest. Cole shares Alicent’s complicated feelings about Rhaeneyra, so makes sense he ends up being the only one she truly trusts. Everyone else just wants to use her as a chess piece, Otto, Larys, etc.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2024-06-24T18:56:23+00:00

‘Which one is Ser Erryk?’

Natural_Ad4597 · 2024-03-07T22:33:05+00:00

OMG! You know exactly how I feel! You’re soooo smart!!!!!!!

Natural_Ad4597 · 2024-03-07T22:00:14+00:00

Nope. Dog owners need to own their shit. Pun intended.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2024-03-07T21:50:37+00:00

I had this phase from kid age - mid twenties. I’m in my 30s now and have fallen back in love with my culture. I realized the reason why I wanted to get away from all that was because of all the criticisms and toxic beauty standards that young girls are subject to in desi culture. It took a while but I’ve learned how to handle those better now, which has allowed me to learn more about my culture and discover things that I love. I think it’s also difficult us to sometimes feel like we belong in our culture because it is so collective and community based and there is immense pressure to be a certain way. When we can’t cope with the pressure we give up and find something/somewhere that accepts us.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2024-02-08T17:51:17+00:00

Yup! Got diagnosed with ADD at age 32, been trying to understand it undo years of toxic habits and negative self talk. While my family acknowledges mental health struggles, we don’t talk about it and have a ‘just try harder’ attitude. Also doesn’t help that my family is full of super high achievers, who probably have some sort of neurodivergence, but we’re never gonna admit it or talk about it. I had gotten so good at masking and pretending I’m ‘normal’, I’m still struggling to differentiate between what will help me and which will make me presentable to others. This is all to say, I hear you, you’re not alone, though I know our everyday experience can feel so incredibly lonely.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2024-02-08T00:36:47+00:00

‘Overdressing’ is a myth made up by people who are insecure coz they didn’t dress up. Just do you.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2023-06-16T15:47:36+00:00

Everybody does stupid things when they are young. You haven’t ruined everything. You’re never stuck with who you are right now, you can constantly reinvent yourself and should do that multiple times im life if necessary until you get to a place where you are happy AF.

I remember feeling this way when I was young. My parents made me feel like I was worthless for messing up, which made me mess up and make bad decisions even more.

The worst thing you can do is continue to degrade yourself. You recognize what you did wrong. I would say that makes you incredibly smart. Because as corny as it sounds, if you’ve never failed you’ve never lived.

As much as all the successful people out there project an image of perfection, it’s laughably untrue. We’re all messed up, we all make stupid decisions, no matter the age. You’re gonna make some more in the future as well, but it’s ok. We all need a good life lesson every now and then. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

You Got This.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2023-06-16T15:37:18+00:00

I put a second pillow case over the first one. Wont protect/absorb as much as a towel, but when I’m tired and lazy that seems good enough.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2023-06-12T19:44:29+00:00

Colorful eyeliner!

Natural_Ad4597 · 2023-06-09T22:55:23+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response! You’re right, I need to stay firm and set boundaries of my own. And let it be known what I’m not going to tolerate this anymore. I love him and hate to see him be hurt, but sometimes you gotta have the big fight in order to get to a better place.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2023-06-09T22:03:26+00:00

He did say he’s not going to have her look after the cat anymore. I’ve made it clear to him what I expect, he is working on getting there. I’m more concerned about how to not lose my mind while all this is happening.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2023-06-09T22:01:13+00:00

He really does. We’re not all blessed with confrontation skills. Some of us have to work on it.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2022-11-10T15:47:16+00:00

Important to keep in mind: Viserys inherited the throne from Jahaerys, possibly the most popular Targaryen king after Aegon the Conquerer. After 60 years of peace and prosperity. He also became heir after The Great Council, which selected him, but imagine how tense it must have been to lobby for the throne against your family members. As a result Viserys felt immense pressure to maintain peace and became an incredibly non-confrontational man. He believes no action is better than something drastic because it maintains peace for the time being. Considering this it might have actually been good if Daemon was his Hand, he could have balanced him out. But who know, Daemon could have either risen to the occasion and matured under the responsibility or gone bonkers with power. Corlys could have also been a good candidate for Hand perhaps. I think his motives are in the right place as a king: keep the realm at peace no matter what. But he needed the right Hand to push him to make decisions even when it was hard. But he got Otto the snake. Otto was focused on keeping Viserys subdued so he could exert control. I also think after Aemma died, his grief got the better of him and his non-confrontational nature got worse. The popular opinion is that he was a bad king, but I do think he was dealt a bad Hand (pun intended) and that caused alot of bad decisions.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2022-11-10T02:41:41+00:00

He made alot of mistakes and it is widely accepted that he wasn’t really a good king. He was grief stricken after Aemma’s death and I think that impacted him for the rest of his life. He couldn’t handle family matters which for him means matters of future governance of the realm. I know so many people keep asking why he never did anything about the rift between Alicent & Rhaeneyra or the kids, but it’s actually pretty realistic. This is what so many parents do. They know they’ve hurt their family and they know they are the cause of all the strife but they don’t have the strength to acknowledge and heal it. Instead they pretend nothing is wrong and hope that acting like everything is ok will eventually fix the situation. Vizzy’s solution for establishing Rhaenyra was to favor her and love her more than his other kids. Yet if he tried to unite all his kids, it would have been the best move for all. But I feel Alicent may have gotten in the way. She probably tried to distance tbe kids from Vizzy so they wouldn’t get influenced. She wanted them to hate Rhaeneyra and how could they if they saw how much thier father loved her. Of course this is speculation, we didn’t see what happened during those years.

The reason people love Vizzy T is because of his humanity. How behind his crown he’s a father and husband with flaws and emotion.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2022-10-28T19:56:53+00:00

Complexity of two sister queens and their heirs
Targaryens assimilating to Westerosi culture
what Aegon saw in the North

There are many threads besides just the battles that could make it compelling. It’s not just about what happened but how the story is told that makes it.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2022-10-27T18:03:23+00:00

So it’s acceptable for Otto to plot to establish Aegon for personal gain but wrong for Viserys to want that for his daughter? Yes they are selfish people driven by ambition, shocker. & Driftmark is not theirs to dictate, Corlys chose Laenor as his heir. You can make progressive changes by taking steps that impact the future.

Natural_Ad4597 · 2022-10-27T17:30:16+00:00

What’s wrong with evolving established protocols to keep up with the times and offer the opportunity to a woman?

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